Gentlemen,

Welcome to my journal. This will serve as a medium for me to post successes, failures and to track my progress in becoming a successful womanizer.

About the author

I will go by the pseudonym of Hopeless Romantic from here on out. Keeping this short and sweet; 20 years old, recovering from a disastrous breakup with a girlfriend of 1 year. Used and abused since then and suffering from a pretty sad dry spell. No real slouch in the dating department, however there is definitely considerable room for improvement. Massive advocate of natural game.


Issues to address

1) My biggest sicking point would have to be approaching and opening. I suffer from AA and am looking to control (if not, eliminate) this and start approaching.
2) Eliminate negative views on myself and my insecurities. This alone will skyrocket my confidence and the way I view things.
3) Become a closer. I find that I have opportunities all around me and yet, I fail to close. Whether it be egotistical bullshit or just lack of confidence, this must be addressed and rectified.
4) Build an aura. I'd like to be the guy that has an aura and demands attention wherever he is. The man that all guys want to be and the man all girls want to be with. The guy with charisma and the guy that is so self assured. Probably the overall goal I am working towards achieving.


How I will approach my journey

Ultimately, the only way to improve is to go out infield and approach. There are no two ways about this. I will begin by completing Styles 30 Day Challenge. I feel this is the perfect starting place for my journey, as it will give me a rock solid foundation to build upon.

I've read every book on attraction and seduction, so the knowledge is stored in my head, I just need to implement in the real world. I now know that I do not wish to use any scripted/canned routines or lines, as that'll cause me to over think. Rather, I want to feel it in the moment, trust my instinct and trust that I will know what to say and do in the situation at hand.


I am open to criticisms and critiques and will take all information on board, so feel more than free to comment here on my posts. I look forward to this journey. Keep a look out for the first 30 Day Challenge mission.

-Hopeless Romantic

mare this is awsome..if anything..i hope to do this in the coming weeks..
im 23 and not shit with girls, but i wish i had more options..i do kinda hesitate because of AA too..

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"oh just fuck them already"

Stylelife 30 Day Challenge

Mission 1:

1. Write one or two sentences describing how you believe other people currently perceive you.

I believe people believe me as the nice, funny guy. The guy that everyone can depend on, will listen to and will be friends with.

2.Write one or two sentences describing how you'd like to be perceived by others.

I’d like to still be perceived as a nice and funny guy, but also a man that is sexual and dominant. Not someone that will just listen to your problems and be your friend, rather a man that makes you forget your problems and considerably improves your lifestyle. The man that is always the centre of attention, can make you believe in anything you desire, makes you proud to be around and provides a bounty of fun and great sex.

3. List three of your behaviours or characteristics you would like to change.

i. Neediness. I always have the needy feeling of wanting to be accepted and striving to be the one that everyone loves. I’d rather just be. Not focusing so much attention on people pleasing and doing what I want, rather than following the crowd because it’s popular.

ii. Outcome dependent. Not being dependent on an outcome from a situation and hoping that it works out, but instead having the confidence that it will turn out the way I want it. Having a positive and confident mindset will allow me to free up my thoughts and further increase the probability of success in all outcomes.

iii. Nervousness. This is a killer. Losing all nervousness and changing that with inner confidence would be ideal. Act confident, be confident.


4. List three new behaviours or characteristics you would like to adopt.

i. Dominance. I’d like to be the dominant man, but not over-powering. I like my laid back personality and do not wish to change that; however being laid back and being dominant should be able to go hand-in-hand. Controlling the frame and leading conversations to what I enjoy and to the outcome I want as an example.

ii. Sexual confidence. By very nature, I am a very sexual person. I have a high sex drive, so bringing this into the conversations I have with women will increase the sexual tension. Learning to do this smoothly as opposed to looking like a creep is key. Tactics such as kino, teasing and sexual innuendo are what is needed (this is not to say that I don’t implement already, but I’d like to improve upon that).

iii. Leader of men. I have much experience as a leader, however I’d like to fully adopt and implement that into my personality. I generally take a backseat in my social group and an much more an “invitee” than an “inviter”.


Things to learn:

- This lesson made me think about myself deep down inside. What is it that I really what out of the 30 Day Challenge and my journey overall? I'm not out to be the greatest seducer in the world, however the confidence that I'll gain through this journey will help immensely not just in my love life, but in other areas too!

