Here's the story, guys.
For the last 2 months now I've been dating this HB7 who seems quite crazy about me but with some some odd glitches.
She's a pretty typical chick: one year ago she dumped a guy, they were together for like two years. She admitted she cheated on him two weeks before dumping him. Then she entered into ONS a few times (can't give a number but I can quote: more ONS that I wanted to get into) but she cooled off eventually. She's didn't open up in the beginning but I used the soft voice and the big stick technique to get her to open up and she did.
Her relationship with her ex went from no contact to being friends, she says he's like a "sister" to her now and they will never be together again. She met the guy for a chat and told me about it afterwards, actually she told me that the very same day, but only after she met him. Prior to that she said she has to meet somebody before we go to some anniversary.
Two days later, she had some sort of a glitch, started to ask me why did I choose here, saying "Why me? Why now?" I managed the situation, basically I pulled a jealousy situation on the spot, and tamed her but now I think it was temporary. I treated the symptom, not the cause.
Anyway, she planned to take her vacation and go to some concerts and somewhere to the sea shore long before we met. She told me her ex and her best friend's ex will be there. I thought ok, she seems crazy about me, I see no major problem here, never showed insecurity about it, just told her while you're there you should be shopping for some harem replacements. Anyway, while she was there I called her up and told her calmly something in the lines of a post I found here by Wal (thank you Wal):
"My advice to you is to calmly approach her, say, "I know this is probably nothing, but I'm not comfortable with you being in touch with this guy. I know the history between the two of you, and I won't put myself in a situation to get burned. Can you understand my position?" Don't get emotional, just state it as fact. If she resists, you can tell her that it is a deal-breaker, if it is. If she still doesn't "get it" and agree to avoid this guy, you might have to let this one go. Whatever you do, stay calm. "
That's what I did and it worked like a charm, that's when she opened and started to talk. She thanked me for being so patient with her, among other things, assured me her relation with her ex is just friendship, she hangs out with him and his friends because she feels comfortable with him and because she doesn't know anybody else there. After that talk she cut her vacation 1 day short to come be with me, and she left to work from my place a few days later (this monday actually)
Anyway, by the time she came back she was a bit more lovey dovey than usual saying this is how she usually is in a relationship.
And now about the last night: we landed in her place and were heading for sex but she pulled off. We never engaged in sex at her place before but I don't think that's the problem. Anyway, without making a scene, I asked wtf is happening she said "I don't know" I freezed her out, got dressed and ask her to lock the door behind me. She wanted to give me a hug and kiss me or something but I told her "Maybe some other time". When I got home I emailed her saying well, this is not ok and she replied with a "I'm still trying to understand what the hell happened with me".
As a new development, she is reaching out to me, called me and texted me, I told her I have some other stuff to deal with at my job so we have to talk later - and that's actually the truth. She is trying to patch things up I guess.
Any thoughts, guys?