| I have heard the 'appalling' subject of this post so many times.
Look, for starters, usually what man think women want and what they think they want is not aligned with the reality. Our own perception of ourselves is not align with the reality, ever heard of anorexia!? The way they judge their own reflection?
All of us hold in our minds one way or the other an idealized version of ourselves, with other words, what we would like to look like if we had a saying in the matter. If you are having doubts about what i am talking about think about the imaginary fellow in the back of your mind that comes out to play every time you fantasize about some kind of 'perfect' scenario. Logically, you or any of us would go and compare ourselves with 'that', would come short, boom, instant dissatisfaction. But wait! From where did these 'norms' about oneself appearance came from, why is there something wrong with me if i don't match them?
The difference between us and the people that suffer from these kinds of psychological afflictions is that they over exaggerate this 'gap' and the subsequent reaction to it.
All this to say that this all amounts to one self-acceptance. Nail that down internally and the rest doesn't mean shit (easier saying than doing).
The majority of women who have their minds wrapped around social propaganda reinforced by movies, magazines and such (whish are not as mush as one may think), hook up and settle (momentarily, since i don't believe in monogamy) with all kinds of different guy's, read my words, DIFFERENT, NOT LESS. And with all kinds of different justifications to go along with. So, there is no need to lower standards, because oneself worth and its perceived value is not as restrict and definitive as it my seem...
And this comes from a 6'2 over 200 pounds ripped guy with a nice fitting mug to go along with, i will stop here since my intent is not to brag but just to make the point that the perfect looking guy that 'every' women seem to fantasize about is just that a fantasie, if they grab one he becomes real, human, average, defective and the dream crumbles to pieces, mush like the dog chasing the car. The same is true for the 'Jessica Alba' types, or any other women you consider as the pinnacle of beauty, the key word here is 'any', because is not the same for all of us, our goddesses and their gods are make in the image of all types of famous people, all of them with their discernible traits. A god/goddess like fantasie with all is implications is NOT a preference type, its an delusional hope of something unachievable, a caprice. And yet, just close enough to be desired.
Going one step further.
Any of us, with respect to everything, want the best. But is the best really that good?
Doesn't matter, the 'hope' it generates is what keep us going...
With all respect for your female friend, her thoughts in the the matter were merely an automatic pre-programmed response that would come out of any girl after 12 years old, who watched to mush western world television when she was growing up. However, she deserves credit for one thing. Don't whine about what you don't have, and especially, don't point fingers. That as tendency to kill attraction.
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