Untill I get permission to refer to people who are active here on the board too, I'll give them other names. Those names will be in italic. Also, excuse me if my English isn't 100% good.

Hi everyone, I'm Knoerifast. Yesterday, I went to my first bar pick-up ever, with some guys from another lair in my native language [Dutch]. I'll post everything I do to become a PUA in this journal. I have quite a busy life, so I won't be able to spend each and every moment of my life trying to become a PUA, but I'll try to do it as much as possible. I'll start of with day 1.


DAY 1: My first BPU


My goals
I didn't set any goals for myself. I justed wanted to see the guys of the lair, and how a BPU was like etc. I wanted to go with the flow and just go with what the night would bring to me.

In field
After I registrated myself on this Dutch lair, I saw there was a BPU planned for yesterday evening in the town where I'm in college. Although I had never been to such I thing, I would be a fool to neglect the oppurtunity.

LyricalDream, the guy who organised the event had to come to the town by train, and I went to the station to wait for him. That way, I could talk a little bit with him on the way to the clubs, without the loud music and all the other people around. Het told me alot and gave me some great tips.

When we came in the club were we decided to meet with the other guys, we were the first [we were quite early so that was no surprise]. We talked a little bit, and then came Person B, also from the lair. It was his first BPU too, although he was already a bit further than me in his quest of becoming a PUA. Then the other guys quickly came too.

After a few drinks there we decided to split up. I went with Person B, and Person C. Person C is a guy who started a month ago, he told me. It wasn't his first BPU. While looking for a good club, he stopped to ask a group of girls if there was a good party somewhere. Finally, the three of us ended up in a dance pub. The music wasn't that loud, which was fine for me. It was possible to talk without yelling into another one's ear.

Within minutes, Person B was in a conversation with another girl. I really suffered from AA, but LyricalDream had told me earlier that I had to do whatever they told me to, without thinking. There was a manifestation going on in the town, so cops were everywhere. Person C told me to ask a girl what it was all about [although I did know what it was about]. The girl told me she didn't know, and I wasn't able to keep the conversation going. Meh, no big deal. I talked to a girl.

Then he told me to use this opener on a girl standing alone [she wasn't really hot or something]: "Excuse me, do I look gay to you? Because already two guys have been hitting on me today." I tried it, then I asked what I could change about myself. She said nothing. I didn't know what to say next, so I said a quick 'okay thanks bye'.

I was a bit more confident now, and I tried the do I look gay opener several times that evening, I guess around 10 times. Always with varying succes. I always asked what I could change about myself, but after that my mind always ran blank, so I left.

In the first club we were though, there was I girl I knew, and a friend of her. She told me I had to dance and move some more. I told her she should learn it to me then. Her friend wanted to learn me to dance, and she laid my hand on her hips and stuff. We danced a little bit. It was quite fun actually.

For the rest of the night, we went from club to club, regrouping with the other guys and splitting up in other combinations and stuff. I tried some different openers the other guys told me to, because I couldn't come up with one myself.

What I've learned
- It's not a big deal to go to a woman and ask her something stupid.
- I need to dress myself less geeky.
- I met some great guys!

What I need to do
- Read more canned material to use, I'm too inexperienced to go natural.
- Learn how to keep a conversation without it getting boring. Find opportunities.
- Talk to girls without anyone pushing me or telling me what to say.

What I'm going to do next week
Look up some canned material, and go out as much as possible. Try to approach atleast 12 women per night, and keep the conversation going longer than just two sentences.

Day 2

Not much happened. I had to go to a big shopping district in town to get something. The weather was good, and I builded up confidence to approach a group of girls. There weren't much opportunities, because when I saw I set I could approach they went into a store or took another turn or something. I opened only one set of a 4 and an 8 , it went somewhat like this:

Me: Excuse me, can I quickly ask you something?
Girls: Sorry, we're in a hurry.
Me: This will only take a while. A friend of mine gave me 100 euros to buy something nice for his girlfriend's birthday. I have no clue what to buy, do you maybe have an idea?

[Some lines about which clothing store was were.]

Me: Okay, thanks for the help. Bye.


Even as though it was only one approach and only a very quick one, I'm happy with it. I didn't went there in the first place to practice daygaming, so I'm not mad at myself for only approaching one set. Might go there again soon to actually practice daygaming.

DAY 3: Practising daygaming

Preparation
I had nothing to do, and the weather is awesome here today for the time of the year. I thought of going back to the shopping district to practice day gaming some more. I had some trouble convincing myself going, but then I said to myself :"Fuck it, if I want to really become a PUA, I really should go now." The situation was perfect for day gaming, and I said to myself I would try to approach atleast four sets.

In field
When I got there, I was a bit nervous. I walked a bit, and saw some two sets, but either they were too far away, or too busy or something... After a while, two girls talking to eachother [two 6'es] came directly in my direction.
With a bouncing heart I asked them the same as I did on day 2. When I opened I stuttered a bit but soon repacked myself. It wasn't a very long conversation, but I was glad I had my first set opened. I messed up some things, and I reflected the conversation to see what I could've done better.

After walking back and forth a while, on almost exact the same spot I saw two girls [a 5 and a 9] once again walking right in my direction. I used the same opener, this time way more confident. It was quite a fun conversation, which lasted at least five minutes. I was carefull to not make the same mistakes as in the first conversation. When I didn't know what to say anymore, I just said thanks and goodbye.

A while later a saw once again two girls walking in my direction [two 5's]. Used the same opener once again, but what I didn't realised at first was that the two guys marching a few meters behind them, where actually with them. The girls sounded a bit surprised by my question, and the conversation wasn't flowing either. The fact that this two guys were standing there too didn't help much either. I quickly said thanks for the help, and when they left they giggled a bit, like I just asked them if they've seen any pink elephant flying around. Meh.

A walked back and forth a bit more, but I became tired of it. I decided to check out a shopping centre not far away, where I walked around a bit. Nothing interesting to see. I decided to go home.

What I've learned
Not much actually. But it was a great excercise for overcoming AA. I'm definatly going to do this again, but maybe add another opener to my repertoire.

What I did learn though, was that it seems like all girls want a clothing coupon. Or at least, that's what they say the first.

What I did wrong
I don't think I did something wrong for a day 3. I didn't had any expectations, expect practising to overcome AA while daygaming. I think I succeeded in this.

Reflection
With some more practice, I could've definatly have number closed the first two sets.

Hey mate,

I love it that you are actually practising a bit on daygame. I currently lack the time for it because of my internship so when I get home it's a late already. However I do have some remarks about your daygame.

First off - you're actually making a few excuses about not approaching. This is an excuse for not actually going in.. it states that you think you are doing a good thing, however, you aren't doing anything. You're making up the excuse because you don't have the balls do it. It's cruel - I know.. but it's the hard truth.

Don't make up excuses for not approaching - the fault that you don't approach sets is only with yourself. Not with the girl, if you get my grip. But good to see that your other sets went well, especially the one with the 2 guys - I love the pink elephant remark.. reminds me of a few things I do sometimes

Keep going, I'll track you.

≠ LD

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Thanks for the reply. I see now you're right. I need to stop making excuses for myself en just go for it. What's the worst they can do anyway? I'll definatly work on that the next time I go there. Probably tomorrow.