FIRST real FR.
Funny story of a FR. Chick happens to be married! LOL!! I’m going to make it more dramatic and detailed since it’s a fairly short attempt at a PU. I’ve been reading a lot of self-improvement and PUA books. But only to find myself reading and not actually experiencing. This for me is the hard part. I have the knowledge but I don’t produce. I guess you can say I have approach anxiety. Funny though because many of my male friends say I have charisma and confidence. Inner game is definitely something I need to improve. I’m sure many in the community can relate. Skip down if you want to avoid the detailed, rundown of HB 8 who happens to be married! Lol..


I just got done doing a set of close-grip bench press and I hear someone yelling at the TV. I walk over to check that this dude was into a basketball game. Big deal. I notice HB 9 on an elliptical machine, bouncing up and down like a carousel ride. She’s got an exotic look. Romanian from far but she looked Mexican up close. Silky, black hair that contrasted her soft, tannish skin. Natural beauty. I look and she doesn’t notice me. She’s too busy looking good. You get that a lot with girls working out at the gym. They either try to look good working out and pretend they’re the only ones there or they do look good and pretend no one’s there. Anyways, I make my slow, alpha-male’ish walk back to my friend who just got done doing his set. I couldn’t resist. On the way back, I was checking HB 8 out and I get a look. We make eye contact. My smile came up to my ears. She didn’t accept it. She turns and looks forward. Then, she giggles. I smile, laughing inside as I walk back. I tell my friend about it and he says come up to her. I tell him that’s not me. That’s not my style. We’re about to leave and I notice that she too is leaving. I hurry my walk. Too late she already was on her way to her car. But then the angels came and sent a miracle. She walks back towards the gym entrance. I’m posted outside. This is how it goes…

I use the Adam Lyons opener..
• HB 8 walks toward the door outside the gym.
o Me: Posted up, leaning back against something..“Hey could I talk to you?
o HB 8: Just in front of the entrance, stops turns head to me and says, “Yea.”
o Me: “I gotta leave soon but I’d be kickin myself all night if I didn’t come up to you.” HB 8 giggles. “What’s the best way to contact you?”
o HB 8: “Actually, I’m married…”
o Me: In search of the ring on her finger, my head turns away, and I say, “Oh, Ok.”

So what do you guys think? How would you play this out?

I have to say that you may have lost your window to open, but in the event that you're presented with this situation again, instead of being caught off-guard, act like what she said was irrelevant.

Perhaps say "I'm open to meeting fun and interesting people and thought you might be worth getting to know better" this neither acknowledges the fact that she is married and forces her to qualify herself. If she declines, she's implying that she is not fun or interesting.

If she persists on saying that she is married, you could tease with something about her husband having her on a short leash with, not allowing her to have any friends. Importantly I wouldn't highlight male friends here, by bringing that up it highlights the potential sexual nature of a relationship.

In my experience, you need to have a more subtle game with married women. Going direct too early can blow you out before you establish a connection. Remember that a woman wants the plausible deniability of being able to say she was seduced, and so by throwing out that she is married, anything that happens after that, is your fault, not hers. But if you can work your wany in, you may just find yourself a great FB relationship.

In short, focus less on what she says and more on what she does - if her body language is open and she doesn't flee - stay in state, keep your frame solid and establish that connection.

Happy hunting!

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MDawg

I have to say that you brought up a good point there about her situation being irrelevant. Simply implying that "I'm open to meeting people..." would have been a great thing to say. It would allow me to come under the radar and have her not freak out about some dude hitting on her.

I dig the advice.
I'll make a mental note of what you said come the next similar situation.

-Maserato

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say


"o ya ? fascinating! i have two thumbs..... useless fact that doesnt prevent ME from meeting new people *smile* "

saying "i thought you might be interesting to meet, yu you look friendly .. blah blah" is kinda creepy... if you donno them and sorta implies u were staring at them at the gym.. at least to me.....

To BridgeBurner

Ya, that would have been a good, playful way to approach it. That one's not bad. I wasn't in a "playful" mood at the time so if I said that, it wouldn't have been congruent with my attitude. That's a good way to approach that one though.

You got a point there, buddy. In a gym setting, that line would probably not be the best. But if you look at it on a different light, it sort of sidetracks from her being married. I see that if a chick brings this issue up, sort of tease her about it like what you just said with your suggestion or say something that makes her "status" totally irrelevant and continue with a normal conversation, transition and DHV. I'm realizing this and this is good.
Good points, overall guys.

-Maserato

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Down to sarge.

sure but also when you back down with "oh ok" it just tells her straight up you were trying to pick up. ie. like ev other guy... lame. its equivalent to saying, "hey you're hot" at a club.... killin her challenge... esp with humour shows her you dont care even if she is telling the truth and also makes her feel kinda stupid for thinking shes a princess and assuming you JUST want to hit on her....

Solid observation. Now that you mention it, I realize that it does come off as a "pick-up". Using humor and teasing her makes sense. Great point.

-Maserato

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