Check this, I joined the PUA forum yesterday and on the same day I had a date. I had organised the date the day before. To be honest, I was nervous…which is strange as after all I am the 3 C's - Cool, Calm and Collected (My theory is that the most important asset a man, is CONFIDENCE and the 3 C's for me is the recipe to portray that level of confidence)!!
Ok, so I got some good advice in the chat forum last night, CIN, Doctor, PetesPete etc you were all great but it was not so much the advice it was the real encouragement and "good luck" stigma that I appreciated most of all. But fact is I had been on PUA for a day and already everyone made me feel like i had joined the best site in the world. Especially for me who has been a PUA enthusiast for quite a while...i dont get why i didnt join earlier.
OK enough feedback but for those involved you know who you are and thanks again.
THE DATE….
Yesterday evening - 1st date with Carla from a dating website, never met or spoken on the phone before. Has agreed to meet me at London Euston station and have dinner with me. I told her I knew somewhere and to leave it to me…it was the restaurant in the hotel that my work have me staying in and they pay for my food expenses, so it makes sense its just a shame as the pretty waitress who works there, I had flirted with on a few occasions was there and she seemed quite annoyed with me having a dinner date...me and the waitress had not yet moved past showing IOI’s to each other and I haven’t yet found a way to transition it and move forward with her…but I spoke with here when my date for the night, Carla was in the loo and she seemed off compared to the usual flirting and I left her alone.
Ok, Carla, 7/10, recently broken up, thinks all men are A-holes, wants to find that special one (We've all heard this story before i'm sure..it so Romcom)…. Ok MR 3 C's (thats me)shows up, i have the PUA recomended Armani for men, i have a shirt on which flatters the fact i work out and some smart jeans with a brown belt and shoe combo...whats unique; well little details that show i take care so i have got myself a tan and i had my eye brows waxed (a bit vain...but different from the normal guy - taking the rule that you want to stand out), no painted nails and nothing that outrageous yet – I suppose that would be better attracting new people in a club or something.
Anyway Carla comes..shes late –I had agreed 7.30 and she turned up at 8 - great chance however to avoid awkward hellos and jump in with a neg (i knew she has foreign blood) and i say humourously, "so is it a foreign thing to be late or were you just nervous about meeting this mysterious guy off the net?" - she laffs but quite quickly goes quiet... I am worried the converstaion is going to go shit so i start talkin and boy do i fuking go off and tallk when the other person is quiet...i realised later the trick was to get her talking. So I tell her all kinds of shit… what I do, why I am on the dating website, what I am looking for – 10 minutes of this and I realise – IM NOT AN AFC, SO WHY THE FUCK AM I ACTING LIKE ONE!!! So I turn it around, I change my style, I adopt the 3 C’s, “why did you want to see me tonight then?”, “What did you expect?”…I told her she was shorter then I thought she would be but it was ok! I also said that she was attractive for a plain girl and her responses to these comments were very positive and made her laughed (IOI’s) - (I remember thinking to myself, its ironic that she has the whole, “all men are arseholes” thing in her head but she only really laughs when I act like one and when I do I get an ioi in return) …this was the start of my success.
You see from that I would ask her questions; she would answer and then I would remark in a cocky funny De Angelo sort of way – this lowered her barrier down which was very much up at that start – I also told her I would take that barrier down as she cant judge all men in the same way. I slowly but surely planted my seed, and lowered her barrier, she relaxed and at the start of the meal it was me who could not shut up…by the end fuk me did she ever shut up
The meal, we skipped starters had a main with a bottle of Pinot grigio rose, we shared a dessert and had some coffees…the time ran out quickly and before we knew it we were the last people in the restaurant. I say to her, the only place I can think of going is my hotel room however nothing is going to happen and I am not going to make a move on you, it would just be nice to carry on our conversation though”…she said, “Yeah, I would like that”…at this point I am thinking yeah baby get in – when I am lone with a girl in that scenario I am the fuking man…I knew then she was mine…or was I being complacent?!?!
