Actually, I've become quite emotionally detached from this situation. Several weeks ago, I thought about it a lot but now it's become more of a field report and learning experience. Distance and no contact for so long has blunted the attraction I felt for her previously.

But I am interested in what kind of frame that you PUAs with more experience would adopt in this given situation. In this scenario, a girl has very blatantly ignored you twice after 3 months of pretty promising relations. She's no longer 'vanished', she just outright doesn't want to speak to you.

My instincts tell me that for me to act like nothing happened when she comes back would send the wrong message. At the same time, it would be value-suicide to even bring it up.

Isn't it better to demonstrate high value (more importantly, keep your dignity) by doing nothing when she comes back? Literally, don't call her or initiate any sort of contact. At some point, it's highly likely I'll run into her in small research classes. In that event, I intend on surrounding myself with my circle of friends (she has her own friends) and maybe confine it to a brief 'hi' if I have to. Basically, I'll leave any 're-opening' of contact to her.

But I'd like to know what seasoned PUAs would do.

I'm with the same train of thought like you - don't be jumping on her when she comes back but also don't give her hard time about it

And to be honest, the main reason i think shes not making any contact with you is because she met another guy or a fling there, and shes afraid of you being hurt or feel uncomfortable so she prefers not having any conversation for the meanwhile.

I had something similar before, when I had a lay the same day I just met that girl whom my friend introduced to me. I didn't even # close her after that.
She added me on facebook, every time we had a conversation it was very fluent and fun. After about two weeks when I tried to initiate a conversation she was cold and even tried to # close her on fb, but she refused. After a while I found that my buddy shtooped her and thats the reason she was acting like that.

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Well the vanishing mystery has been solved.

She got back today after 4 weeks and gave me the 'I had time think and we should just be friends.' text. She also wants to speak to me about it in person.

I think it's code for - 'I ended up falling for someone else'.

Can't help but think that I ended up doing all the hard work and warmed her up into an emotional state for some holidaying AFC. It was a good learning experience, and I think I held a good frame throughout the relationship but the timing was just plain crap.

I don't think there was anything else I could have done to prevent this situation from happening in the first place. Even the most exciting, high value demonstrating activities at home pale in comparison to the euphoria of overseas travel. It’s like girls forget everything happening at home and become emotionally open to anything when abroad, especially when going alone. Moral of the story: girl + solo vacation in Rio = hitched.

Unlucky situation really . It sounded like you done really well and she was starting to want more from the situation as in a relationship. She was probably built up to this point through your own personality and when she went to Rio she still had this state of mind.

Maybe she was disappointed that you didnt open up as she did. I like how you are taking it as a learning experience rather a personal one because that is what we are all here for ... to learn. Nothing should be taken personally.

Good luck

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