Hey,


First field report, as it's the first time something's actually happened. How exciting!! This is long, I apologise, but i'm fairly happy so it's an important story for me.

So for New Years I didn't have anywhere to go so I figure 'no way am I staying in, I'll go out on my own if I have to', so I decided to go to a club that had an event on with bands and such. Some things happened, and I'd like people to critique and help me out, because I gotta say, IMO I got slightly further than ever before (not far overall though):

Firstly however, I've noticed that although I poo-pooh it, and overall I don't' like the idea of going out alone, it seemed to work on this night, and i'm not sure if it was just because it was New Years, but people were fine with me being alone and were very accepting and welcoming.

Ok on to significant things. My dress was a smart new grey shirt with the sleeves rolled up, a cuff and good watch, with the shirt open and a chain on (a guitar pick and cross pendant) and I had a grey tie on just hanging lazily slightly undone pulled down around my neck (wouldn't normally wear this, but it came free with the shirt so I thought WTF? Why not.) Jeans and Loafers. I thought this was significant as I must have looked good or something. I never really have opened girls, but tonight was special; chicks were opening me. As such, I may wear this more often. What do ya reckon?

Ok so first 'action', I was watching some band and a hot chick stands next to me alone, like an 8 or 9, she was my type (brunette, brown eyes). She was slightly slutty but I was hoping that was due to the drink. She imitated my dance moves and was copying me. I smiled, she smiled. Then, she said something to me. Have no idea what it was, as the band was loud (no shit..). So, after the band finished, I took her hand and danced with her proper, rather than just band moshing. Again, she's saying something, which I had no idea what it was. In order to hopefully get conversation going I asked if she wanted to go outside but she wouldn't. I figured this wouldn't work being too soon but was worth a shot. Then she muttered something about being 'so drunk'. Does this mean anything, is it code? Why would she say that?
She then said she had to get back to her friends. I know this is code for "F off" but she seemed fairly welcoming before, and I couldn't say anything before because she couldn't hear. So I thought, hey I'll go with you, meet your friends. Grabbed her hand, she seemed receptive, squeezed my hand. She then said 'oh I need to go to the toilet' as we went past it. After reading advice on here, I thought what you have to do is not wait for her as it shows neediness otherwise, so I stood slightly away and started dancing again. Lo and behold, she must have bailed as I didn't see her come out but saw her later that night with another dude. Thought it'd be foolish to call her out on it. Damn. She DID open me though, so not like she didn't lie me initially and it seemed good. What could I have done?

On to chick numero dos. Reaching 12 and i'm alone. Apparently it's tradition that you kiss someone. Never knew that and dunno why. Some girl comes up and says 'would you like to kiss me?'. She was about a 6.5, though I didn't really get a look at her. I'd like to say at this time that I've never kissed a girl before. It's not every day some girl comes up and offers that. I think the smart man says yes, right?



So i'm thinking "FUCK WHAT DO I DO!!?!?!?" and she's fine, because I'm sure it's not a big deal, and i'm sure not sexual either. She says 'are you straight?'. I'm sure this is code as well for something. Obviously I say yes. Comes time, and....I freeze. I thinking 'HOLY SHIT THIS IS IT, THIS IS A SIGNIFICANT MOMENT IN MY LIFE, I'M 19, I SHOULD HAVE DONE THIS WHEN I WAS ABOUT 10 AND THIS IS IT. BABY STEPS.' And I think, 'do I really want it to be like this, I really imagined it to be some sort of pickup and romantic and shit. I don't really want to do this'. And I fuck it up, really. She says 'so are we going to kiss?' I couldn't say 'oh i'm nervous as it's my first time and i'm not sure I want it to be with you, and like this' so I say yes. But I don't do it. She then goes 'do you actually want to kiss me?' and the moment has just turned into the most awkward Michael Cera movie imaginable. So I (FOOLISHLY!) say "Well, go on then..!!" And she does, and it's brilliant. But she's pissed off, I don't kiss back or anything, wouldn't know how. She goes off straight afterwards and must have thought I was the biggest psycho killer weirdo. Never saw her again. I go off in an awesome daze and get a beer. I realise this isn't a 'pick-up', it's just a thing people do at New Years, but there must have been a reason she chose me rather than every other joe there.

