I'm not sure where to put this and this is my first post but I feel like this is an appropriate place for a FU report.

Just a little background before I start:
My name's Alex ,I'm 17 and I've known about pickup for a few years now. Its helped me a lot because I understand more on how attracting a girl works but It also hurt me too. I'm naturally a nice and funny guy , but all around the seduction community, it seems as like they make being funny and nice a bad thing. So ever since learning about PU , I've tried to change my natural personality from "nice and funny", to "badass and sexual" and I just come off as incongruent and weird. But enough about that , lets see how PU almost helped me get the , I guess you can say "girl of my dreams" and how I fucked It all up.


A few weeks ago , I decided that I was going to ask one of the few girls that I was REALLY attracted to to be my GF. We've been friends for a while now and I've known her since Preschool but I moved and I havent seen her for like 11 years until a few summers ago. Everytime we hang out , its ALWAYS a great time, we have a lot in common and shes one of the few people who can make me die of laughter . Anyway, her 18th birthday was a week ago and she wanted me to come. I told her that I "couldn't make it" but I was going to surprise her by showing up. When that day came, she was shocked to see me and was really happy to see me, she introduced me to some of her friends as her "prom date" (obviously because she as me to her prom like a month ago) . I thought in my head: "Hell yeah, this girl actually likes me, tonight is gonna be AMAZING" lol


So we all had dinner, (by "we all", I mean us and her friends) but I barely talked to her because she was all over the place, I don't blame her , its her birthday so whatever. anyway , after the whole dinner thing , we drop her off at her friends house , and she says that she really wants us to come back to say bye, (Us=me,my friend and my brother) so we decided to come back like 10 minutes later .

On the way back to meet up with her, I felt like complete shit for some reason , but I wasn't gonna punk out and not ask her out, (TONIGHT was my night, remember?)so we meet up at her friends house, and we had to sneak in because her parents were sleeping. This is were things go pretty damn bad lol.


We're all in her basement , and it is AWKWARD , to say the least. Its quiet for a few minutes , until they decide to take pictures . So we take pictures blah blah , I say like 2 words to this girl the whole time. I told her that I had a "super secret question" to ask her , and she was like ok well ask. The "super secret question" was obviously to tell her to be my GF . But INSTEAD, I punked out and I asked her to prom . (No biggie, I'll just tell her to walk with us halfway and BETTER YET , I'll kiss her ) So she says yes, and I hug her. We had to leave soon , so I told her to walk with us halfway. She agreed and we left. Outside I stop her, and I hold her hands. THIS IS IT !!! I'm gonna kiss the girl of my dreams , YES !!!!
(What happens next is pretty painful lol, but I laugh every time I think of it)

I forgot what I said to her, but we hugged , and then I tell her "We should kiss" , so I go in and she kinda pulls back and laughs. I start laughing too , and then I stop and act serious again . And I go in for the kiss AGAIN, she does the same thing and thats when I realized that it wasnt gonna happen. So that made me feel completely like shit , we hug and I leave.

She texts me,

Her- what was the question ?
Me- I wanted to ask you in person , but i didn't feel too good , Ill ask next time
Her- Aww, you shouldve asked (;


WHAT THE FUCK!!!!!!!!!!???
After that last text , I reply by telling her how I feel . I really like you alot, I wanna be more than friends, all that unicorn and butterflies stuff .
She said that we would make a good couple and she likes me too BUT , she doesnt feel that "vibe" when shes around me. I go into panic mode and I tell her that we should just stay friends, and she says ok.

I Really Really like this girl , but I understand now how I messed up --

- I ended up in the friend zone
-I didn't set up that "vibe" she was talking about
-I told her how I felt by texts, and not in person , which made me look and feel pretty beta.


I don't know If this counts as a "Fuck Up" report, but I needed to write it down somewhere, please leave some feedback,opinions ,whatever.
Thanks

Yo bro same age and had the same problem, oneitis. You have to start acting different man, just not so beta. I did the same thing with confessing that I pretty much liked her too much and wasn't going to talk to her anymore and it got me no where real fast, which at the time is what I wanted because I knew it wasn't going anywhere. What I didn't realize is that 6 months later I would re-meet her. (oh shit!)

This time I've had the attitude like I've got 3 girls after me all the time. You've just always got to have a playful, I don't give a fuck attitude and take what you want! Relax, tease her, and have some fun! After all it's not the only girl in the world you could ever fall in love with, so quit acting so serious about it. (Think about it! out of 3 billion, there is more than one, I guarantee it!) I know it's easier to say than to do but if u hav trouble coming up with wise cracks on the spot then practice practice practice man. If you want to kiss her next time and both of you are in a playful mood, act like there is something in ur eye and ask her to look for you and get real close to her and then peck her on the lips and crack a big smile. I guarantee it will work 100% of the time in the right conditions! Any questions, feel free to ask! Good luck and let me know how you do!

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Thanks man , haha its funny because deep down I had this thing were I said to myself "im just gonna disapear for a few months, learn about pickup (inner game really) and come back like super duper cool and get her this time", I really don't care much anymore, i messed up and I accepted it and now im bettering myself. but yeah thats awesome, I just had a bad mindset about it , Im watching the Blueprint Decoded, and Its helping tremendously , have you watched any programs or books ?

Ha I've watched enough videos, read enough books and listened to enough audio to fill up a room. It almost became a hobby really but the thing is, is that no matter how many things you study, you really don't get any better without practice. I've always used the ratio of one night or day of good gaming is about equivalent to about 1 good book read but you have to do both really to get good. So keep up the work man cause it will pay off big time and I encourage you to try for the girl again cause at worst its just some good practice and at best, well the sky is the limit!

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I see where you young fellas got into.
Unfortunately this is not pick up art.

To the writter of this thread:You knew her from the past.That is positive because you are able to open a conversation and there is no reason to disqualify,but alone its useless.

Next time try to open a conversation(For anything that she would be intrested it),make good kino escalation, and move to attraction phase.

Attraction phase:Here you want to demonstrate high value,without bragging.You can do that by storytelling,social circle,humor,confidence and generaly whatever make a human person respectful (Inteligence,way of speaking,leadership ect ect.)

Then comes the Comfort phase.In comfort phase you have already build enough value(Cause of attraction phase) and your kino escalation hit the the top of non-sexualy touch.In this phase we want to vibe sharing personal opinions(rapport) expiriences and feelings (not the feellings for eachother,but how it felt when you got drunk for first time -example-).Way to achive this are (exept the conversation) Teasing,memories of the past,humor,nicknames ect.

Then is the Seduction phase.In seduction phase you want the vibe to continue,but in this one you have passionate eye contact,relaxed disposition,more intense kino,smooth voice.Here is where you kiss.

I hope i have helped with this.
If i did,please help me out and raise my reputation status.

Also i would like you to send me a message about your achievments,questions and thoughts you might want to share.
Do not hasitate to add me as a friend too.

Best regards-Mr.Adanos

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@marky mark
I'm just gonna chill back for a while, work on making myself a better person , and go from there, no rush at all. I mean I AM gonna see her again, we're going to prom together so hopefully that'll be the time. The problem was my mindset, I got nervous because I felt like "if I mess this up, its done" which put a shitload of pressure on me .
but its cool, live and learn . What about you ? didnt you say you have a similar story?

@Adanos
I believe that my comfort stage is really good, just escalating is my problem.
Knowing this, im gonna shift my focus on escalation,
thanks for the advice.
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