Sorry for the thread hi-jack. . . I got a little confused.

That's awesome that she texted you back though.. . .Next time she gets in touch with you, try to make some concrete plans (i. e. specific date and time). Try to get her to do something that you would be doing anyway. You have to buy that pair of boots at the mall, but you can't decide which color to go with, remember? tell her "she can tag along if she promises to behave."

Well, I think what I've said here applies to both of you.

Wilde, a little background, maybe posting your text interactions would
give us a better idea of what is going on here.

Was it normal stuff like "How was your day?" ? Was it flirty? fun? Boring?

Also, what are your "plans" for Tuesday?

Short answer, I would leave it until Tuesday. Send out a quick text,
or call, let her know you are going out to do whatever it is you planned
and give her the option to tag along if she is still interested. Make it
YOUR show.

You may decide you want to keep things fresh with her to fill the
gap between now and Tuesday. That's fine I think. Just keep your
texts fun and playful and DO NOT even bring up your plans.




I read your FR. You made out with/number closed 2 girls, right? I
think you need to multi-task. Maybe try texting them both(or however
many you've met this week) at the same time and see which one
wins a date with you. Just a thought.

Very good plan. Stick with it.

i meant call her in the first place rather than all this texting BS. whatever happend to having the balls to actually call a girl?

The texts have been very fun/flirty definitely.

As I said, froze her out all day yesterday and I got a text late in the evening making small talk. I replied with something flirty and she texted back saying,

"So where have you been all day? Have you been playing hard to get? That works with me sometimes. x x x"

"Noo, not at all, though you were! xx"

"A little bit. My neck hurts, kiss it better. x x x" (She got her neck surface pierced the other day)

"Mwah"

"Thanks, that feels better now, i'm gonna go to bed now babe x x x"

"Night love, don't text me in the morning xx"

Got a text at 8.20am this morning:

"Why wasn't I supposed to text you this morning? x x x"

"So you would haha. xx"

She hasn't texted back yet but I know she's at work today.

Am I doing good or what?

Have you two fucked yet?

How is this relevant? (just curious)

Because by THAT text she is ready for it. Which could change the whole interaction between them. And, therefore, the advice.

not fucked yet. Haven't heard from her today since this morning. Whats the next step? Please consider also that I wanna see whats going on with our loose plans for tuesday eve.

Well, keep in mind . . . you have loose plans for Tuesday EVE, so you really don't HAVE to worry until Tuesday afternoon. And, I'm sure she won't wait that long to contact you. Just chill for a bit. Don't be clingy or needy.

I do wonder where she has placed you at this point though.

What do you think are the possibilities for where she might have placed me? And how to bring up the topic of the evening arrangement on Tuesday or whenever?

Well, depending on exactly how much sexual escalation there's been, you could be in the friend zone. I'm not saying you are, just saying it's possible. So, just be aware of that for now, and calibrate in an effort to keep yourself from going there, if you aren't already.

As far as bringing up the plans on Tuesday . . . just come out with it. Take the lead with it. If she says anything about that, let her know that you're busy and have to keep your schedule straight. Also, is SHE finalizing these plans or are YOU?

I'm finalising them.

Okay, way earlier (i'd actually forgotten I did this) today, I sent her a facebook message which read:

"You should probably stop playing it way cool. Yeah, it might normally be a good tactic but a. I can outcool you if necessary, and b. I have a very short attention span, if you get me. xx"

She replied:

"are you threatening me with your short attention span?

x"

I reply with what?

Ok. Grabbing the moment got the better of me.

I replied,

"I'm sure you don't want to find out, do you?

Tell me about your plans for this coming week beautiful.

xx"

She replied,

"I'm meeting with a young man to get something pierced!

yur plans?

x"

(I had said, when originally arranging this meeting that I want to get my conch, which for those of you who don't know what it is, is a part of your ear pierced.)

I replied,

"Oh wonderful. I'm meeting with a young lady who is going to accompany me to get something pierced. How strange we should have such similar plans! What time are you hoping to meet this young man and where?

xx"

She replies,

"eerrrm well, i dont reli no london that well, so he will have to choose!

x"

I then reply with a time and date suggestion.

Next step?

Ok, so in other words, you two are "faking" having other people with you, when in reality it's the two of you that you are talking about anyway. So, you just told her when and where to meet. In other words, you've set the meeting now. What else are you needing? You've got it all covered.

Not to sound like an ass with that statement, but seriously, what else are you looking for? Don't over analyze it man.