hey guys so last night was the new year's eve and i used this as an opportunity to try my PUA skills in field for the first time!

need i say more,i was a MESS!my goal was to kiss close any chick but i couldn't do that(you'll see that i had the oportunity)...it's like i couldn't push myself over the edge and thinking back not i feel very dumb :\


anyways my courage improved 200% since the last year's party...because last year i couldn't approach even a damn set and stayed like an AFC all night and looking how others had fun
this time no more of that...i went in opened every set i could find in that house(a house party it was) and i had fun...on overall here's what happened:

the first set that i opened was a one set...and i'm a crazy mofo since she was a clear HB10!
but ASAP i realised that i couldn't follow any rules,i was like forgetting every routine...i knew them but i forgot where should i do what,so it was a clear mess...this happened with every set i opened...
so i got with this HB10 miracolously into C1!and i was like CLOSE to kissing her,but the damn new year came and i missed the opportunity...this was the best i managed to do last night since she was a 24 yr old HB10 WTF lol ,i'm a 17yr old that barely started learning pua...this kinda gave me a confidence boost but i couldn't damn kiss already..

afterwards it kinda went from itself,i had no problem approaching but i couldn't kiss close!i had chances with:
a 16yr old HB9---cockblocked by her friends...god damn it ,i was SO F*CKING CLOSE...literally words away from starting my kiss gambit,she was into me,later i saw her making out with the host hoorah
two 15 yr olds HB9 and HB8...i just couldn't play them both...again i couldn't found the damn routines...i was like "do a spin boohoo bravo"...i couldn't isolate or change location...
the HB8 later came to me as i was sitting and initiated a conversation...i could tell she was really into me,massive IOIs and stuff but i couldn't pull the damn trigger...awkward silence and BYE

i also didn't approach a HB10 that was sending me IOIs and a HB7...
my pivot(yeah i kinda had one) can also count as being into me in the beggining(HB8) but i suck ...making excuses wtf is wrong with me


Please guys i need some encouraging...i'm really confused!

On one side I am proud with myself since i managed to open so many sets and actually have fun and open some really hot girls...but on the other side my game was a complete mess,i think my peacocking kinda saved me and the fact that i am not bad looking(+ i used negs and stories...but deffinetely not when needed),and the most important thing,i couldn't Kiss close!maybe if i would've set a higher goal

here's what i'm sure i did wrong:
*failed to Kino escalate with the HB10 and the HB8 that was sitting next to me(where were my testicles in all this!?!?!?!?)
*failed to multithread with the HB8
*failed to neg the HB8
*failed to neg harder the HB10
*my energy levels were pretty low in the end

Is it always so hard?I feel really discouraged now :\,like...i don't fill fulfilled and when i knew i could kiss close...damn it,it would've been a huge step for me and by a HB10
It's really like you're throwing yourself into a lion den and trying to entertain them so they're not gonna eat you

EDIT:i almost forgot
at about 3am me and my "pivot" decided to check out one of her places(this was mine) and i got there and stayed like an AFC...i was "sick"...yeah my ass i had aproach anxiety god damn it,and i knew it wtf is this about?
they all were paired up anyway but i still could've opened some guy sets and had fun..they actually approached me and i started dancing with them but i was abit upset for some reason that my pivot was making out with one of the guys and i was like lol what a whore
I got called gay by the drunk host...was it because i was sitting down with my pivot and not making a move...as i said AA got me ,and to be damned if i wouldn't but she was like making out with the other guy...that was kinda messed up and it kinda messed up my party

oh yeah and also when i was clearly feeling bad because I drank alot and the HB 9 that was into the 2 set i presented earlier(the one i couldn't handle) asked me if i was on drugs...lol wut?is this some kind of IOI striking a convo like that?
i was really pale i must admit

Dude, i was in the exact same position as you where in.. (im new also), except i didnt open as many as you did but i managed to K-Close!

You're overthinking things, man. Of course you're going to fail first time! TylerDurden started by going clubbing regularly for SIX MONTHS without a single make-out. (As far as I can remember)

Why worry about all this "Phases of Attraction" crap and memorising routines, kiss gambits, hoo hah... What you say is only 20% of communication anyway!

Just learn the skills, keep approaching, keep going. THAT is the difference between a PUA and a regular guy. Persistence, forgetting about social rejection, no fear. The willingness to crash and burn 49 times and get the girl on the 50th.

Yeah dude, even after I had picked up a thing or two about PUA, I spent orientation week in my 1st year of university solo-approaching girls non stop.

I didn't know anybody so I spent the entire week by myself. I'd say I got rejected at least 50 times that week, with nothing to show for it, until at 11pm on the last night of O-week I met an HB8 where everything went right.

Admittedly I dated her for 3 years, then straight into another year long relationship, so my skills were pretty much gone after all that. But at least I'd proved to myself that it was possible.

And a lesson from that first relationship - telling a girl that you like her for her personality, but you've dated hotter girls, is a surefire way to make her obsessed with you in a bad way, and you half lose interest. It was a rocky three years!