I just fucked a Japanese woman. That's sentence is all I'm going to 'show off', I'm doing this post mainly because someone asked for more tips in my email about Japanese women but I think everyone can use this. I will post many explicit and implicit tips along the story, and few more at the end. I won't stop into some things that have been said hundreds of times about body language etc, I assume anyone reading this has that mastered. This is about Japanese women.
DAY 1
Around 4 days ago, it was evening and I was starving. I entered some place at a train station in Japan, something between a cafe and a restaurant. I ordered my food and sat alone for eating it on a long bar (not the serving one). They gave me a little wet towel. I knew how to use it, but just wanted an excuse to open, so I asked the woman sitting next to me 'when are you supposed to use this?'. Body language, at approaching, is not much different than in Europe, but kino should be kept to a minimum on daygame on opening. So I was leaning back and giving a non-creepy smile. I had some food and some Japanese studying papers in front of me. She had some difficult Japanese papers, earphones and food in front of hers. There was one empty chair between us. This is approx the beginning.
ME: When are you supposed to use this? (pointing at the wet napkin with body language off her but middle eye contact )
HB: (Taking her earphones off, in Jap) what?
ME: (in bad JAP) This... before (hand gesture) or after (hand gesture with a smile. Gave her more body language)
HB: (JAP) What? (laughs)
ME: (JAP) Wait a second. (mysterious smile)
ME: (While looking at my mobile looking for the Japanese translator) (JAP) I am studying Japanese but it's difficult.
ME: (JAP) Should I use this before or after?
HB: (JAP) Ohhh, before and after
ME: Arigatou
I kept on my business (food+papers) for a couple of minutes, but she never put her earphones on. This was a way too big IOI to ignore it. So I reopened her. Cannot remember much of the conversation though, but I was heavily into C&F. This are a couple of things/routines that worked great after few minutes of the opener with Japanese women:
Japanese name routine. When I tell my name, Francisco (as you all can guess), I always point out that my name is the same as the city San Francisco but without the San. This way, apart of making it MUCH easier to remember a foreign 'complicated' name as mine, they associated my name and me with this awesome city. That's a proper short DHV if done right. Then, when they give me their name, it's my time to show interest. Each Japanese name has few Kanjis associated to them, so I ask for the meaning of each Kanji. This is normally the flow:
HB: What is your name? (maybe she doesn't ask it so I just say my name at some point)
ME: My name is Francisco.
HB: Francisco?/Fu-ra-n-shi-su-ko? (how my name is spelled in Japanese)
ME: Yes! (slight reward and MAYBE shoulder tap. If you do it, lean back afterwards) You know the city San Francisco? (hand out in parallel separated by 60cm approx in front of me) So my name is the same, but without the San (put hands a bit closer together). Francisco.
HB: Ohhh/I see... (typical Japanese sentence).
ME: What's your name?
HB: I'm Hot Babe.
ME: Cool, but I mean, what are the meaning of your name's Kanjis? (note the really small neg here).
HB: Hot stands for 'summer', Ba stands for 'Bird' and Be stands for 'Freedom' (or whatever she says).
ME: So you are a free bird who likes summer right? (smile) hahahah
HB: Hahahah nooo
Your culture. This also has 2 benefits. First, to make her not freak out if you make something improper, and second, to build rapport. This should be done in the comfort building part. If you DO insist in doing it before, don't keep it too long. Start light, C&F and with small kino.
So later on, short before I had to go, for reading her papers I moved to the chair next to her, giving her 0 good body language apart of the step closer. If you have time, I recommend watching all this serie of videos
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RV4A9KKjb3I and applying a light version of it in Japan. After a while more, we were holding eye contact enough so I tried to kiss close her. She turned away and looked around really fast. Each Japanese person is a different world. I *closed one on the subway 2 or 3 days before without problem and knowing her for 5 minutes and I had spent about 1 or 2 hours with this one and couldn't *close. On daygame, it really depends on the woman.
