What's up fellas, I haven't wrote an FR in quite sometime, but I felt you guys can learn something from this at least. I've been going out on dates more consistently and it's pretty much on whole other level for me. This particular FR is from a chick I met off POF. So just sit back, relax, and enjoy...
I know you guys with love this one, and hopefully can offer some solid advice...
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So, I have been dabbling on POF for a couple weeks now and have had 2 success D2's in the past 2 weeks so far. One which resulted in a Handjob, KClose, but failed short of the close....
HBPof and I had been talking & texting back and forth for the past two weeks. During our first call, I made sure I established a Sexual Frame so I can spike her BT at any given time. Half of our conversations were sex related so I knew she was down. All I had to do was meet her and not **** it up. Sounds simple, right? Well, it was...
7:00 pm - 8/05/09 - Universal City Walk
We set up the day 2 to meet up at Universal City Walk for dinner & entertainment. The date initially was suppose to be at 6:30 but if anyone's been on the 101 freeway, you'll know that it's the WORST FUCKING FREEWAY IN THE WORLD! I ended up being over 30 mins late, so that didn't turn out to be good. Regardless, I didn't apologize (even though it was my fault hahaha)
I text her letting her know I'm around. She tells me what she's wearing and I proceed to scan through the family oriented plaza. As I'm walking, I spot her from a distance and couldn't help but to set my eyes soley on her, she stood out like a beautiful rose. We lock eyes as we walk towards each other and as soon as I get close to greet her, I establish my frame as the aggressor. I locked eyes, stopped and waited for her to come to me, instead of the usual hand greet I grabbed her left cheek gently and proceeded to kiss her elegantly. After, I had her spin for me to release a bit of the tension and guide her throw another emotion.
HBPof looked stunning in her white dress, brown ruffled boots, hair perfectly sliding down her face, make-up spread out evenly close to perfection, & a pleasant scent of cinnamon perfume. She was not what I expected; She looked nothing like her profile pics. She resembled Khloe Kardashian (Kim Kardashian's sister) in the way she carried herself; style and etiquette wise. This chick definitely had style and pazzaz.
After the meet & greet we proceeded to walk around a bit and enjoy the attractions. Chiefly, she led me into 'Buca,' an Italian restaurant dead smack in the middle of a packed plaza. This is where I ****** up, I should've led right off the bat but I was very unfamiliar with the area. (I hadn't been there in so long) Regardless, I think I handled it well.
The conversation flew very smooth and I made it a point to avoid awkwardness at all cause. I did this by fulling giving into the moment and not forcing anything. I held eye contact through out the whole dinner and it never once felt uncomfortable. The IOI's were flying everywhere as I struck a different emotion chord in each thread convo. The whole dinner we were laughing and having a good time. What really struck me was when the check came and it was time to pay. As soon as the check arrived, she immediately grabbed it and popped out her Credit Card. If this isn't attraction, I don't
Also, I unconsciously used a bit of NLP patterns that I've been holding in my head for quite sometime. One of my biggest fear since joining the community was connecting with a woman on an emotional level. With this chick, I connected on multiple levels and quite frankly it felt great. Decibel put it eloquently in his post, "We all want to love and be loved."
After dinner, we walked around a bit before she had to head out. She was holding my hand the whole time. I felt as if this was a bit rushed so a bit of neediness came out of me as I tried to force more time. As a result, I came off a bit incongruent and I think it showed. Whatever, I don't do D2's very much anyways. i walk her to the car and the big moment comes up. The part where the guy is suppose to kiss the girl. **** that. I grabbed her fucking wrist and gently slammed her against her BMW. I placed her wrist over her head (this releases adrenaline and it's a vulnerable position for woman that ramps up the sexual attraction) and looked her deeply in her eyes and passionately made out with her. Her lips were fucking soft...
All things considered, I felt the D2 went really well but I felt it could've been better. My biggest sticking point is showing Sexual intent, although I did on the phone, It's not the same in person. Anyone got tips for that? Also, I did a poor job of leading because D2's are a bit unfamiliar to me so I kinda came in with out a plan. Tips for that welcomed...
Over all, the attraction was there, she likes me and I like her. Let's see where this goes. I haven't felt anything for a chick in quite sometime because I guard myself against everything. I think it's time to let go......
Thank You...
-JoRocK
Casanova Crew
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