| #1: Negging actually worked for me:
Friday night I was originally planning to just drink a bit with friends after helping them move into their new apartment. But one of my old friends brought three girls with him who were all solid 8s so it became my job to mediate. See, he never mentioned bringing them to the GIRLS who live in this apartment, so it was mildly awkward.
From reading college-advice threads here, I figured that it wouldn't be smart to try to use any canned material to open, so I just started talking to them and introduced myself. Now its actually good for me that the girls were in an unfamiliar environment because they were so surprised by my just talking to them calm and relaxed that they were immediately showing interest. There were a dozen people, but I was the only single guy. Gotta love supply and demand.
This night actually didn't require much effort on my part. Basically, this group of girls was made up of a brunette, a redhead, and a blonde. The brunette immediately showed interest, slid away from her friends to sit next to me, and plainly asked if I was single. The blonde was more attractive to me, though, so I decided to play around. Every so often I would show the brunette more attention, which I could do without looking too rude because she was actually conversing with me much more. But now and then when the blonde tried to interject, I just playfully asked her to not interrupt us. The first time she acted insulted, but had a grin that suggested I could get away with more. After doing this maybe 3 times, she copied her friend's play and moved over to sit closer to me. Now I won't claim to be particularly good at reading women, but by the time she moved over there was practically a neon sign over her head saying "I'm jealous! Talk to me she's not the only one here!"
Now I figure it would be smart to go to my place (I live in the same building as my friends whose apartment we originally were hanging at), so I actually step away from all three of them to see if they will follow. While I'm talking to my friend who brought the girls in another room, I see from my peripheral vision that the brunette is walking over. I mention to my friend that I had just brought a bar to my apartment and that I wanted to show it off a bit, knowing damn well that one of these HBs is standing right behind me. This solves everybody's problem, since I have some liquor to drink, a reason to move other than just appearing to want to hook up with one of these women, and they are a bit more comfortable going to another place.
At the end of the night, I surprised the blonde a bit by asking for her number instead of her brunette friend's. I'm not good enough to talk her into staying, but playing on her jealousy worked out perfectly, and we have plans to meet up in a few days.
I wish I could have more detail about what I did, but this was spur of the moment and I didn't even think I was going to be meeting up with any women. But I did see some success, which is hopefully a sign of things to come.
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