so lets say i decide to throw a party, u went into detail on how to get into other peoples parties, but how do you throw one yourself?

To throw a party, you just gotta answer the 5 Ws, like in grade school:

Who
What
When
Where
Why

Who do you want there? Decide whether you want to pack the place, or just have a few friends over. It depends on how much space you have, but once you decide what you're trying to do invite the people. You can make a facebook event, text a few friends, or just knock on the doors of guys in your dorm to try to get something together.

What are you drinking? Can two cases of beer cover it, or do you need a keg? Will the women (as they usually do) want to drink liquor instead of beer? When you have an idea who is coming and how many, you can make the decision. The easiest solution to this is BYOB

When will you have the party? The weekend is the obvious choice, but you can pick a day if you're friends dont have early classes on the following day. Go by when major events tend to happen, too. If your school's frats are always throwing parties friday, make your event saturday unless you really think you can compete with them.

Where is the party? This is probably the most important, even over the Who section. The size of your venue, whether its a dorm room or a 3 story house or anything in between, will affect how many people can realistically attend, and that affects what you get for drinks.

Why should people care? You want to psyche people up other than "lets get wasted this weekend?" A Why can be a holiday, a theme, or an event. It's Halloween, let's drink! There was a snow day, let's drink! I just bought blacklights and covered the room in posters that glow under them, let's drink!

how do you guys suggest someone get into an already close and existing circle of friends. lets say im acquaintances with some and dont know the others.

Always have a genuine interest in the people from your social circle. Have a regular conversation and be nice to everybody that are connected to that certain friend of yours.

When your friend is invited to some kind of event, he will invite you too. If not, make a deal with him. Tell him you should invite each other to events whenever the possibility pops up.

That's what I did with a friend of mine, and it works wonderfully. Does this answer your question?

So am gonna be starting college soon, but my problem is that I haven't moved out, and am not planning to until next year at the least. Now I love sex as the next guy, but thats not the most important thing for me. I am improving myself and devloping a better soical life - because I wanna be the best that I can be. So am not asking this because I dont know where to take the girl so that I can have sex with her.

My question is how would you go about creating a social circle with massive depth and breadth despite not living in the dorms as the other guys? The main problem are the logistics - I wont be able to stay out as long as the others, I won't be with them as long as I don't live like a door away from them. Will this affect my social circle game? Are there ways to overcome them?

I totally agree, Ive been gaming in college hardcore using traditional methods and with women this is working fine but dudes are really getting pissed off. getting 1 min numbers and giving kisses on the cheeks in this minute is pissing people off. I just walk up to a party get my big IOI and its mine ppl are like wtf what a douche. And piss off one girl and uve pissed off a group. its like fucking big high school even at a major university.

Its getting hard to tell which girls know there value and which ones dont and this is leading to a fundamental problem, getting real hard to calibrate

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@Angelz: That will not be a problem, unless you make it one. If you're being social and friendly to everybody to the point where they want you at their parties (despite the fact that you can't stay for too long), they will actually miss you because you're not spending enough time with them. They see all their other friends at every step they take, but you are only there at certain occasions and you have to leave earlier.

Don't look at it through a bad perspective. Plan your logistics carefully. So you can't bring girls home? Ask the host of the party (who should be a good friend by now), if you can borrow his bed/room or whatever. If not, so what? Go outside! Just sit down and plan this through.

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@Jelly: People should NOT get pissed off over what you do. You know why they're pissed? My guess is that you're walking in to a party, flirting with all the girls, getting their numbers, making out with them, having sex with them, etc etc. Seems like the right thing to do, doesn't it? But you're forgetting something.

You NEED to show a genuine interest in EVERYBODY. Even the guys! Nobody is your enemy. Nobody is an "AMOG". Nobody is there to fuck up your life. They all just want to have a good time. Talk to the guys equally much as the girls! However, the flirting should stick to the girls only (unless... you know...).

When the guys become your, literally, good friends - they won't mind the fact that you're getting all the girls. Why? Because you're such a good friend that you will introduce them to girls and give them a little push. This actually benefits you!

Example: You're at a party and you see a VERY SEXY woman sitting with her friends and talking (college party, I assume?). You go up to them, you do your thing. The women will love you and enjoy your company. Then you tell your guy friends: Hey, let me introduce you to these lovely ladies (or however you phrase it). Your guy friends start talking to all the girls, giving you a PERFECT chance to pull your target away from the group and do whatever you want.

It's a win-win situation. You get isolation easier, the guys are pleased and won't get pissed off in the future - everybody's happy.

i sometimes find myself acting differently around the cooler social groups. im actually pretty friggin hilarious, but my true self doesnt really shine through..if you get that? So how can someone act more natural around the cooler people? if you say "act like youself", can u go into detail

Great post...

But here's something to emphasize, "be social and talk to everyone"....


