So today I went on a date with this girl I've known for awhile.

Here's how it went.

First i picked her up from her college and we went to grab something to eat before bowling. The eating wasn't too interesting but we had some interesting conversations, Including one about how she had to kiss an old man for her acting career (and how this was her first kiss, we're both 18 btw). We talked about all sorts of things ranging from the boring everyday subjects to sexual innuendos and so forth. I am good at making her laugh and such cuz I'm a pretty funny guy when i get going. I paid for our meals.

After we ate we went to go bowling, when we got there she insisted on paying for the first game so she did. We played two games, creating jokes (mostly about how terrible we were) and so on. The first game she did much better than me, and the second I did better than her. One of the best jokes was how I managed to knock down four pins with a gutter ball, idk how that happened either.

After the bowling i said my prize for winning should be a kiss *pointing to my cheek*

She didnt really say anything and didn't kiss me either, that was a bit disappointing.

I think i messed up here but i stated how I must be a step up from an old man. but that didn't help anything haha

After bowling I drove her to starbucks where her mom was going to meet her. It was slightly awkward but i managed to get her laughing and stuff again.

At starbucks we were waiting and it got boring so I said
Me: "How bout that salsa lesson?" (she is a salsa instructor as well)
Her: Right now?
Me: Yeah why not

so we go outside and she teaches me some basic salsa and i teach her some Waltzing and we dance to the cheezy elevator music. (this was excellent kino I thought, perhaps ill offer dance lessons again lol) o this part went pretty well even after teh fail after the bowling.

Her mom finally gets there so i say goodbye to her, we hug and i was going to kiss her on the cheek but her head ended up being tilted im my direction. another mess up here: Instead of going in for the lip kiss like i may have been able too i was disheartened by the earlier experience, so end up kind of kidding her on the cheek or maybe her ear idk her hair was in the way.

Anyway that was my date today, feel free to give tips and critique
Also feel free to ask more because i realize some parts are vague, i didn't want it to be too long

So I thought this was pretty much a fuck up, i mean she acts like she in interested but wont kiss me or anything so i don't really know, is this a lost cause?

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Kino seemed good.

Friend zone perhaps?

With that much laughing and touching going on, you have to be one of two things:

1) A potential partner

2) Her new best friend

Sounds like a pretty decent date to me. Wasn't perfect, but wasn't a failure either. The fail with regards to the kiss on the cheek was a bit awkward, but that's about it.

Next time, I'd elevate the sexual tension a bit. You'll be able to tell how she feels about you then. You could very well be headed to the friend zone.

how would you recommend elevating the sexual tension, i'm not really sure how to do that, kinda a problem of mine.

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Depends on the situation. If she's wearing something provacative, point it out and use C&F. Insinuate that she's doing this to impress you.

By doing this, she'll either feel embarrassed and try to qualify herself to you, or she'll play along and create a sexual vibe.

This will only work if she is interested. Hopefully you aren't in the friend zone!

yeah, shes kinda of a hard girl to do that with cuz shes really shy, I did try to make a few innuendos during conversation though, and tried to keep up the kino because i'm not used to it quite yet.

It's very possible that i'm int he friend zone, since ive known her for awhile, but this date was more of just a test. i don't really see it going anywhere though so no point in dwelling on missed opportunities

Now i need to work on opening and following through with new girls

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Keep in mind that maybe the reason she rejected your offer for a kiss on the cheek was because she was too shy. It might not have had anything to do with you.