Finally, somebody gets it.

Don't see how it makes me uptight to be a little bored when people are directly telling me that I look stupid.

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There are probably funny ways to do it. But saying "You look stupid, lol JK" is not it.

Maybe something more like "Stop the presses! I think Louis Vuitton has a new ironic fashion icon, right here!"

This is just lazy.

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See, now that I wouldn't mind. Me and my best friend do that all the time.

*I'm wearing a V neck*
Him: IS THAT A V NECK!?
Me: Are you in 2005? V necks are a must.
Him: Yea, in the gay community.
Me: Haha, nah. I look good. I'm pulling it off and you know it.
Him: I wish you would pull it off. I feel like I'm walking around with Freddy Mercury
Me: Sorry, is the guy who owns a flowery vest trying to start some shit that he can't handle?
Him: Flowers are gangster
Me: Still thinking about getting your nose pierced? Is that gangster, too? I'll tell Scarface that he'd better back the fuck up.

That's basically how we talk to eachother every day.

It's nothing to do with me not being able to take a joke... as you can see by how my friend said worse stuff and I didn't get offended. I've got a lot of time for funny shit, providing that it is just that... funny.

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See how your responses to your best friend were more bantery than to your family. No humor difference between someone asking "is that a vneck" and "are you wearing a shirt?" Yet you responded to your family in a more serious manner and respond to your friend in amore playful manner. So whose fault is it if the banter falls flat afterwards? Both your friend and family started off the same way but you took the conversations in different directions.

Yes, in text writing it'd seem like both were said the same way. My friend said it with a grin on his face. My family said it monotone with a plain look on their faces...

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Yeah, tbh, neither are funny to me. Your family's joke isnt funny to me, and your friend and yours back and forth just sounds like PUA banter competition which makes me cringe. But that's me. What I'm saying is, just enjoy yourself. Dont be the humor nazi where if something doesnt meet a threshold for you you cant enjoy it or laugh at it. If your family were insulting you, I'd get it, but they werent from what you wrote. Play around, joke back. Dont be the guy who is telling people that they are just trying to impress each other because you feel their joke was badly delivered. Don't look down on people who dont have your sensibilities, just enjoy interacting with people. All that matters is the vibe and having fun. If you deliver and genuinely funny joke and I deliver a lame joke, which matters more? Our vibe. Be sociable, be friendly. Its like the guy who says he only approaches tens, he is just limiting his enjoyment. And in most cases, he doesnt approach anyone. Humor is not something you should be rigid on.

PUA banter is different to normal banter? He's never heard of what a PUA is before lol.

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I agree with ya, neo.

You, thread starter, there is no need to be so serious, especially over something so petty. People would say that this is the sign of an ego of thin glass. Try to have fun. You will feel much better about the situation! No need to make enemy of friends, right?

I have to agree that the comments were not funny in the slightest and I wouldnt banter back or laugh particularly although I certainly wouldnt be bothered by it either. I sit very firmly in the camp of "if its funny il laugh, if it aint...I wont". Id never be a dick if someone was trying to be funny because its a testament to their character that they are even bothering TRYING to make you laugh but Im not going to entertain shit banter, best your getting is a smile.

Lets be honest it entirely depends who your bantering with and not what they say. If a crazy hot girl told me a shit joke Id probably laugh because shes so damn cute, if it was my manager id probably just frown and ignore him.

I'd be more likely to seek my managers approval than a hot girl lol. Shit jokes directed as insults though, they're in no way funny and the problem genuinely isn't my own, at all. I've not obliged to laugh at somebody's shit jokes, and I think it's ridiculous that people act like I am

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Yeah I'd probably laugh at a manager's bad joke over a hot girls too. JDaniels, you're not obligated to laugh at anything. I used to think as you do, that I wont laugh at stuff because the content was lame. I found it stupid that people were laughing at dumb jokes that weren't essentially funny. Then I realized that the real reason was because I just wasnt having fun in life. I was taking it too seriously. People were around me laughing at dumb stuff because they were in a good mood. It's like if you're in a good mood, you're not looking at things as insults. If you're having fun, you laugh easily, or at least dont get serious when someone says a bad joke. A happy person has something bad happen to them, and they find the humor it in, laugh it off and move on. An unhappy person has something bad happen and they take it too seriously. Now I'm not saying you're unhappy, just that whether you find something funny at the moment is more a reflection, not on the content, not even the people, but on YOU and your vibe and mood. Whether a joke is dumb or not, doesnt matter. Your 2 family members had fun, and were most likely in good moods. Thats the purpose behind a joke. It's not to say the intrinsically funniest thing with perfect delivery. It's to build a vibe and the people conversating to have fun and vibe.

Your mood defines how you take something. If youre in a good mood, you see this is "oh these family members are trying to joke, although badly....lets have fun and joke around" rather than "oh they are insulting me and the content of their jokes isnt even funny." When people say dont be serious, this is what they mean. Sometimes someone tells me a bad joke and I naturally laugh because the joke was bad. Ask yourself, what matters at the end of the day? Being the funniest guy in the room? Or just having fun? These 2 family members are "idiots"? Well they had fun. You didnt. It's not a positive that for you to find something funny it has to be at a higher level. In fact, its a detriment. Because if you can only enjoy yourself at high humor levels, then you're enjoying yourself less of the time than the idiot. The guy who can find a lame joke funny, is the guy people want to hang around more than the guy who NEEDS it to be very funny. Be able to have fun with most people, be able to laugh at lame jokes. Not to please someone, for yourself.

I have the ability to laugh at things that aren't funny. But I am in no way, at all, wrong for not pretending to laugh. That would imply that I've got something missing in my life, and I'm hoping to fill a hole by being false lol

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Never said to pretend something is funny. Let me ask you honestly, are you joking around with strangers at the checkout line? Are you joking with coworkers? Are you joking with friends? If you are then, when a family member makes a bad joke, you'll be less likely to go serious. Are you in a fun outgoing state, naturally. That doesnt mean going to the bar with some wings every weekend or some online dates. That means being able to vibe with people. If this is the state you are usually in, its near impossible to take this situation seriously.

Yes, I joke around with a lot of people. But as a guy on this thread said: "You look stupid lol jk" is either the banter of a moron, or the worlds standards have dropped dramatically and I'm an asshole for not thinking it's hilarious

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I was more having a rant than asking for any particular advice. I don't believe that it makes me abnormal for having higher standards regarding what I find funny. Are people just faking it because they consider it polite or do they have boring lives and find it hilarious? That's what confuses me.

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