| First of all, thanks for taking the time to explain. Apparently i was barking at the wrong three (hope i'm using the correct meaning).
I still don't get quite right the different stages of amog, pua, afc, rafc, natural. The way i saw it, there were the ones who knew how to get laid and the ones who didn't, i grant you that there are different phases of 'illumination', or competence degrees, what have you, as is normal for everything.
And by the way, the pick up artistry, as it name says should IMHO impersonate more the subjective, relativistic sense of something that is indeed an art, as everything that is related to 'love' affairs should be. Not a science based in strict rules that follows some kind of methodology, i'm not bashing, i'm just pointing the potential limits of such a mind-set.
Anyways, i realize now that i may have a different understanding of what you guys in here call 'direct' and 'indirect'.
Have been watching simple pickup videos, and quite honestly found them retarded, i mean, props for approaching strangers in the street, but if the intent is to get anything from that other than a clumsy quick chat and a phone number, well, it will simply not happen. It's a pure number's game, there is a little bit of intent from the guy's part, but close to no investment from the girls part. They feel flattered as any women would, with the free, uncalled attention given to them, but the big majority of them will not follow the intended interaction forward.
With the the first PUA line you write in the post, found some Sacha guy videos, they are entertaining nonetheless, the dude appears somewhat like an esoteric, weird figure, the unicorn thing and the Borat voice are a must. Not as bad as simple pickup, actually some of his interactions have a chance for a future, but the fact remains, squeezing a random girl for a phone number is not a success in itself, many of them will still flake on him. I have use that kind of approach many times, but not with walking pass, busy girls, normally girls hanging around with whom i could spend some time, go for a coffee, a walk, to a shop, basically, a scenario were i could actually bond with them, doing this, the likelihood of being with them again would be very real, and so, a phone number a that stage will be expected as a mean to resume were we left off.
IMO, treating every girl the same challenges what i understand for 'seduction', everyone is different and should be treated accordingly. Our interaction with someone must be shaped by whatever makes them 'work'. That, i have learn, is the advantage of a seducer. Think the way a salesperson thinks, they cannot treat every client the same, not if they expect to appease their longings by offering what they crave, not what they need, or worst, what we think they need.
Now, coming to a women and saying she is beautiful, as a nice behind, etcetera. If they are friendly, will give you some kind of polite reply, that's it. She will brush it of, or get offended if she is short in self-love, framing you as some manipulative, opportunistic guy. No room to much here, unless you try to salvage the interaction by rephrasing your initial hit.
The way i learn, you should only compliment someone on something they feel insecure about. For example, considering a women we are trying to win the favor from, if she as nice eyes, and she knows it, pointing it will be mundane, could even carry the momentum to defeat your purpose. But if she as, for example, freckles, or a weird accent, or something external, like a passion for amature photography, and she as mixed thoughts about it, feels self-conscious. If you point it out, and not only are nice, but show dept into it. She will feel reassure by it, and, an emotional connection of some sorts will be born, she will therefore crave your attention in that subject, and even let some of her persona walls fall apart, so you can glimpse other traces of her life 'why's, so you can be empathic about and therefore strengthening your relationship.
Just one question, i'm having trouble grasping this, what stages of the interaction defines this 'direct vs indirect' thing?
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