I don't care for rambling field reports so I will try to keep this one short and concise (minus the hook up details).

Just so you guys know, I'm a junior in college. Last night I went out and dd'd for a couple of my friends. I had no social proof at all, I didn't know anyone but them. All I did was sit around because I was not in state whatsoever. About a couple hours later one of my friends x-gf's sat by me and told me her hb7.5 friend thought I was cute and we should all go to her place and drink. I accepted the offer. We went back to her place, took a few shots, and sure enough I hooked up with her.* (You can choose to read or not, I talk about LMR, how I overcame it, and later how I fucked it up, etc. This is not a Lay Report.)

I can't really say I can learn much from this. She really was attractive and none of this really makes too much sense to me. The ONLY thing I can think of is the fact that I am "cute", well dressed, and hold myself well with my body language (Lots of girls think I'm physically attractive, this isn't a rare occasion) which gives me some value and that she may have been a little tipsy? I literally didn't do much at all. The girl did the "picking up" and not me lol



*Hook up Details

I end up laying in bed with her and one of her hb6 friends. They are both fighting over me at this point. Of course I don't want hb6 but I use her as a pivot. hb6 told me she was pissed off at me because I kept telling her to be a little more quiet and she was gonna bite me. I asked her if she was gonna bite me on my cheek or lip, and if she does so she has to do it gently. She said I have to find out and move in a little closer so I do, and sure enough we start kissing a little and hb7.5 was getting a bit jealous. My friends x-gf saw that and had a little talk with hb6 and hb7.5. They came back and I noticed hb6 wasn't being as flirty but still talkative. Out of nowhere hb6 and hb7.5 kiss each other. I'm thinking "holy shit this is a 3-some situation right here!" Problem is I don't even know how to transition to one haha I'm gonna have to do a little bit more reading on that one. Perhaps losing my virginity would help too..

Anyway hb7.5 is still being flirty so I just grab her and start making out with her in front of hb6. Hb6 isn't too fond of the situation and wants us to leave. She wouldn't leave herself so we end up going down stairs into the office room. We start going at it on the floor. I do the usual make out, grab boobs, roll around etc. I've never been past that! So of course I get some LMR at this point. She says, "I don't even know what you want" and I said, "Neither do I." So she straps her bra back on and we continue to make out. Then some more LMR and she says, "I don't think we should go too far." And I reply, "That's totally fine." And we continue to make out.

Now the fun part!! She takes of her shirt off because it's getting "stretched" and I start kissing her all over her body. She is getting fucking horny at this point and says the hottest words I've ever heard in my virgin life!! "Is it bad that I want to have sex with you?" I say, "Ya, but in a good way" I keep on doing the same stuff before and she says she hates me. I ask why and she says because I'm such a tease. She's getting even more horny.

Now the whatever part. I have sex anxiety if that's even a word so I don't escalate any more. After a half hour I tell her I have a confession to make. I tell her I don't believe in one night stands. (I knew I had to come up with a reason why I'm not having sex with her and I really didn't feel like telling her I'm a virgin). She's obviously a little flustered because I'm not escalating and says she's about to pass out and I say I am too so we go back upstairs to the bed. Hb6 is dead asleep and we make out some more. I start fingering her and that gets her soo horny. After a bit of moaning she pulled me out and told me that she just has to give me her number. I agreed. We cuddled the night away and the funny thing is, I never got her number lol we just never got to it.


Sooooooooo long story short I had my opportunity and fucked it up.



Any tips/advice/comments/spam/rambling is more than welcome.

Well if your curious why you didn't lose your virginity it's because of this right here:
now..
is this the problem? Are you asking how to overcome this? IF your curious as to why you didn't get laid, well you pretty much told her you didn't want to have sex in the 1st quote.

Headshot thanks for the comment I appreciate it! As far as sex anxiety goes yes that is the problem I am having. Do you have any advice on ways to overcome it?

How's it going Zack?

Believe it or not, you're not the only one with sex anxiety. Used to happen to me all the time. In fact its very similar to AA and the question that usually creeps in the back of your head is "Am I good enough?" And that could be a lot of pressure

Now here is the big question: Does the thought of sex frighten you? Or are you anxious about your performance?

If the thought of sex frightens you, the only remedy that comes to my mind is going steady with a girlfriend. Build that connection over time so that when you finally do cross that bridge, its with someone that you are comfortable with. After building that strong connection with your lady, you should be able to tell her that you're a virgin with no real consequences. Heck! Maybe she's a virgin too!

If it's about performance anxiety, think of it like an exam! I'm in college too so I know the feeling. Study up on ways to pleasure a woman with your hands, mouth, toys, whatever! PRACTICE! Learn how to notice that tickling feeling before you do climax and how to calm yourself down. PRACTICE! The internet is filled with this stuff, make a thread in the Social Shyness & Anxiety thread here on this forum and let your PUA brothers tell you how they've overcome the same problem.

In the end, its all a leap of faith. When you believe that have enough knowledge, you'll go there with almost no anxiety and brimming with confidence. Combine that confidence with the good looks you speak of, you could be unstoppable man!

I hope this helps!

~Dare~

bummer dude shoulda just let manstinct take over and find a hole and fuck it. Foreplay is fun to though don't get to bummed. Least I didnt read u were making out with guys........

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You're gonna 'have' to do 'it' sometime dude, why not do it the next time the opportunity presents itself? At least you could get some practice on girls you usually wouldnt date so you dont seem too inexperienced when you want to have sex with a girl you're REALLY into...

That's what I did when I was younger anyway

this is what I'm doing. there are two 5s who are into me and I'm just gonna use the opportunity and enjoy myself with them. since there not as attractive I'm not as nervous. Plus they're generally nice and funny, two things i like in girls, so i'm gonna give them both a good time. I'll be more thankful than they know.