Most of my success has been online, and I'm looking to change that, but this story is another one about online dating. Anyway, I've recently become interested in Mode One and decided to post an ad on a well-known internet message board stating my intentions and desires, specifically for a long-term, non-monogamous relationship with someone with specific attributes. I won't go into the details, but I made it clear what it was I wanted and expected, in regards to sex and dating.
The day after I posted my lengthy ad, I received a response (note: I haven't received any other messages since, even after reposting the same ad multiple times). She described herself a bit and sounded promising, so I replied and asked for her number and a good time to call. I was actually out having fun when she said to call, but I took a break and called her anyway.
We arranged to get together at a pub a couple days later. We didn't exchange photos before we met, but damn, she was a cutie! I had plans that evening, so it wasn't lengthy. Basically, we got to know each other for a bit across the table. I hate sitting across the table from someone, but it felt appropriate, given the circumstances of our meeting. The conversation wasn't scintillating, since she's more of the shy, quiet type, but she was smiling and responding very positively.
We changed seats after a bit and ended up sitting next to each other, and I put my arm around her. She responded positively to that, so after a few more minutes of chatting, I kissed her on the cheek. More positive response, so I tilted her head and kissed her full on the lips. We chatted and made out a bit more, and I had to leave. I walked her to her car, took her in my arms, and gave her a passionate kiss and told her we'd be in touch.
We made plans to meet up a couple days later. I told her I'd pick her up, and she agreed, but changed her mind and said she'd rather drive, so she asked me where we were going. I gave her the address of a bookstore (she's a bookworm). Later, she changed her mind again and wanted me to pick her up. I had a whole plan for the bookstore date, so I picked her up and started out as planned. After wandering around a bit, chatting about our favorite books and making out in various aisles, I held her in my arms and said, "You know, we don't have to stay in the bookstore all night." She got a big smile on her face and said OK.
There was zero resistance when I took her home with me. Straight to the bedroom, turned on some jazz, took my time with making out and removing her clothes, and she stayed over till I took her home early that morning. We've been seeing each other a few times a week since then, and she's just great! Whenever she comes over, she brings a six-pack of beer for me. She loves giving head, is very kinky, and will do pretty much whatever my sex-crazed brain comes up with.
If I'd met her randomly, I'd never think we'd have this kind of chemistry together. She looks like such a good little girl and dresses very conservatively. She's almost a decade younger than me and treats me like a king! She's told me I'm "so hot", and that she "could worship me". I feel I should mention that I'm overweight, bald, and frequently have problems in the bedroom, if you know what I mean. I'm renting a rather messy room in an overfilled house, and I'm not that great of a conversationalist. My sexual experience is very low, and she's the hottest girl I've ever been with, probably a little over an 8. She tells me she gets hit on a lot. Other than the coffee she ordered on our first meeting, the only things I've bought her were a couple really cheap bracelets I found on clearance a couple days ago that absolutely melted her heart.
I'm definitely going to keep seeing her, but I'm hoping to take this sort of approach into the real world and see what happens when I'm "upfront and straightforward" with women in person. Obviously, it won't always end this well, but if this is what happens when I'm honest with what I'm looking for, I can only see good things for my life, going forward.
Best of luck to you all!
CHAT