I had other 'hits' in the night where I was dancing with chicks and some girl thought she knew me from earlier in the night, I wasn't that guy but thought I'd go along with it. She was nice, more the type I should be going for (slightly nerdy, not a slut) and liked me i'm sure, but she disappeared which was a shame. I left after the place thinned out.

I've learnt that you should never really hold on to something as it doesn't work like that in the real world, you should just jump in the deep end rather than wade in.
I've also learnt that the opening in clubs really boils down to dancing in front of other chicks, with a smile on your face and eye contact. They'll do the rest and it's easier from there. No silly lines or thinking what to say.

If anyone could read this and give me tips for what I should have done (as I had no clue as all i've been focussing on is the opener as I haven't had that interaction, and didn't really expect it), and in general for sarging, that'd be really nice. Thanks everyone, and may this new year bring everyone what they want....AND GET ME LAID!

Hey man!

Nice field report and nice you went out eventhough you where on your own.

I think you need to be more alpha, don't hesitate, make decissions and go for it eventhough it might be wrong ones. At least it shows confidence.

Also if the place is too loud: avoid it. They are TRAPS! Woman who dont want to talk go there.

_________________
Hi, I need your female opinion on this...

Well - to be totally honest, I think it is good progression, especially seeing as it was your first time alone, which itself; is a daunting feat.

From this FR, I can determine atleast 2 solid things:

- You are straing to have a personal confience within yourself which comes from the material you've read - from the advice from the community. You dont specifically say if you use canned material - or even mix it with a more natural style, but it doesn't matter.
You may not have a full confidence in yourself yet, but you have confidence in what you know - it is what makes you quite potent already.

- You become startled when you start getting even a little bit of success, and find make rationalisations to yourself as to why it is happening. For example - you say that this girl wanted to kiss you - and you rationalise this thought because it is new years; that may be the case. However - you didn't consider the fact that you were dressed well and that she seemed quite keen to kiss you... is it not beyond belief that a girl actually wanted to kiss you? not at all!

One more thing I suggest you stop doing - drinking beer. It makes your cum taste very bitter - deffinatly a turn off for a woman, it creates a horrid morning after "beeriod" and beer farts are less than desirable.

Try drinking something smoother, Gin n Tonic with a lemon twist is always good. Fresh, won't give you smelly breath - very toxic! so dont have too many haha!

You should try sarging im bars to start with, where you can actually talk to a target and run a few routines on them if you wish, personally - i love the Cube routine, i always include it as part of my game.

My club dancefloor game isnt too bad, but it suffers - im a bigger guy - so graceful movment is something that must be practiced regularly.. but non the less - it is essential to have good have a good sence of timing, and actually know the club songs..

Your dress sence seems to be pretty spot on, as long as you have a good idea of colour compliments / contrasts / and all your clothes actually fit well.. you'll be fine.

I think with time and practice you'll become a deadly PUA.

-Illusionist

_________________
"They were right when they said "just be yourself" they just never told you what "self" to be.." - Gunwitch

First, I responded to a posting on here about going clubbing alone. Here is the link, it might help you out:

viewtopic.php?p=314059

I think your game was cool but you need to open and not let the girl do this. Most girls in my experience that did open to me were the slutty types. So if that is what you are into, then all the best. But by you opening, you are taking the lead and being in control of the situation.

Your clothes sounds like it is working for you. Keep it but don't let it be your only clothing arsenal.

Not once did you ever mention about number closing. You need to do this soon before the attraction fades. Set yourself some imaginary timeframe. Cause it sounds like to me you gave her too much time and then the girl(s) got to the point where the attraction faded. She was giving you all the hints but you didn't close on her.

Drunk girls can be the easiest girls to close on. Adjust your game accordingly.

Best,

J-Dub

_________________
J-Dub in DC

Its better to be the predator than the prey.

You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.

Bah LOL! .. 3 replys all at the same time.. insane..

_________________
"They were right when they said "just be yourself" they just never told you what "self" to be.." - Gunwitch

I'd almost edit my reply to:

"First!"

Ghe he he .

_________________
Hi, I need your female opinion on this...

wow sounds scary but fun

_________________
newborn feeling good!
"[One of] the biggest risk in your life is the risk you don't take" - some guy on MTV's Jersey Shore