Hi Guys,

Sorry for the long one...

I went to the only good club in Des Moines at midnight, just myself (no wingmen). I had on a Northface jacket, blue casual shirt and jeans that were far from fancy. I'm 6'3" and pretty good looking. I did a loop around this bar and went to the restroom which was a 10 minute process. I had a chance to check the sobriety of my foe. I was stone sober and I had confidence. My hair looked great and I smelled great. I walked through the place and I was like wow! 8's and 9's all over the place. There was at least one 10. Since I'm new on the scene, I just smiled, laughed and walked around. I had a dozen IOI's with a dozen ladies... I love club music and parked myself in front of the dance stage which was packed.

As I'm dancing by myself in front of the stage I begin to feel another person's ass rubbing my ass. This happened throughout the 4 minute song. I asked a guy next to me if she was cute and he nodded yes. After the song I turned to her and she was definitely a 7, maybe 8. I said thanks for the ass dance. I pointed to my right cheek (face) for a kiss. She kissed. I pointed to the left cheek (face) she kissed, and then I pointed to my lips. She kissed. Now I'm stuck... If I had a plan of attack, I could easily take her home. Instead, I continue to dance with her face to face. I find out she's a Bud Light girl for some bar. She's hot and I don't know what to do. Here's what I end up doing.

I bail and dance with a Brazilian guy that I know from my building. She randomly dances with guys and stares at me the rest of the evening... Damn!

I think I have oneitis with a girl I know that was in the place...

Shit.

Charisma

With a girl who is already that into you, go caveman. When you were dancing with her, you should have madeout and just generally have been more physical--you have to escalate!

In terms of a plan, just bounce her to the lounge area, talk a bit (qualify her so she understands why you like her for more than her looks), re-escalate, and try to bounce her out (or you could go for the bathroom pull).

I like the confidence though. I think too much emphasis is put on opening immediately (3-second rule anyone?). As long as you are not bothered by being alone and out of set, no one else will be.

I've got this oneitis going on with an 8/9 that was at the club. I should have gone caveman.

I think I'd do better alone but still working on it. I'm only a month into this new world.

Thanks for the advise Brad!