Hi,

Over the past year or so, I have been in a relationship and all but given up doing any approaching-but I have found that practicing pick up really improves my confidence and overall self esteem and also I want more action.

Anyways, I have been doing pick up while shopping and initially felt quite scary AA. My AA would impede me from even asking a girl the time.
I persisted and have gone through a series of phases where I have recalled stuff that i was thinking when I was really into pick up a couple of years ago.
Like- 1. Your brain can´t go into emergency mode over a long period or more importantly for more than a few approaches or at least this has been my experience.

2. Fuck the perfect moment-

Anyway, after a morning of doing a bit of inner game work and working on limiting beliefs- ie. don´t talk to strangers, I mustn´t bother people etc I went to do some approaches with the simple goal of getting a number before Saturday.

As I parked my car, I was considerably thinking of turning around and going elsewhere cos I thought I was going to be just wasting my time.

I am walking around my favorite area of the store for pick up- the book dept anxiety slighty above usual and checking out the women in the area. My inner game was great. I started with the intention of simply asking loads of girls the time- to break down my AA. I did that and started asking girls the time and it was great because I saw a blond pull up right next to me and immediately I asked her the time- I used to work in the airport and had seen her around there so I asked her if she worked in the airport- we got chatting and yet the longer I was talking, the more I noticed my anxiety increasing as I "ran out of things to say".
I soon cut the chat, got her number, continued talking a little more so as not to run as soon as I got the number and then left.

It is hard to describe how I felt as I left the store- euphoric- alpha I don´t know but certainly worth the anxiety I had felt minutes before.

Things I think that helped me-
1. Setting a goal with a time limit- I had a goal of getting a number- I think it helped me focus on getting a result and once I added the time limit I felt more motivated to take action rather than putting it off.
2. Seize the moment- stop waiting for that perfect moment to appear to take action- my life is passing me by- I have to do some thing NOW."

Next time I want to prepare some preplanned conversation topics just in case I run out of things to say- I probably won´t need them but it will let me feel more relaxed just knowing I have them.

I now have to decide what I am going to do with that number- my current relationship is easy going and stress free. I don´t want to lose it but I don´t want to just limit myself to her- but if I tell her that and "do the right thing" she is going to tell me to hit the road Jack...

Thanks for reading...