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Hey Ryan I got a question for you..
I started gaming a few weeks ago after I read MM. I would mostly go to bars/clubs but I recently attempted daygame and have run into this problem...
I will open a set on my college campus, neg the target, then get a conversation going. Sometimes I will number close but I can almost never get a 2nd date when I do close.
When I go to bars on the weekends I find it much easier to build comfort with girls because I have more time to spend with them. In the daytime people are busier since they have places to go, things to get done etc. So it's not like I have 30 mins to build comfort with a girl. How do I get around this?
I don't think building comfort is really the issue here.
The best ways to make your day 2s more solid are
(1) Get her to
invest more in the initial interaction
(2) Make your follow up
unique and interesting
(1) The ways to get her to invest more are:
(i) Using qualification effectively - use screening questions, banter, teasing, storytelling and questions-as-statements to try to bring out the qualities in her that you find interesting and attractive, and then give her a sincere compliment about the ones you actually like.
(ii) Set up the date before you get the number. If you've done (i) effectively, then you should have hit upon at least one common interest that you guys share. That's a perfect opportunity to say that you guys have to meet up soon for the purposes of sharing the enjoyment of that very common interest, whether it be going to a wine tasting or cooking class, checking out the new raw vegan cafe in your local area, seeing a great band perform live, or playing pool in a quirky dive bar. You don't even have to end up doing that particular thing - the important thing is that you're future projecting, so she's imagining herself doing things with you, and she feels much more committed to meeting you at a certain place and time to do something, than just agreeing to "meeting for a drink sometime."
(2) Following on from (1)(ii), if you don't get the chance to establish a common interest and set up the date based on that, then you've become just another guy texting her trying to get her out, regardless of how fun your initial approach was. That means you have to continue to hook her with unique and interesting shit until you get her out. You can choose to CALL - if you can have a fun conversation with plenty of banter and a funny story or two, then you can build more of a connection and get a day 2 towards the end of the call. OR, if you don't like the phone (a good idea is to practice so you ARE comfortable on the phone anyway!) or you're just too busy, then just make sure your initial texts GIVE value and ask for nothing in return. Just something random and funny initially. When she gets back to you, then is the time to invite her to something NO OTHER GUY is asking her to:
– Invite her to an open mic night at a local bar, where you challenge her to a poetry slam and have to read out a poem each and see who gets the most applause. Loser buys the round of drinks
– Take her on a "re-live your childhood" adventure where you go to an amusement park or arcade, followed by ice cream or frozen yoghurt
– Go on a walk around an area you love and know well, hitting a cafe, park or little gem or attraction that's not particularly well known.
Most of these ideas are free or relatively cheap, but they're fun, involve at least some movement, social interaction, the opportunity to "DHV," and, most importantly, are memorable, interesting, and will pique her curiosity and spike her emotions.
Combining (1) and (2) together should really help solidify your numbers, reduce flakes, and make the first few times you spend together memorable enough to ensure you can successfully close and hopefully date the women that you desire - let us know how it goes!
CHAT