- I have some deep seeded anxiousness, nervousness, insecurities and lack of confidence around women I find attractive. Examples of this are shown to me everyday. My job consists of myself traveling to different sites everyday, talking to differing people non-stop. I feel fine when talking to the older people, however when I am confronted by an attractive girl, I sort of freeze up, even though I am an expert at what I do. Simple things, such as perfect my look, clearing up my skin etc will help with my inner confidence (as shallow as that sounds). Every little bit counts. Once I know exactly how to control my emotions (through the cold approach of attractive women) I believe this issue will rectify itself.

- I am definitely taking this seriously. Trying not to compare initial results with those around me and knowing that, yes, some guys can get lucky, but I'd prefer to know that all this will help me inevitably become the man that all the women want. Let the game begin!
Thanks for the kind words. Will be looking out for your journal when you start. Wish you the best of luck.

Mission 2 will be completed tomorrow morning and posted sometime during the day.

-Hopeless Romantic

Stylelife 30 Day Challenge

Mission 2: Read and destroy

Today is about destroying limiting beliefs. Style has given a very simple way to do this written inside his manifesto, which I will be implementing.

It was a very good read. Sometimes, it just takes an outside perspective to realise that things aren't as bad as they see, that the whole world isn't against you and that you're not completely inhibited in the dating game.

Never one to put people down, but Style definitely epitomizes the less than good looking man. But, to be named, at one stage, the worlds best pickup artist destroys the belief that you have to be good looking to be attractive to women. It really is all in your head. It's time to for me to get out of my head and start being!

The Challenge

To destroy my self limiting beliefs.

- Was there ever a time you were comfortable around women? YES! I was a womanizer in my primary school years. What's changed? Apart from maturing, getting taller and putting on weight, not a great deal. Embrace the inner 9 year old and you will be happy. Belief destroyed!

- Was there ever a time where you were told by a woman that you were attractive? YES! Almost every weekend I get at least one girl saying I'm cute or I'm hot. Believe it, because it's coming from the tail we're chasing. Belief destroyed!

- Was there ever a time you were really confident in yourself? YES! After chasing and dating some of the most beautiful girls I've ever met and getting up in front of 1000+ people crowds, I think there is some level of inner confidence. Being in front of large crowds and laying myself on the line takes some self confidence. Belief destroyed!

I could keep going, but I have to shoot off to work. Productive mission! The excitement is growing! Game well and truely on!

-Hopeless Romantic

Stylelife 30 Day Challenge

Mission 3: Operation Small Talk

This is where the hesitation and self-consciousness really starts to hit. My first, and major, sticking point would have to be opening. However, this must be overcome. Will take small steps and start off small. Utilize the social nature of my job.

I'll chalk this one up as a win, but only JUST. Give myself some leeway, but from now on it's strict as.

The Challenge

Make small talk with 5 strangers.

I spoke to well over 5 strangers today, which may seem like an obvious success. However, I feel as if I have cheated on this one, as the people I spoke to (mostly) were expecting company. Though, to be fair, I wasn't there to talk, I was there to do a job.

No openers, just "Hi, how are you?" and "Been busy today?" Just lame, small talk stuff. Nice and easy! They were receptive, answered my questions and attempted to keep the conversation going. I was friendly, with a smile on my face, attempting to make some jokes and some of them hit. Just free-styling it!

Side note, I kind of messed up day one haha. So day 1 took about 3 days. Never to mind, day 2 will be up soon!

-Hopeless Romantic.

Stylelife 30 Day Challenge

Day 2 - Mission 1: Set your goals.

Today's mission was about setting goals and knowing when you've achieved them. When I look back on them in the future, I'll know whether or not I really wanted to achieve these and whether or not I found the motivation to do it.

1. What three accomplishments would you like to achieve to make you happier?

i. Find and begin a successful and rewarding career that will keep me happy.
ii. Craft an attractive, fun and rewarding lifestyle.
iii. Become financially free.


