Lost my virginity at 12.

Im well over 250+ now, been married twice as well. Im 32.

I do it for two reasons, and two reasons only. I absolutely LOVE women, and they absolutely love me.

You are so busy "sour graping" life, ex_pat, that you are missing it as it flies by. Im not saying you have to be like me (or even that you could if you wanted to) but one day you will be old, and the only thing left in your life to sour grape will be yourself. Think on that one some.

To me, this is the sensible, adult attitude toward, well, just about everything. Self-satisfaction and self-determination are so much more important than "keeping score." For example, even though I am reconsidering my position on sex before marriage, I'm happy that I've waited this long to do so. Only within the last two years have I entered a phase of my life when I could see myself being a good father -- a personal criterion for whether or not I am ready to have sex.

Sure, I could feel foolish or inadequate about having had less sex than boys ten years my juniour, but why should I? I can choose my attitude about my circumstances. I feel satisfied with my decision to wait until now and when I decide to have sex, whether at marriage or earlier, I'll feel equally satisfied with that decision.

Generally speaking, this is the advice I'd give to anybody here: Don't let Game change who you want to be. (If you want to be somebody different from who you are, by all means, let Game be one of your tools for changing.) For example, I want to be a Christian who engages in sex only in loving, monogamous relationships, possibly even just in marriage. Game is helping to make me a more confident, attractive, interactive, engaging person. Those are all positive traits that I wish to incorporate. While being more sexual would make my life easier, perhaps better, that is not who I choose to be.

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Some vices miss what is right because they are deficient, others because they are excessive, in feelings or in actions, while virtue finds and chooses the mean.
Aristotle, Ethica Nichomachea