Blunt is fine, but as soon as it turns to insulting and vulgarity aimed at another member, that's when the mods step in. Lets just drop it and be respectful of each other when giving criticism.

You can't possibly be certain of what is going on in some guy's life when you have never met him, all from one post, cause maybe his buddy really is in a situation that he wants to help him out with, but he doesn't know what to say and he's looking for advice. He might also be talking about himself, but you'll never prove it one way or the other.

Address the issues that people post about, don't insult other members, otherwise I have to send PMs, with warnings and such and that's just a big fucking pain in the ass. So do me this favor, make my life easier and be civil with each other.

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Kay. Despite the cock-knockery that has most of this thread bogged down, I'm going to try and help you out here.

Your buddy done fucked up. The dynamic for their relationship, the vibe they'd established, was almost entirely sexual in nature. She doesn't have feelings for your buddy. The only feelings she has for him are a little affection and sexual attraction. That's it. She doesn't want a relationship with him. She isn't in this for the connection. And when your buddy went all touchy-feely with his "I still have feelings for you" shit, the dynamic changed into uncomfortable territory for her. Until that point, it was fun, sexually charged, awesome. Now, it's uncomfortable. He's creeped her out (sudden changes in a relationship dynamic will do that to people), and it's no longer fun-happy-sexy times. It's "I can't do anything sexual with this guy or he's going to get attached."

This one's finished.

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To be truthful, I believe she really doesn't know what she wants. I've seen this before with girls having two guys, and there is normally something about both of them that distinguishes them from eachother. For example, one seems more reliable than the other. As you said, she said your buddy didn't seem like the type she wanted to be with. I know he probably wants her, but there are so many other HB out there that he could be with right now instead of wasting his time on a girl who doesn't know what she wants anyways.