2. What are the reasons these accomplishments will make you happier?

i. It will give me a better and more profound reason to get out of bed in the morning and really give my life some more meaning. Keep myself mentally active with challenging and rewarding tasks and feel a sense of great achievement when the pay cheque comes.

ii. It’ll help me to relax and have more fun, with fun and amazing people that I meet along the way.

iii. Free up my time to work because I want to, not because I have to. To indulge in my rewarding career without stress and live my attractive lifestyle freely.

3. What is your personal mission?

I will become “the man” who will achieve his accomplishments within 2 years.

4. List three specific results that will let you know that you've accomplished your mission.

i. I will have started an electrical apprenticeship.

ii. I will have an amazing social life, surrounded by amazing people and have beautiful women fighting for my attention.

iii. I will have earned enough money to pay off a house, car and no debts.

5. Why are you now fully committed to pursuing your personal mission? Because if I don’t pursue it now, I will continue to suffer over the next 2 years and:

i. My confidence, self-belief and attitude towards myself will get worse.
ii. My career will halt at its prime time.
iii. My social and dating life will suffer.


But if I do pursue it now, I will enjoy the next years 2 and:

i. My confidence, self-belief and attitude towards myself will improve.
ii. My dream career will become true.
iii. My social and dating life will be unstoppable!


Mission 2: Look into their eyes

This mission was all about eye contact. The goal was to, again, make small talk with 5 strangers but this time, remember their eye colours.

1) Opened up a barista, just by simply asking if the coffee he just made was mine. Simple and straight to the point. He said no, but mine was next. (Green eyes)

2) Opened an accountant, just by simply saying "Hi". She returned the pleasantry, and I responded with "How are you?" She just smiled and didn't respond, because she had to take a phone call. She later came in and we started some small talk. (Brown eyes)

3) Video store girl, opened her by asking a question about a tv series I am after (Californication, can't get enough of it!) She told me the release date. I then winked and said "Can't wait!" (Brown eyes)

4) Barista #2, opened her by asking her how her day was. She said it was good, I returned with the same and ordered my coffee. She brought it over. I had the coffee by myself, then walked over to her and complimented her on her skills. She smiled, said thanks and I wished her a good day. (Brown eyes)

5) Bottleshop man. Simply said "Hi", paid for my stuff and left. (Blue eyes).

I think this is progress. I managed to get strangers talking somewhat, which is good. Not trying to take anything away from myself. Every bit of praise goes a long way.

Things to learn

- People are willing to talk. Go about it the right way.
- It is MUCH easier to open when you legitimately want to know something. Openers about things you may end up Googling could be an idea.
- When you're out of state, you're really out of state. The last "approach" was the worst! He was talkative, I was just tired and wanted to get home. Oops.
-Day game takes a lot of confidence and a lot of balls. To master this really means mastering pickup.
- Eye contact can be powerful, but you need to de-sensitize yourself because initially it feels uncomfortable.

Finding it very hard still to approach. C'MON! Get your shit together and get out of your head. Just a simple hi to a stranger or question won't kill you. This is the most frustrating part. I can small talk once I'm in, but getting in is the hardest part. Practice makes perfect.

Day 3 will begin soon. See you in field!

-Hopeless Romantic.

I forever have the poor feeling of scarce to be straight and gritty to be the one that each one loves

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So, it's been well over 2 weeks since my last post. I am disappointed in my effort so far, well below par. Have not been out and about very much, which is not good!

I'm in my head at the moment. I have a girl who I am keen on and she is keen back, however I am trying not to let this stop me from improving. There is always room for improvement and always things to learn.

In the next few days I'll be having a good hard look at myself and really try and find some more motivation. Feeling like I'm worth it would be a good start.

In the meantime, it's just small talk, small talk, small talk!
Don't I know it!



More to come.

I've decided I want to take one a more "direct" approach to pickup, rather than the old fashioned indirect, under the radar approach. I like to sweep women off their feet and charm them. I feel it's more honest can't cuts out all the bullshit.

I've taken inspiration from Hank Moody. I know, fictional character, but being able to pull like that would be awesome. Just care free, open minded, confident and trouble maker. Plus the charm and class he has, brilliant.

Anyway, tonight I will be hitting the clubs. No agenda, not looking to "pick up", just a fun night. However, in having a fun night, I will definitely be talking to girls. Will see how things go.

Thanks gentlemen, more updates ahead.