| Hi. I'm new to PUA and I thought I'd make a post about my first session that occurred today in the city before meeting a couple friends. I'm pretty serious about getting good, so constructive responses would be greatly appreciated.
I basically walked around the city and did about 5 sets. I was fairly nervous and there were definately some opportunities that I didn't capitalize on for whatever psychological reasons, but all in all I was happy with my motivation.
I was basically just trying to practice opening, and then just going beyond that just to see what would occur. The big focus was just smiling (I often forget to), vocal technique and body language. My opener seems kind of stupid but apparently smiling and body language allows you to say pretty much anything and get into a convo. I would go something along the lines of "I have a question. My friends and I were having this discussion. Do you think we should get rid of coins?" People typically either cite their uselessness - since they weigh so much but have so little value - or make points about how they like them, or ask what I mean.
I got a fairly wtf? look from my first set, who was just standing at the train station. I described their weight and lack of value. She was just like "i guess" and still looked confused. I just walked off.
Second set was walking down the street, same direction and I just asked from the side as we walked. also similar confused/surprised/wtf look, however we got talking breifly and she asked me if i knew any good places to go shopping so I couldn't have scared her off too much.
Third girl was someone sitting on a grassy area in the sun. She had thrown some food at pidgeons and there were seagulls there too. I walked up and asked her if she liked pidgeons or seagulls more, then said i have to run and meet friends to play hackysack as I seated myself. We actually had a pretty good conversation for maybe like 20 minutes, before we left - she was going to a store to buy thongs. We walked in the same direction and she offered me some water from her bottle.
Fourth set was my first two-set sitting down somewhere. I walked past and turned my head to the left and delivered the question, probably the most confidantly. The response was pretty good. After the few word exchanges about the merits (or lack thereof) of coins, with nothing to say I habitually defaulted to my standard DLV, and asked them what they were up to, before bowing out with a 'pleased to meet you'. I did realize i forgot to decide on one as a target, but I didn't really plan on delivering negs anyway.
Fifth set, I was actually sitting down at a square, and these two girls came and sat to my left. I delivered the line and then we got into a convo about various stuff for maybe like 10 minutes.
So basically, the recurring theme (which I already knew before I started today) is that after delivering the opening and I just end up having a convo with the people, which often involves me asking quite a few questions. I don't know what to do next in order to DHV. I also struggle to neg just straight after an opening - I don't really know what to say in the context because they're just random people out during the day. I've read the venusian arts handbook, but I still don't really know where to go after I've delivered a successful opening. Any help regarding this would be great. Also feedback on the opener would be good. I think I might replace it with something more humorous but at the moment it seems to work alright.
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