I'm finally learning how to open random girls on campus. There is the south oval, where its a super long walkway that's like 20 feet wide. TONS of traffic, tons of girls. I try to walk slightly slower, so that when a girl is walking beside me (faster), I open. Today I opened one girl who was eating an apple, I started talking about how I love apples, they have super awesome vitamins, and our favorite flavors. Another girl had starbucks coffee, we talked about which kind of coffees we enjoy. And no I dont get "that ho's number", but its more of getting to know the girls on campus because I see them around, especially when we're leaving classes at the same time.

Yesterday there was a girl texting, so I pull out my phone, act like i'm texting, then bump into her. I say "watch where you're going!" and it opens well.

This is so nonchelaunt and not exactly a "cold approach" but she just happens to be beside me, and im a social dude. I just make observations. There was a girl getting water at the water fountain (filling her bottle up), and I say "water...... it's delicious... and quite necessary" and she bursts out laughing. We talked for 30 minutes. I got her name, and number.

It's just so easy to walk around and feel light. Feel good and have that swagger, where you are spreading good energy and have that aura about you. It really works. Before, i'd be that dude who is a bit nervous, and would cold approach a girl sitting down somewhere. That works, only if you're in the right mind state and NOT in that "pick up" go "hit on that bitch" routines. Thats a no no. Now I just feel SO GOOD and every girl I talk to just boosts my positive energy ten-fold.

It's all about spreading positive vibes, imo. That's what draws people/girls to you.

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Nice Im jealous, I cant figure out what it is thats stopping me from doing the class to class chatter but until I figure it out I cant do that.

@ Little Panda yea your right a lot of times I forget to shoot the shit with the guys, I walk up see a girl go get her then..just keep going. But yea I see your point going back thinking now parties where I didnt converse the guys well they were more pissed and I couldnt open as many girls. I'm an idiot sometimes

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1.Be social.
2.Participate in events.
3.Be friendly to everyone.

This three qualities describes all of my close friends...
Any other tips, to become more popular than they are?

Ok, here we go...
You gotta stop worrying about what people may or may not think of you. If you truly didn't care, you wouldn't get all "nervous and different" around the cool people. They are not super-humans. They are not better than you. Remember, you posses this knowledge - while they don't. I don't know how I can "explain" when I tell you to be yourself. Analyze yourself when you're around the "normal" people. How do you feel when you're around them? How does that feeling make you act?

Then try re-experiencing that feeling around cool people. Once you do, you won't have to worry about "being yourself" or not, because it will happen naturally.

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Tasty, your contribution is highly appreciated! I'm glad you're doing well. Keep up the good work.

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- You got the key components right there. Now the question is, HOW do you convey all those points? Remember that being in control, being the leader, being the alpha and shining with confidence is what will make you different from the others.

Now I don't expect you to "just become" all of those qualities. It takes practice, indeed. But as long as YOU organize everything and as long as YOU are the face of fun and excitement - your level of popularity will have a drastic difference from your friends.

Be the organizer. Be the one where fun is all about. With all the new attention that you will receive - confidence and alpha qualities will almost automatically appear!

Yh thanks, what you said really helps a lot. Now my question is, how do I prepare myself for college? I have a good 1 month still left until freshers, and I wanna be as prepared as I can be.
Stuff am doign right now are things like, getting a good sense of fashion - looking around internet, finding styles I like , seeing whats new and sort of creating a mental picture of how I want to present my self. Am going to go shopping soon, and get a whole new wardrobe. Also, I have started on a excersie programme - just trying to lose some weight, get my strength and stamina up - because I really wanna join a lot of sports clubs when am in Universtiy. In terms of games, I have done some research - I love Braddock's (lovesystems) information alot, his stuff about social cirlce game in college is gold!( And of course your thread as well) I have done a little inner game work with David Deangelo.

What else should I be doing? I would love it if you could show me some of the material that you have read? - Perhaps you can tell us about your time at college? Any problems you faced and how you overcame them? At this moment the starting is what scares me the most.

Angelz, all I have to say is: Keep doing EXACTLY what you're doing. That's PERFECT. Add this little key point and things will go so so so much smoother in college: Go out sarging. Approach women and talk to them. You don't have to get their numbers, you don't have to kiss them, you don't have to have sex with them - just TALK to them. Of course, lead things as far as they can get - but the point here is to practice social skills.

You have 1 month. I suggest you approach maybe 5 sets a day or so? No excuses. In the gym, at the club, in the coffee shop, etc etc. Just do it, together with everything else that you're doing.

In one month, you will have approached 150 sets! Imagine the improvement. This will help you because you won't have to get rejected and screw up in COLLEGE (getting a bad reputation...), because you will learn from all your mistakes in field by cold approaches.

Not to mention the improved social skills that you will receive, together with the improvement of your game in general.

I'm starting my first year of college monday. I live in a house with 4 other roommates, and I would like to have some advice.

I already made a thread about it, so just click on the link and read what I got to say about the situation.

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I would appreciate it if some people could help me and give advice on this matter.

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