I picked up this chick in town tonight. We started with a little small talk, etc. and moved to dancing (there was a swing band playing, and dancing is kind of my secret weapon). I eventually ended up leaving with her (her idea btw) to go 'find her wallet' at this other place in town. Anyway, after that I said 'we should go to the beach.' (I live in Hilo, HI so that's basically across the street). It was at night and we found this spot on the beach right under a tree. A little small talk, etc. and I made out with her/felt her up a little. I thought I was going to be fclosing but then she said she had to get back to her friends (she wasn't with her friends at the time, but she had mentioned it while we were going out). We made out a little more and then she said 'will you help me up' (basically getting out of the situation).

We walked back to the bar where she met up with her friends. I left at that point/# close to try to end on a high note. I'm not totally sure why it didn't end further. Any ideas? I definitely need to tighten up my mid-game, so I was hoping to get some feedback...

How would you have responded to her resistance? Would you have gone back in the bar or left at the time?



Thanks

I don't know too much about the sexual norms in Hawaii but the beach is still outdoors, and, generally speaking, the prospect of having outdoor sex with a guy she just met probably triggered her ASD pretty hardcore.

If you control for ASD a lot more by creating - and constantly reinforcing - a frame of "sneaking away together secretly from the rest of the world" while giving her a lot of compliance tests at the same time, you can probably fuck women on the Hawaiian beach as long as you find a spot that's really hard to see publicly.

In any case, you'll have less of a problem if you use a private space like a bedroom as opposed to outdoors.

Haha that's better than me, I trigger ASD just by walking to women .