I am not trying to chew her out. Part of me wants to get more insight/knowledge. The other is that I had numerous girls do similar moves on me only to not return, so I kinda got a bad taste for that type of move. I am not saying it does not work or that RTTastic shouldn't carry it out. As far as her being right or not, it works for her so I see no reason why she needs to change what she is doing.

Girls in general tend to have various PUA aspects in/to them. Tho as some of the girls here said, they have trouble keeping and getting the guys that they do want to have a relationship with as well as keep in a relationship. And I think for girls at least learning more about PUA will help them in this area.

Wow...I really did stir something up in here didn't I?

As for the backhanded "What's your husband's name?" comment. It could have been Karl, Charlie, Greg or Cameron, but I broke it off just before they could propose. *shudder* I wasn't ready, and they weren't right for me. I'm not willing to settle.

Also, there has been some mention of me not letting the guy feel like he has control. That is the beauty. I seem completely in control in the situation, but I also let him have some element of control as well. But it has to be a healthy give and take for me. I don't want to be able to control a guy...I don't want to be more dominant. But I am what I am, so if he lets me be that dominant....I might not return after my "bathroom break."

Also, I guess I should get a guy's opinion on this. If a girl is talking to a guy, and really does not want to anymore (for one reason or another), would it be better to make up an excuse to leave the area and not come back or to say to him, "Hey, ya know....I thiink you kinda suck, so I'm going to leave now and not come back."

Something I've always struggled with. I don't like being MEAN to strangers, but I also have this crazy excessive need to be brutally honest.

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Hobbit says that I should tell you I'm female.....so.....

HI!!! I'm a Girl!

No need to be rude or mean, you can still be direct.

"You know, this just isnt working out, im gonna have to go now. Hope you understand, good luck.."

Experience has taught me, especially when dealing with AFCs that it dosn't matter what words you say, or in what tone, it comes out sounding to them like, "You are the worst guy in this bar, and I'd rather take a hot poker to the eye than chat with you anymore...." Even if the words that came out of my mouth were "hey, you're sweet, but not my type"

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Hobbit says that I should tell you I'm female.....so.....

HI!!! I'm a Girl!

Hello, I just wanted to say thanks to all the ladies who study pickup. About a week ago a ladie friend of mine said that all her friends like me and where always giving me hints. I or my friends never noticed. So, thanks for making things a little easier on us guys.

In response to your question, the correct way to respond is to continue to be friendly, but stop sending out sex signals. Make a new friend, and leave it at that. Saying "you're not my type" = I do not like you, go away. Just imagine if a guy said that to you? Adding on "you're sweet but" means that you were only interested in sex/a relationship, and since they are not your type you are no longer wanting to talk.

A confident guy will take it as teasing and banter back, (and you probably would not say this to such a guy anyway) but a less confident one will of course feel slighted.

So unless you're teasing, don't say it. Continue being friendly, go ahead and check out other guys, and don't respond to/give out romantic signals. It's perfectly normal to continue to talk to guys you aren't interested in!

In short, put him in the friend zone. Then if you really don't like him, just don't hang out with him and lose contact naturally.

So as long as the guy shows some dominance and control you will stick around?
If you said that line you more than likely piss off the guy and he will more than likely call you names. So unless you want that I would stay away from that line. As far as stopping the conversation, you could do the bathroom thing. The problem there is that he may seek you out. So its best to say that it was nice chatting with him and move on. That way he knows your not interested and he won't seek you out.
You can be honest without being mean, its all about word choice and how you say it.