I forgot to mention that during my nervous beginning, trying to engage her stages at the start of the meal I pulled a few routines, so my favourite…make a rose out of a paper napkin, the 5 question game then leading on to what card – they always say ace of spades, what veg, they say carrot and a number between 1-10 is normally 7…if it doesn’t work pull out the we obviously have nothing in common line and turn away I bet u she fights for your attention as she will have enjoyed a bit of interaction already and will want more…bottom line I played this girl it took a 3 hour meal but I turned it around from her being a closed up, quiet man hater to her chatting away telling me all her life stories giving me iois and coming back to my room at the end of it all…
So we get to my room…1st thing I do is I go on my laptop and check my mail, she then goes to the bathroom etc…anyway she then almost plays me by putting her back to me and saying she will need to go soon (im thinking is she a pua or am I just playing this wrong) so I grab a pen and paper and whilst she’s lying on my bed I stay away from her sat on a chair (ive still not kissed her yet btw) and say your into fashion and design (that’s what she is studying), and I like doing portraits of people, I tell her some bullshit story that when my father lived in paris I worked on the streets and did portraits for cash funnily enough she tells me she had a portrait once in Paris and it was awful…anyway I sit there and spend the next 5-10 minutes appearing to be drawing with great intent and enthusiasm a really accurate portrait of her concentrating on every detail I use this time to flirt, flatter and get her to open up – as she thinks I am distracted drawing this picture she is happier talking…anyway after the 5-10 minutes I say to her if you like this portrait you have to pay for it im not just giving it away my art for free…I take pride in it…she is like yeah and then I tell her im very sensitive and not to critisize- by this point she is like just show it me I wanna see it – she even tried grabbing it out my hands so I say you really want to see it… I join here on the bed, she still wants to see my portrait of her…she eventually gets it (by this point we are lying in my bed and my arm is around here), she sees the picture and its this really shitty tinny little stick man – she laughs out with laughter for a good 4/5 seconds she found it so amusing…I then look at here laughing and I pause and I Kiss her – we then role about the bed smooching….carry this on for a while and shortly after I roll her over and start trying a bit of foreplay – she tells me, “I don’t sleep with guys on 1st dates” – I say, “well, I never sleep with guys”…we carry on kissing, I am getting excited and she seems to be, she stops.. ”even if I did sleep with guys on 1st days we cant physically anyway” – I realise she is on her period etc…anyway by this point her train home is due in like 5 -10 minutes so I ask her a series of questions about what is she doing the next day to see if there was any reason why she wouldn’t be able to stay- she seems unsure at first but then I start getting ready for bed and she goes along with it, I confirmed it by offering her a t-shirt to sleep in. I liked this girl and I thought I would rather spend the night with her then alone even if I don’t get sex… We cuddle smooch I even manage to play with her clit but she was not very keen…we stay up play a little. Grind a little and chat.
Thenext morning we wake up and I get all direct on here after having what was a very soppy and nicey nicey approach the night before…the night before I had also told her that it did not bother me weather it’s the time of the month or not and it can even be better sometimes…I told her to go the bathroom, remove anything that would get in the way of a little game I want to play called just the tip – I had explained that all I was going to do was use my cock to play with her clit and if she excited me I would let her have the tip…she went along with this (to my suprise) and I played the game and ofcourse it fuking excited me so much so I fuked her!! But she then played me ...we had already agreed to each other on the Monday and she stopped me half way through and said I want you to luck forward to me on Monday and made me stop fuking her I was not happy but she played me, it was a guarantee to herself that she would see me on Monday night…
Now I want to continue playing her as she is playing it very cool – wer do I go from here?? Has all the work been done?? What could I have done better.
Peace all from a PUA to another – I am focused on being better!!
3 C’s – Cool, Calm and Collected!
lets hope I have more successful stories but I actually get to finish and the girl doesn’t stop me!
CHAT