Hey guys, I'm 20 years old at my first year in college. I've been more than an AFC all my life (by that I mean that I didn't even tried to get girls, zero game to be honest). It took me some really good time to get the balls to admit my failures, to get over depression and to finally start working on changing it.

So, a while ago a friend of mine told me about the Pick Up Artist series with Mystery. I watched it and got amazed. I'm reading The Game (a damn good and fun book!) and reading random articles on the internet, talking with friends about it, reading things here on the forums and so on.

I've been on it since college started (2 weeks ago, I live in Brazil). Since I got my first approaches only yesterday and, a lot inspired on AFC Daniel's Journal, I'll start the journal now.


Most of the parties I'll be going to are college parties. I'll just point out 3 things about college here:

1) We do not have fraternities or sororities. We don't sleep at the uni either. Everyone lives neraby and go home after their classes.

2) The college year starts on March and ends on December.

3) College parties here work like this: They almost all happen on the campus. It has a relatively small place with a DJ and loud music (impossible to talk) and a big place full of groups of people. The ones in the small place are usually drunk, while the ones in the big place are lightly drinking. Most of the parties are open bar or, if not, the beer is really cheap. There are 3 guys for 1 girl usually, so knowing how to deal with mixed sets is a must.


All the help will be highly appreciated. I'm really new to the game, so I may be missing lots of key concepts that for the more sophisticated player are second nature. I'll also try to keep the posts organized and, if I can, make them the shortest as possible.


Thank you in advance for any help or just for reading the journal!

College Party #1 03/16
I got there with some friends of mine. We spent some time trying to get some beer but we just couldn't (the place was FULL!) then one friend and I aborted it and started to wander around trying to find some girls to talk to. We started trying to find a 2 beautiful girls set and we failed. We found one 3 girls set but we hesitated and decided not to approach. I went home then, a little bit frustrated.

What I've learned
-Trying to find the perfect set is bullshit. Approaching more random and mixed sets are necessary.
-To follow the 3 second rule. It's really the most important thing for beginners.
-Do not create expectations. This was the reason I got home frustrated. I'd seen Mystery doing his incredible approaches and I thought that I could do the same thing on my frist night.

Questions
None. I already got them answered on another topic.

College Party #2 03/26
I got myself prepared with some openers and routines. I listened to my fav electronic song and danced a bit to get in the mood of the party. I met some friends there (the same from party #1). I got 2 approaches and 1 introduced girl plus some random talking with drunk people and old friends I met there. Here is how the important thing worked out:

First set (HB9, HB6, HB6)
When I spotted them, I approached immediately. No AA. I got my friend with me. I used the two part 'do you think kissing is cheating?' opener by Style. The HB9 was rude, while I talked she was like 'uhum. yeah yeah. uhum' and nodding fast with a I-don't-care-what-you're-talking-about face. I ignored her most of the time and focused attention on the other two girls, which were kind of interested. I got their answers (which were really short, I was waiting some discussion) that it is cheating and drinking is no excuse. Than a random guy came in the set, we talked for some time and he left. Then I used the 'do you believe in magic spells?' opener by Style. When I asked it, they were like 'wtf is he asking us.....' then I said all the long story about my friend and blabla. They weren't really interested, but they were attentively listening. The HB9 was being rude as always. When I finished, I wanted to follow with the number guessing ESP game, but my friend made a REALLY SHITTY JOKE that I couldn't even look them in the eyes anymore. I told them 'We need to meet some friends, bye' grabbed my friend and left.

I don't know how I was going to run the ESP game anyways. I planned to do it on the HB9, but I don't think she was going to agree with it.

Introduced lone girl (HB6)
My friend introduced me to a friend of him. I didn't find her attractive and didn't want to talk to her. But my friend said 'here, he has something to ask you' and pointed to me. Then I said the first thing that came in my mind, and used the kissing is cheating opener. She said 'well, it depends.... the situation... the degree of drunkness' then I said 'oh, seems you don't have an own formed opinion!'. FAIL!. She took it as an insult (and in fact it was, even though that wasn't my intention) and said 'oh, you've known me for 1 minute and you tell me that... ok then'. I left.

Second set (HB8, HB8 +HB7)
Again with my friend we approached a 2 girl set (it had 3 girls. They were getting ready to move when we approached. The third girl left 1 second before we approached.). I had No AA. I used the same kissing is cheating opener like in the first set. One of them answered smiling and a bit confused 'well, it depends... the situation, how serious is the relationship'. The other girl said 'you've known us just now and you want to know this about us?' I answerd I wanted a feminine opinion. I made my best to hande the situation. Again, I got short answers like 'Yes, it is.' and the conversation was getting dead. Then my friend used the '93% girls masturbate on the shower' to keep it up but the girls didn't let him finish it. They said 'oh, fuck off' and left laughing.

After that we met other friend of ours and they stood their on the wall drinking their beer. I wasn't in the mood for any more approach and also I was not feeling like being there looking like an AFC. I went home, not frustrated this time. I was actually happy that I made what I wanted to do.

What I've learned
First set
-I have no AA to approach a set with a HB9.

Introduced lone girl
-Do not insult girls (lol!)

Second set
-Again, no AA if following the three-second-rule.
-Need to work with body language and eye contact a bit, since some times I was looking to the ground and hands were low.

Questions
1) I think the girls took me as a weirdo by the things I asked. Actually their face body language was telling me that most of the time. Well, was I?
2) Is approaching alone better than with a friend?
3) Should you use long stories on your openers? (magic spell opener from set 1)
4) If they are sort of drunk, should I use the same openers and routines that I'd use with sober girls?

Any other insight will be appreaciated. Thanks for reading!

Wow, great job approaching! That's one of the best starts to a PUA-journey I've ever heard actually.

Dealing with AA is half the battle for many guys, so you're golden right now.


I would really like for you to try to simply say "hi" and introduce yourself the next time you open a set, instead of using canned opinion-openers. The whole Mystery Method-scene is really in decline - it's more about being yourself now, having a smirk/smile on your face, and maintaining Eye Contact (very important).

60yearsofchallenge elaborates on this, you should read his material


Oh, your questions:

1) Try simply saying "hi" with confidence like I wrote, and get them to talk instead of you being the entertainer. I think this will make it a lot less weird.

2) Unless you have some specific reason for your friend to be there, I would say approach alone.

3) No.

4) You can probably smile more and be a little more silly if they're drunk, but I wouldn't think too much about it.

Thanks James!

But if I simply say hi, what should I talk about after? Job, hobbies, if she's liking the party? I mean, small talk?



Today I was talking to a guy at the uni, he studies in my class, but we had just met each other. The conversation was really slow and boring, then I decided to try one or two things out. I started to talk a lot, ask random and any question that came into my mind, even some silly ones. I was comfortable and wanted just to talk. Result: The guy started to talk like crazy and the conversation got really good! Also, I got in a much better talking and opening mood, and it brought a smile on my face. And I probably made a new friend.

Ah, and I also asked some random things to a girl on the bus stop. Nothing too much, but I want to get in the habbit of doing it when a chance appears.



I admit that I'm into it to get laid (aren't we all?) but I also want to get to be an alpha. Get that hell of confidence and don't give a damn what others are gonna think of me.

What I've learned
If I start to talk and feel comfortable and show it to others, I can get others to open up to me. It worked on a guy, but I'm pretty sure it works on girls too.

If I can make someone opens up to me my mood/confidence/energy gets waaay higher.

The AA gets lower throughout the day. I wake up with an AA level, and as soon as I get to talk to strangers the AA starts to drop to zero. It's pretty obvious if you stop to think, but I just realized it today.

Thank you for reading!