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A few weeks ago I thought it was time to earn some money. So I searched for a summer job (I’m 18 ). I wanted a job which gave me the oppurtinity to further enhance my social skills. So I decided a job in a bakery where you serve clients would be pretty usefull + close to home. (don't think you have this types of bakeries in America, so don't conclude that it's like a weird 'shop' with weird people)
By chance I have one good female friend (she's in my class) who works in a bakery (one of the more trendy and expensive bakeries). When she gave a party a while ago she introduced me to 2 of her 'colleagues' (the three of them are my age and also still students). When we started talking I told them I would like to work in the bakery. They said it would probably not work because the person who is in charge (a 43 male) is kind of a player and only wants girls to work in his bakeries (he owns 2). But they told me they would to their bests to convince the person who is the head of the bakery (a lovely older woman aka THE TARGET) in my town.
Soooooooo what happens next ?
My 3 female friends basically try to convince her by telling her how great, how funny and how handsome I am (I am actually am those three things). So they were basically throwing non -stop DHV's at my Target and doing a lot of the pick-up work for me (without knowing they were doing it). So after a while my target became curious about me because of al the good things she heard about me, so she decided to give me a chance, and she invited me to come to the bakery and fill in a job apply (just some basic info).
So the day of the appointment I try to look my best and enter the bakery with a smile and basically a lot of confidence. 2 of the 3 female friends I earlier mentioned were working at that time. So I begin to chitchat with both of them, make some jokes, be funny and just throwing in some more DHV's by saying things like 'I really had a great time last time we went to the club, too bad your friend could not make it because I could only arrange 5 free VIP entrance tickets'. I said this is a non-bragging way, and it was actually true (I don't tell DHV-stories that did not happen to me, I consider this lying).
I made sure my target could hear this and when she came over I greeted her and she gave me the form to fill in. I calmly filled in the form and was not sure how I should answer the question 'Why do you want to work for us ?'. So she came over, looked at my job application and said: 'oh nevermind, you don't have to fill in that question'. She said this in an IOI kind of way. She grabs the paper says she will definitely contact me and gives me a golden smile.
When I first saw her, I was instantly attracted to her. So when I gave my form back to her and left the store, I said to my female friend in a text message 'wow, TARGETS NAME is so pretty, I think i'm in love but don't tell her though'.
I figured if I added the 'but don't tell her though' she would do the exact opposite. And guess what ... she did tell her.
So I get a text back from my female friend 'haha I told her, she thinks you're good-looking'.
In the following weeks I see my 3 female friends a few times. I tell them I think my future boss (=my target) is hot and say to them in a joking manner 'She'd better have sex with me when I get accepted to work for her', and they answer this by telling me she is actually the type of person who would have sex with me for real. They add that my target was really in to me and that she said multiple times that I was good-looking etc. . I ask them more info about my target, and also asked them how old she was. They reply by saying they do not know but they guess she is around 25. (My thoughts: AWESOME)
Then adversity hits me. One of my 3 female friends tells me I'm not accepted because the upper boss (the 43 year old playah) does not want guys to work in his shop.
But my female friend adds: 'hey but here's the good new. My boss has invited you to come to her birthday dinner she gives for colleagues only.'
So again I get a little bit excited.
When I got rejected to work in the bakery, I was looking for another job. After a while a found one. It was a job for three weeks and I had to get up early every day. So I tell to my female friend who tells to her boss (my target) that I'm not coming to her birthday thingy because I have to work the next day.
Her boss tells to my female friend who tells to me that I HAVE to come, and that her birthday is only once a year and blablabla.
I reply to my friend who tells to her boss (yes our contact was indirect) that I do want to come but it's just to far and I don't have my SPAM yet.
So her boss answers by saying, no problem I will take care of that, I will arrange a ride for him.
As her birthday party comes closer, I do not hear from her again. So I request her phone number and send her a text (second time direct contact) 'Hey, I heard I was invited to your dinner party, is this right ? What do you want for your birthday ? x'
She replies : 'Ow hey, just take yourself with u to the party and I am more then happy haha x'
Afterwards we send each other a couple more text messages (nothing interesting).
Then the day of the dinner.
It was at the home of one of her friends and there were roughly 20 people, 10 were around my age, 10 (including the target weren't). Except from the target I did only knew my three female friends over there.
