So, I have gone out three nights in a row, and its safe to say I have gotten over MOST (not all) anxiety of approaching. I am getting better at opening, and a little more natural. I went out thursday night, friday night, and saturday. All to the college bars (im 22).

Thursday: I introduce myself and open to a two set which quickly becomes a three set as they are friends of one of the bartenders that works there and was sitting there "off-duty". I know who the bartender is so its ok, and I use my shoe opener on them, which is "hey can i get a quick female opinion on something? (girls love this) What do you all think of my shoes? Everyone I work with is in their mid-thirties and they tell me my style of shoes sucks and i need to go with a pair of Birkenstocks or something." this is awesome because i know my style is good and it tells them i have a job. So anyways, I talk to them for awhile, and they seem impressed when five minutes later i can still remember their names. my sticking point is still how to phase shift, and create an emotional connection so they will want me to stick around more. i usually remove myself before it gets to that awkward "when is he going to leave" stage. but they had to leave with their friend anyways and they were from out of town so i didnt feel like pushing a number close. next i did the same opener on a three set of girls. i find out two are married, and the single one made it very clear to me that SHE was the single one. but interestingly enough, the one i was gaming/ignoring/neging, was the one that gave me the most kino. i shook all their hands and the married one kept grabbing my hand and touching my arms. i dont know how i feel about married women...


Friday: friday i went out and i saw a lonely asian girl standing around looking confused, and i opened her by basically calling her lost and confused. haha. but anyways, she started to hang out with me and my friends and for some reason i dont have yellow fever like everyone else, so i let my friends chat her up. next i got a txt from an ex gf and it just pissed me off and put me in a bad mood for the rest of the night, but i still tried a few things despite not wanting anyone to talk to me. my friend said, if i went up to the bar and got him a drink he would buy me a drink on his tab, i coeerced him into agreeing to buy drinks for a group of girls if i could get them to come with me. (my rule is NEVER buy a girl drinks) but i wasnt paying for it and was in a kinda fuck it mood. so i walked up to a ten set. SWEAR ON MY LIFE. i opened a ten set. in retrospect, im glad i did even though i was in a shitty mood because i now know i can do something like that and not have too much anxiety about it. but anyways, i opened the ten set and got all of them to come to the bar with me and get drinks and then come back and talk with me and my friends. i wish i was a little more on top of my game that night and not upset.

Saturday: I went out again with a friend of mine and he brought a girl that he wasnt interested in. she was kinda thick, but had big boobs. I figured i would have fun and just game her for practice. my other friend came too who is completely desperate and will talk to the first girl that wont run away from him. so he chats her up the ENTIRE night, and i play it cool, i neg her, i play cocky/funny, i lean back, i ignore her. when we start dancing she COMPLETELY ignores my friend who had been talking to her all night and starts dancing with me, and kinoing, and touching me, and letting me touch her, and then she starts kissing my cheek, and i number close.

lastly, sunday night i go hangout with a friend of mine, and her roomate is SMOKING, but this girl is a TOTAL BITCH. im talking will just be a bitch for the hell of it and slam shit around her house to make sure you know shes pissed off, and act like a little fucking kid. so anyways, i dont say shit to her, i start joking around with her brother who is there, i stand up tall, i dont look at her, i dont try and talk to her, i completely ignore her and act like a dumb fuckin child in timeout. by the end of the night she started to not act like a spoiled bitch, quieted down, and tried to talk to me a few times. i guess its her way of "shit testing" guys, and once she saw she couldnt run me over she wanted attention? idk. i thought it was interesting. i still had a good fuckin dinner!


anywayssss, those are my field reports. critique me, guide me. i want to improve. my anxiety is going away and i feel alright approaching girls. my sticking point right now is creating an emotional connection and creating comfort with girls i just meet, instead of being pre-qualified by having a mutual friend. i know kino is a big part of it and ive been improving on how to do that, but still, i feel like im lacking something that sparks a connection to make me desired to stick around. or maybe i just dont see the IOI's or signs that ive already gotten to that point.

-M

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