You can take pick up in whatever direction you want, you can direct it at fucking a lot of girls, or you can take a higher road.

Make your goal higher than fucking women, but with your attitude, you are outcome dependent. You need to set high standards for yourself, even if the love of your life leaves you. Pick up is about improving you, not anybody else.

Focus more on generating real connection with the girls, genuine conversation, etc. While having sex with girls is certainly a numbers game, loving relationships are even more so. It's much rarer to find someone who will truly gel with you. Just keep doing what you are doing, and you will find one who is loyal to you.

What has also happened was that last year I was very into going out a lot and was going through girls one after the other. I happened to also meet her and realized that there was something a little more, however broke that off with her last year. My mindset last year was focused on the goal of getting good at picking up girls, so I saw her as just another girl obviously, that what is preached here and in the pickup community, however my goal had changed internally over the year, I just didn't know it, and failed to see that she was a rare gem who would actually be loyal and would add to my life greatly in a certain way. When I met her again this year my internal goal was to get her, as I found true value within having her as a gf, however I didn't know what I wanted externally, I thought I still wanted what I wanted last year, and so my behavior and my wants were completely incongruent. I was ready to have a gf but my behavior didn't show that because, hell, for the past year my behavior just spoke being a player. Therefore I only knew this type of behavior from myself and identified with it, but inside my want had changed. Unfortunately I didn't realize it quick enough.

Skills thanks for that, I will buy it off amazon this week and read it.