Been a while since I've been around here, but I just recently broke up with a gf and I'm gettin back on my game. So I just started a new job at a bank, and I absolutely love it. This past week I was asked to go cover at another branch by the district manager so I couldn't say no. Turns out the other branch I get sent to has two hb's there so I don't mind at all. Being there for the week I decide to make the most of it and test out my game just to shake the rust off. One of the girls has a long term bf so I decided to go for the other one since I wasn't sure I was ready for that kind of challenge. So me and the girl start talking, I do some cocky-funny stuff and a little push-pull and things are going well, the only problem is is that she's one of my lower level bosses, so I don't want to make any moves until I knew my job would be safe. This past weekend was the last day I'd be there, so I knew I would have to make something happen if I wanted to keep talking to her. I overheard her saying to her roommate that she had to check the bus schedule to see when she would be getting back and I had to drive up her way anyways so I offered to drive her home. The drive back went well, we were talking about weekend plans and joking about work and things like that. When we get to her place I decided I had to do something. I already had her number(she gave it to me earlier in the week when I said I would have to call in to work to let them know when I could make it in after a court date, IOI?) so it made the question a little awkward since asking for her number now would just be stupid. So I asked her if it would be ok if I used her number for non-work stuff,( not smooth at all I know, any ideas?) and she smiled and said yes. Now I'm wondering what my next move should be, I'm thinking maybe asking her to get coffee on Tuesday since I have class Monday night, good idea? Any and all feedback would be much appreciated guys, thanks.

I would say it's better to avoid gaming at workplace, specially if the woman in question is a rung or two higher in the hierarchy. But again, weigh the advantages and disadvantages first and thereafter if you still think that she is worth the risk, then definitely Go Ahead.

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Well, here's where our situations intertwine a bit.

I work in an office, and in order to keep anonimity to the max, let's say that for every man here there are 4 girls.

When I first started here, I started in a position of power with a 60% of the people who work here in a position under me. And there are quite a few high quality HB's here.

Upon starting here one rule was imposed upon me... Don't F*** the help. These were the actual words given to me by one of my bosses! (one of the partners in the firm ... ironically all other males of the firm are within this number!)

So things were pretty clear from the start. However As time went on, i started to socialize a lot with the partners, since I have one Big thing in common with them that no one else in the office has. It became evident that they all believe that inter-office relationships are a really bad idea and that they should never be attempted ... but probably the wisest of the bunch did add, that it never hurts to keep them close as turnovers happen often enough. After a few discussions he bluntly said that I should befriend the offices HBs and if they do end up moving to another bank or changing positions (or if this happens to you) they will be more then fair game. However in the meantime, it's always nice to have eye candy close by.

Taking this to heart, I wholeheartedly agree that you must be carefull as Financial success, i.e. your Profession and job, is one of the key aspects that must achieved in order to be a successfull PUA.

Now that the ground rules have been set. Here is what I have done with one of the Hbs in the office. I palyed some C+F games with her, developped a report and she has shown IOI's. Once this had developped, I quickly reversed the roles on her, in order to guarantee continued attraction.

As for her, I wouldn't call her tuesday, I would wait till about thursday, while you're at work. You call and discuss the week in a business manner. Since she is at another branch, ask her how the branch is holding up without you there... chit chat. Then say,

"well I guess tomorrow is Friday, can't wait to watch ....." or to go ".... "
Make sure you always have something planned with friends if you are playing this. i.e. watching a hockey game, playing cards, going skydiving ... etc.. you want to make the activities easily accessable to her but that show that you are a great social center.

Then ask her if she has any big plans?

When she replies that she has nothing big planned, you can always reply with ... well if you like the (sports team name ...), or if you don't mind jumping out of a plane, you are more then welcomed to join us. and so on.

If she isn't sure at first, just say, ok well if you just want to unwind with a good bunch of people, you have my number!

This will make you look interesting, without labeling your social interaction as a date! this is incredibly important.

Now at work, she will be talking aobut her weekend, as all women do ... and rumors may start bouncing around, when they come back to you... this is a crucial point ...

You must respond to those with : "OH Yeah... she tagged along with me and a few friends to wind the week down, it was really fun!"

And if someone pushes you, you then respond with : oh ... it would be innapropriate to date someone from work ... you know that!

this will go around, but what she will hear will be in relation to not being able to work because of work ... at this point... you are in. Not only is she highly attracted to the interesting man that she met and discovered, she will see you now as a forbidden fruit! ... and we all know what Eve is accused of doing!

At this point you always have to be careful, but enjoy it, I certainly am. A few comments will be made here and there. Do not I repeat, do not make direct invitations if you want this to work. The invitations to hang out must be indirect and additions to your current plans, and these invitations must be done randomly, here and there. Not every weekend! Some people may say that you will fall into the friends zone ... Well that is a risk, however if you play it right, you will never truly become friends as you will never acknowledge this!

I hope this has been helpfull, tried to write it as quickly and as well as possible.

-cheers

- Boot-it