Shortly after, I realized (thought she didn't say it properly) that she freaked out because we were on public, not because she didn't want to kiss me. I was almost about to leave when I realized this, so I stayed around 10 mins more to build a lot of comfort and set up a day 2. Finished setting it up by email. Tried an instant date but she had work the next day.
DAY 2
I met her today. I was late, 10 mins. Don't be more late than that, and if you are, text her saying it. Here it's really rude. When I got there, I texted her saying where I was so she came to me, it's really difficult for me to differentiate Japanese faces, and she was much more gorgeous than the last time. I'd say first time I'd consider her a HB7, only for some chitchat, and today she was almost an HB9 and got confused by an AKB48 singer. Sorry, I forgot about no more bragging (;
We met at an unusual place for me, so I didn't know where specifically to go, but I know what serie of places work for me, so I just told her where I wanted to go and she said which places were good. This is the serie of places:
1. Dinner. It should be a restaurant where they put alcohol. Almost anywhere should work, but try to find the most private table on the place. It should be difficult though if you don't speak Japanese. This is the place where you build massive comfort, you show how funny you are and secure of yourself though you don't understand what the hell is going on around you (in Japanese). The normal thing here is to split, though she insisted in paying more. I let her as I don't mind. As always, don't make a drama of it. When you go out (normally restaurants aren't in the first floor here), after the few drinks and comfort build, the elevator out is the perfect place to first *close her. But at this point almost anywhere 'private' should work. It should cost you around 20/25€ or 25/30$. KINO: If you are 2 people siting side by side (actually strange in Japan), keep it light, but here it REALLY counts the calibration. If you are kinda private, you can try to *close her there, but only few soft kissese.
2. Purikura. So you got your first kiss in private. Great. Don't repeat it in public. Well, I actually, after the 1st one is secure, test it as you are sure she already likes you, but expect she not to be okay to be kissed in public. Then go to a place called Purikura. It's like a photo booth but AWESOME. I cannot express really how awesome it is, but anyway, if you are in Japan you MUST try it, so try it with her. Let her handle the logic of the machines. Then, when you are in for the pictures, at some of them (there are 6 top I think, I recommend trying in the 3rd or so), grab her head firmly and kiss her. It should be fast as there are like 4 ot 6 seconds between pictures. This will probably work great if you look for long term relationships, unluckily, I'm here only for 10 more days. It is also awesome. Later on, you have few minutes to edit the pictures (so she will stare at you kissing her). That place for editing them is also private, so you should kiss her there also. KINO: You should be making out already.
3. 'Walk'. No, not really a walk. As you are a good PUA, you should have find previously (something I learned the hard way) where are the Love Hotels, Rest Hotels, 1 Hour Hotel or any kind of hotel for a short time in the area. It's in Japanese, it's difficult, I know. I cannot do anything to help it. Just in case, MEMORIZE the symbols for 'hotel', which is ホテル. It will be displayed in vertical probably, first ホ then テ then ル. There might be something before and it's difficult to find them while walking.
4. Get in the Love Hotel. That sounded easy. But this is long. I will tell what some people recommended me and what I did. A friend who was in Japan with more people was told that, to get in a love hotel with a woman, you just need to 'push hard'. That even if she wants, she will never say yes. I didn't do this. Unfortunately, as that was what Japanese men/women expect to get in there, I cannot feel like I'm forcing someone to do that. So this is what I did ONCE and it worked: As we were walking in a really lonely street, there was a 'Rest hotel' near by. I said let's go in, while holding her hand and walking towards it, but she pulled back. I knew I had to pull forward but couldn't. So I went back to her and kissed her passionately. After making the kiss, she almost fell of the 'emotion/whatever', so I grabbed her. I insisted a couple of times more, arguing that we had time enough etc. It didn't work. So I was like, okay, let's go. Really cool with it on the outside, fucked in the inside. Then, still on the same street, we saw another. I wanted to fuck in Japan, but I couldn't force her to get in. So I alternated passionately kissing her with let's go in (alpha way actually, passionate kisses and changing dirty looks). Each time I broke the kiss for the 'lets go in' I felt how her resistance was lower and her excitement bigger. After about 10/15 minutes kissing on the street, we went in. She chose the room and we went in. Said 'only one hour' though, as she'd lose her train.