So we arrive (a colleague who I did not know drove me there along with 2 of my 3 female friends) at the dinner party. Everyone except for my target is sitting outside at a table and I greet them all one by one and introduce myself. I go to the kitchen (where my target is located) and greet her (I was not alone with her). She gives me a hug rightaway (in Belgium we greet eachother with a kiss on the cheek, hugs are rarely given between ‘only’ friends). We chat and flirt for a little and I go back outside and sit at the table. I socialize with everyone and get to know everyone etc.
My target joins us, we hardly talk (we were at opposites sides of the table) and I just have fun an enjoy the dinner etc. This was also the akward but exciting moment that I found out about her true age. Upon till now I did not know her true age and thought she was 25. Boy … was I wrong. When someone asked her something like ‘how old are you’, she answered dead serious ‘33’. It was not like a joke or something. And indeed someone confirmed it afterwards, she was becoming 33.
When the dinner is done and my target starts cleaning up the table I offer her my help (tactical decision to spend one on one time with her). Too bad I was not the only one to offer her my help.
So we start bringing the plates etc to the kitchen with a group of 5 people, and whenever there was a chance my target starts kissing me on the cheek randomly now and then, and we flirt and chat a few words when we cross each other. Finally everything is cleaned up and me and her are the only one standing in the kitchen … until a second later someone joins us. We start flirting while the other person is being ignored and she says ‘Hey My name, you know I love you, right ?’ in a joking, playful manner so I reply to her very calmly ‘I love you 2 name target, but I guess you already knew’, She laughs. A Fourth person runs into the kitchen, things start getting akward and we split up. Half an hour later I leave, I kiss her on the cheek and say ‘so, see you next time I guess ?’ she replies ‘hehe, you have my number *wink* ‘
On my way home I send her a text ‘Thx for the invite, hope you had a good time’ .. no reply …. I go to bed and hope she is already sleeping (she had to work at 6 in the morning)and didn’t see my text
Next day I wake up … Still no message … I go to work send my female friend a message ‘I know you’re gonna laugh but I kinda have a crush on my target’ , we text a little more and I find out about my target having a boyfriend for the past 7 years, but they don’t have a healthy relationship. And she is willing to cheat on her boyfriend, and has apparently already done so in the past.
Then I get the golden text from my target : ‘Hey, it was my pleasure to invite you, thanks for coming and for helping out with bringing all the plates to the kitchen etc., We should hang out some time, don’t we ? We had little opportunities last night to really talk because of me being busy and because of people always being around. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx love you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx ps: I’ll do my best to hire you in the bakery anyway’
My first thought: ‘AWESOME’
My second thought: Might this be a joke ?
I send her a text back, ‘hehe np, we should definitely meet up, but don’t have a lot of time in the upcoming weeks because of travelling so we’ll meet up next month x’
She does not reply.
After 3 hours she sends text ‘xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx’
I reply her by saying ‘oh btw, are you single ? x’ (pretending I do not know)
She answers ‘Unfortunately I have, but we argue a lot blablabla’ (underlieing message: I’m willing to cheat on him)
We send a couple more text messages until I answered with a dead end message and the communication stopped.
When I go to bed I send her a text ‘Sleep Thight ’
She replies : ‘Sweet dreams xx Thx xx
That was yesterday.
Today I decided not to send her any text message until she texted me. Unfortunately she did not send me any so far … and I’m afraid she won’t send me any at all.
Do I continue not to start any communication at all and see if she contacts me, and if she doesn’t after 2 weeks send her a text to meet up, or what do I do ………….. suggestions ?
Oh btw, I’m not single, but I don’t care right now
For some reason I do not care about my gf anymore and all I think of is the 33 year old. I'm not sure if this is just a crush and a desire to just reach 'the unexpected' or if its more than that
I admit it's very odd considering our age difference .. If anyone has had this experience before, please tell me
Oh btw, I do not want to be in a relationship with her, that would only be akward for the both of us. I'm more looking for a friend with benefits, who you appreciate and like but with no commitments whatsoever.
Note: She is a a flirty/playful type of person. But me good female friends who has been colleagues with my target for over a year said ‘she is always flirty and playful with everyone, but with you it’s different, she seems to be more playful/flirty than usual’
CHAT