My lovely Zip, any clue as to how your to-do list is working at the moment?
Crazies sorted out?

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LOL Zip, I wasn't expecting a reply when I viewed this thread today. Good to see you being true to your word

Since I posted that, our chemistry has changed. We barely work together now because we're on different schedules. I think the last time I worked with her was a few days after I asked her out. She's just been so weird with me ever since to the point that it just turns me off. She doesn't give me kino anymore, she starts crappy conversations to break the ice, and she just doesn't approach me anymore.

Now, I still want to do her but I've been busy with another girl for the moment. What I'm curious about is... what's her deal? I just think she's being retarded but I want to understand her. Here's what I think: She doesn't want to lead me on so she's holding off the kino and the cool convos that we been having (she's naturally a big flirt who's touchy touchy with everyone). It's nice and pretty generous but it's sooooo wack. Does she really think she'll hurt my feelings?

Naturally, this has left me feeling kinda defensive and I have noticed that I have put my guard a bit when we do talk. I think this doesn't do any good for the both of us. I still want to make out with her but I care more about feeling and making her feel comfortable for the moment.

Now here's something that I find interesting. Whenever I happen to show up to my store, I always seem to catch her looking at me various times before we both ever say hi. Now what's up with that? You think it's a natural habit of hers or is she on to something? I barely talk to her now because I don't see any point in approaching her, which is a shame because our convos were really really fucking awesome. How do I break this ice so we can be in sync again?

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hi zip, i have been stalking this thread for a while, it seems great and have lots of insights. here is my question:

i was on an selling event days ago and i met two girls, so i start conversing with them and it came to a point i told them the outlook of my store is designed by me and so is the teams' costume. i try to say it in a playful manner and be cocky/arrogant about it. so do you think this type of bragging with good body language(alpha) is a DHV or DLV?

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It sounds like you've missed this window of opportunity and now things are awkward.
Here's the thing I'd try: Just be cordial to her, but do NOT let her affect you in any way. Be the exact opposite of someone who NEEDS her time or NEEDS her to talk to you. You've got this other girl, that's great. Concentrate on her or other women.

The flip-side to this is that it will make the other girl have to qualify to you for your attention. She'll wonder why she's not getting your time. As long as you keep on up'ing your value (socially, experience-wise, etc.) WITHOUT needing this girl at work, she'll become more attracted.

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DHV as long as you are being playfully cocky. Then back it up with some rapport or comfort. Remember, being a bit of an asshole is FINE at first as long as you can turn around and bring on the rapport.

Also keep this in mind: don't BRAG. A rich man doesn't say he's rich. Keep it arrogantly playful cocky funny. Tell the girls that that amazing design of the store and the costumes was totally all you. You have high hopes of being on project runway next season (with a wink and a smile.)

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It's so awesome that you're telling me this. This is exactly what's been happening. Whenever I see her, I act like her presence isn't going to stop me from doing my thing. Before you posted this, I just thought "Hey, why am I making this a burden to myself. That isn't sexy." And sexy is how I wanna feel when I vibe with this girl because I think we have great chemistry. I've been playing it cool while playfully negging her. On top of that, she also notice the hickey that I got from another girl so I think she knows that I'm not waiting for her. Since then she's been comfortable with me again and approaches me to qualify herself for my attention. I barely see her at girl so I always look forward to it whenever I do. Things should be interesting. I'll keep you updated!

I love asking you questions, Zip. I have another. Do girls get mad (to the point of being turned off) at guys if they don't cum? I figure that a girl loves for a guy to cum because it's a symbol of sexual satisfaction, but why does a girl go crazy if she cums minutes before a guy can get a chance to?

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I'm glad you're having fun with all this. Keep me updated!!!

As to your last question:

I don't normally answer questions about sex, but I will answer this because I am an EXPERT on this situation:

Most of the time (60%, guys) if a girl "cums" she is faking. This is not my statistic. This is the statistic if she's not married to you and she's fucking you. American women. They fake it. It's 90% when you first hook up, it goes down to 60% in a relationship. Trust me... I was one of those girls.

From the girl's perspective: It's not that we're trying to fool you. It's that we're trying to please you. If a guy that we're with doesn't think we climax, he projects that failure on us and we feel like fools. So we fake it.

I've rarely heard of an instance where a girl gets pissed if she's screwing a guy and he comes. Usually, that's our "white flag."

However, if you've got a girl that gets mad that you've come and she hasn't.... that's going to tell me this:

1.) She's an excellent faker... she's going to transpose her guilt for not mentally letting go and experiencing sex with you to the fullest (read FULLEST) effect and use YOU as the guilt pony.

2.) She's one of those rare girls who gets pleasure from most sexual experiences and gets pissed at what most girls get pissed at in middle school... that once we jack the guy off... he's not going to want to finger us.

Elaborating on point number two: Once guys get "theirs," we don't get "ours."

If you're coming and continuing to pleasure her orally, digitally, or even with the wang... I don't know what she's grumbling about. Unless she's some tantric princess who wants you to both come at the same time to unite your chakras.

Betting that she's not the tantric deity I'm thinking about... she's just mad that once you come... you're going to fall asleep, ask us to cook something, or watch TV.

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oh zip...
the question was what if the MAN doesn't cum.

Youth riot...you should probably consult your doctor about this. Inability to orgasm is relatively common in woman (10%) but in men it is so uncommon that it's usually indicative of an actual problem.

Doctor will probably get your thyroid gland and prostate checked, and if you take antidepressants consider changing them.

As for the question, there are some girls who are oversensitive after climax. You probably have one of those unlucky few.

I worded my question wrong. The situation that I'm currently going through is that it is me who isn't cumming.

Well, actually, It's not that I can't cum. I could and I have while I had sex but I usually take a lot longer than she does. My question is: How does a girl feel about that? And how do I tell her that there isn't a problem and that I'm highly attracted to her? I know she gets upset and tells me that she wants to please me. And she does! But she refuses to believe me because I take longer than she does.

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alright let me look at it again

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It's not going to be a positive feeling for her. She's going to feel:
1.) she's not sexually attractive enough to get you off
2.) her skills in bed aren't enough to get you off
3.) possibly frustrated because you're still working after she climaxes, which can be uncomfortable if the girl isn't used to having sex multiple times in a row.

And, really, if she's got low self esteem... nothing you say is going to convince her that the orgasm problem isn't HER fault.

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oh Zip my lovely, ur sig owns my first laugh of the day