So I am kind of speechless that this went the way it did, so I'm curious to hear all the many things you think I did wrong. This was the first time I attempted a store pickup scenario.

Over the past month and a half, there has been a girl who is a cashier at a local store. I never knew her schedule so I only saw her once in a blue moon (3x), but talked to her each time and the vibe (I thought) was unmistakeable mutual interest. Roadblock was that her coworkers would talk to me about my purchases while she was ringing me up, so I basically didn't get to talk to her enough. She would, however, look me in the eye and ask me things. Finally, I got her alone on this most recent occasion, and we introduced each other, talked about how our days were going, and she told me when she was getting off work. She asked me what my plans were for the rest of the day (it's a holiday weekend here). Then a big line started form and so I didn't pull the trigger asking her out right there...

On a friend's advice, I went back about 40mins later before she said she got off work, and gave her my number point blank on a piece of paper, with a note that said we should hang out. She turned bright red and kind of thoughtfully said 'Um...I'm not sure'. The tension was rough, so I said 'ok well you have my number.' This didn't seem to be the time for negging or pushing the issue. Then I walked out. I doubt I'll hear anything.

I'm not trying to make excuses - but among my friends I'm known as the guy who can read women and interpret some of their actions/intentions. I can't believe I misread her 'indications of interest' or whatever they were..

Any critique is appreciated.

Hey Teknine,

It's always hard with checkout chicks and people who are working. I used to work in sales and in a bar and in a cafe. I all those situations it is benefitial to make the person feel good, to flirt and tease and stuff. I did it to girls constantly even if i had no intentions with them; its just part of the job, makes them want to come back and stuff.

I'm not trying to be a dick or anything. It's just the case i guess. It may have been that she was trying to be a good sales person.

On the other hand it may be that she is shy, if you gave her your number and she was a little shy then saying she wasn't sure might just be her defense.

It could also that she wasn't comfortable enough.

And lastly, you might be wrong and she'll call!!!

Keep it up bro.

Thanks Machete -Respect. Really smart words.

I think you are right that perhaps comfort had not been built as much as I thought. In my mind, I'd been thinking I don't know her schedule, so I have to 'get this done' asap - it's been over a month now.

I thought 3 interactions, leading to 'nice to meet you', learning each others names, etc. was enough. So I got up the courage to walk back in and tell her I think she's cool and that we should hang out. Either way, I feel good about that part of it.

I guess if she's really shy then having my # is a moot point. She won't use it. I have dated girls like that.

Thanks for the words.

Yeah its always hard to know.

Keep us updated and you can always have another crack if your really interested or just go find another fish.

Peace bro

Ah - I didn't think anyone would recommend having another crack at it. "having another crack" would mean asking her out point blank instead of giving out my digits (felt weak doing that anyway).

Yeah there are other fish i'm frying, but man - i do like this one a lot. the logistics are just a nightmare.

Not trying to bump my thread back to the top, but I was so bummed about this that I talked to a guy at work who is an all out approach machine. Let me know what you think.

He said the fact that I gave her my number because it was in her place of work is a bullshit excuse. He said it was a waste of energy to do this because it's putting too much pressure on her to use it - she was waiting for me to man up and ask her out then and there. But I didn't.

Now I lost some alpha cred, so the only option I have now is to go in uber-direct one more time and that is all.

He said when he approaches any girl or girls (he routinely approaches 4-sets and gets numbers from 1 or 2 of the girls), the people around him cease to exist and he and the girl are the only people who exist. This is the first time I really understood what 'the zone' really means.