5. Get in bed. Put the condom. Fuck her.
Extra advice.
Japanese condoms are apparently small and you don't want any problem at this time, so bring the condom from your country.
I didn't experience any LMR, but I've heard (from who told me about the hard push them to get in) that there's a lot of LMR resistance. I hope to have found an effective way of dealing with it. But actually, LMR is what I was told to expect in bed. This are supposed to be the only 2 behaviors in bed from a Japanese woman: If she WANTS to fuck with you, she will say no and put some resistance, you just need to keep going. If she DOESN'T WANT to fuck with you, she will cry. After sleeping with this woman, I think this 2 behaviors can only come from forcing her to get in the hotel (that's really AFC for me). But I only have 1 lay report so I cannot really judge about that.
This is a daygame report. I have *closed many women at night in Roppongi and if I'm motivated I'll write about it tomorrow with some club advice, but I think it's not really worth it. I find day game more rewarding.
Daygame and Nightgame are REALLY different. I cannot stress that enough and this is obviously a daygame report. Here
i-love-tokyo-and-tokyo-loves-me-back-vt140969.html is a night report without too much advice, it was only my second night here.
Total money expent in the fclosing in Japan: 30$ dinner and drinks + 6$ purikura + 50$ love hotel = 86$. If you just want to get laid with a Japanese woman and don't care about moral stuff, I think there are cheaper w*** than that. Don't like the idea myself though. Also, one night out clubbing, including dinner and some alcohol, can cost you about the same.
Eye contact. I like heavy eye contact so I explain that in the part of the explanations of the cultural differences, at the same time that I explain how Japanese people looks a lot colder for not maintaining much eye contact.
Body language. If she hasn't drank anything, her face is conditioned to give IOD when whe feels IOI, so you cannot really differentiate from a real IOD from a masked IOI on her face. With other woman, I found a bit 'repulse' mouse really confusing. She wanted me and we made out few minutes later. So I'm not sure if I did something wrong, or the fact of she thinking about kissing me or whatever made her put that face as she was conditioned to. So, despite it's difficult, don't give too much importance to her FACE gestures. I learned this on time for this woman. Leaving her earphones off is a clear big IOI. Looking at you, giving you some eye contact (Japanese woman don't give much), or JUST speaking with you are small IOIs. If she laughs at your jokes, asks you questions or start the conversation after it dies, those are big IOIs. If she twistes her mouth, turns fast to her papers/whatever she is doing, that COULD be IOD. Or it could be preconditioning that she shouldn't be feeling good/excited with a random person she just met. After a while I decided to ignore the IODs and *closing when I have a fair amount of IOIs.
When she drinks something (fill her glass again if empty but stop if she is getting red lol), she becomes in the person she is. This sounds strange, but considering all the social conditioning in Japan about showing affection to 'strangers', it makes sense. In Europe/America you can find both, people shy who doesn't show how they feel or people who doesn't care and says what they think. Here it's more, people who fake how they really feel or people that doesn't say what they feel. If they drink a little bit (please, don't let yourself fall so low as to make her drunk and taking advantage of her), they start to show how they feel, give true IOIs, including the face, and really long eye contact.
Language: What you have probably read is truth, if you know 0 Japanese, you are pretty fucked. In a scale from 0 to 10, I'd say I know 1 or maybe 2 about Japanese. I feel that this fact limits me a lot. Id you are okay only *closing them and know no Japanese, go clubbing to Roppongi, there almost everyone speaks Japanese.
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