| Day 1
January 16, 2010
The Story
I began reading The Game by Neil Strauss today. I got to page 38 when I decided I wanted to test what I had learned. I called my friend and his girlfriend and we decided to go out. Because I'm under 21, I needed to find a bar that was willing to serve me. We ended up going to an Applebee's where we knew the bartender.
When I got there, I walked in with a big smile on my face. My friends were already sitting at the bar, so I joined in and order myself a Bud Light. They immediately noticed I was in a really good mood. I looked around for a little bit trying to spot any good looking girls, but no one caught my attention.
After about five or ten minutes of sitting at the bar with my friends, I spotted 3 girls walking in the restaurant, one of them was drop-dead gorgeous. Needless to say, she was my target.
We decided to ask the manager if we could set up a beer pong table outside, he was happy to comply. The problem was, there was me, my friend, and my friend's girlfriend. We needed a fourth player. They asked me to find a partner to play beer pong with.
As they began setting up beer pong, I walked over to the table of 3 girls I spotted coming in earlier. I started with "I saw you ladies over here looking somewhat bored, so I figured I would invite you to play a game of beer pong outside."
My target HB responded with, "Outside?"
I mockingly replied with, "You make it seem like a bad thing… OUTSIDE??" They all laughed, and the ice was broken. After a short back-and-forth conversation, they agreed to come outside and join us, the entire time I was relentless to pay much attention to my target.
When we all got outside, I had to get my partner. I looked at the three girls and said, "Alright, now one of you ladies has to step up as my partner," to my surprise, my target was the one who jumped up to play with me.
As my target walked up to the table, she reached for my arm, but accidentally grabbing my watch and said, "By the way, my name is Santeena."
She was about to continue, but I interrupted her with, "Hey now, hands of the merchandise!" completely overreacting.
She giggled and continued, "You're cute, I never caught your name," so I replied to her with my name.
We began to play beer pong. My friend shot and I grabbed the ball after he missed. When his girlfriend shot her ball bounced off the cup and into the bushes. My target turned to me assuming I would go get the ball for her. I told her, with a smirk on my face, "I got my ball, you can go get your own."
I noticed it was going very well for me, so I decided to try kino. When she went to go shoot I got real close behind her and held her waist. My attempt was perfect, but unfortunately her shot didn't make a cup. After my first kino attempt I noticed she was beginning to get more touchy. By the end of the night, we were hugging and touching each other somehow after every shot we made.
When it was time to get the check for their food, she asked me to give their server the signed receipt and his pen back. I said to her, "I get why you gave me the receipt, but why the pen?"
She responded with, "What do you mean?"
I replied back, "Well, how else are you going to write down your number?"
A big smile stretched across her face, "I was waiting for you to ask!" she said, and she happily gave me her number.
As they began to leave I gave the ladies a hug goodbye and got a kiss on the cheek from my target.
Notes
I've never had a problem with looks. I'm not the sexiest man, but it is not an area I struggle with. I've always been well-groomed and dress the part. My problem has always been my shyness. It's hard for me to work up the initial courage to say the first line, whatever it may be. Within my shyness, my problem comes back when I begin to get physical, whether it be simple kino touching or kissing. When I can feel these problems itching, my heart begins to race, which ends up making my voice sound nervous and anxious at the same time.
I personally feel that I get this way because I fear rejection. So, what I did was I changed my thinking. I thought, I honestly have nothing to lose. I could overlook these girls and just simply give up, or I could try my luck and play the best game I could. Either way, I had nothing to lose!
I relate my shyness to jumping into a cold pool. Like how you dread jumping into a cold pool, I lack the courage to open up conversation and that initial kino. Also, even though I jumped in the pool, I need to endure that coldness until my body begins to balance itself; even though it may feel awkward at first to stare directly at someone's eyes or grasp onto their waist, if you stick with it, you almost always end up getting used to it and get a positive reaction.
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