This girl I met from the virgin islands (originally in the states) has been the kryptonite to my game recently. Usually once I k-close, I'm golden and I'm on auto-pilot, but with this girl it's not the case.

It all started when my one of my roomates (chick) said her best friend was coming down for a week to visit her relatives who live very close to our apartment. I met Cynthia and we didn't talk to much the first time. Then we decided to have a party at our place, and a few girls showed up so I started gaming them out. I had some small conversations with a few girls, and out of the blue Cynthia asks me to go out and have a smoke with her. I do and we have this great playful conversation, and at this point I'm really digging her. I go for the k-close and she sort of backs off and without me saying anything she asks if I'm buzzed. I say extremely with a smile and go in for the kill. After this is done she tells me she has a boyfriend, and reply what happens in **** stays in ****.

We end up going to the bathroom and start running up the bases, and we later sleep together that night (no sex - she has period). She is staying over the next day as well, but during the day/morning she is out with her and friend and later that night when I'm in bed she comes up to hang out with me. I try again forgetting she had her period, and when I give her the curious look of "whats wrong" she responds that she wants to but can't because of once a month blah blah. We keep talking and my game is so-so, I feel as though I'm having trouble building comfort. Yet she sleep in my bed yet again and when it's time for us to go she asks for my number and asks me to hang out when she comes back saturday.

This is when I really start feeling my confidence slip. This girl is gone from my apartment and I realize how much I'm thinking about her. She has a boyfriend and I saw it slightly upset her the night after the party (when I saw her it looked as she was crying and blowing her nose) yet she comes back to me later that night (makeout again and touch etc) .

She had explained to me things were not going well and her bf was going to break up with her. I'm not sure if this is because she told him about me, but I don't ask. I see this scenario as me being a crutch, but truthfully I really like this girl and Its as if I have to nail it. She texted me later that night (tuesday) with a new band I should check out, and I texted back later with small chit chat. We had small chitchat wenesday as well - me texting her first.

I've had a rule of thumb to never text a girl first 2 days in a row, and here I am on the second day and she hasn't text me. We are supposed to hang out tomorrow so I see this as a vital point in building some comfort. I can't call her because she explained where she is she can only text because not enough service to call. I want to text her, but I don't want to seem needy.

The weridest part about this situation is that my roomate who is friends with her is pretty good friends with me as well. I have not talked to her about it, because I don't want to put my roomate in a weird situation knowing that she has a boyfriend. Yet last night one of my other roomates asked if I was having cynthia-withdrawals as a joke. This threw me off and I said withdrawals? kinda sarcastically and I can hear my roomate whos friends with her says "shhhh" and they suddenly stop talking about it.

This takes me by surprise and I'm not sure how to interrupt it. So we didn't text at all yesterday and I'm here midday today wondering if I should... I know most responses would say I'm over thinking and being afc, but I'm not sure whats got into me... I just need some basic reminders here...

WHAT DO I DO! Please and thank you