Boredom gives great practice
A couple of months ago, I was visiting my friend in Sarpsborg. While he used to be my best friend, something between us had gone wrong and now he was much more boring and difficult to talk to. Living outside a town with 50 000 inhabitants with a guy that's not as interesting as before, is just boring, so I used most of my time reading books, old posts on the forums and a new book on pickup I had gotten.
Anyway..
My friend invited some of his friends over (three guys and two girls. Lets just call them A, J, O, S and HB). It was still pretty boring, so while the others were pretty quiet, I sat there talking to O, while chatting on MSN on my laptop.
So we were sitting there in the couch, someone playing video games, and the rest of us talking. While sitting there, talking with O, knowingly steering the conversation (for fun), HB wants to join in.
For the record: HB (a 9) is actually J's boyfriend, but their relationship has become more of a FB-relationship. J mostly ignores her.
HB: "Hey, what are you talking about?"
Nightfox: "Don't interrupt, wait for your turn"
*more talking with O, but I'm gradually letting her join*
We end up talking about TV-shows, and being a big fan of Showtime's Dexter, I talk enthusiasticly about it. Then I lean forward and say:
"Both of you are going to do one thing for me. Both of you are going to go home and watch that show, because it's pure greatness" O says that of course he'll do that, and HB giggles.
Since I have my portable harddrive and my laptop, I show O a few minutes of Dexter. While navigating through the folders, HB discovers that I've named my harddrive Bible Black.
HB: "Oh my God, it's called Bible Black"
Nightfox: "Congratulations, you can read..."
HB: "Nooo! So you've watched the hentai, huh?"
Nightfox: "No (which is true), but clearly you have. I've heard some sick stuff about it. So.. You actually like that stuff and those fetishes? Doesn't surprise me..."
HB punches me in the arm and giggles, I smile because I know from this that she's into me.
Nightfox: "But seriously, is it true that they [some kind of thing they do there]? And you like that?" *obviously moving away from her and saying, jokingly: "Don't talk to me anymore", before turning*
HB tries to reinitiate the conversation, and I respond "Hey, don't talk to me". HB giggles more and moves towards me.
Anyway. I show some Dexter to O, turning my laptop against him. HB turns it a bit towards her. I turn it back. She turns it towards her. I turn it back. I smile jokingly.
O and I talk, while the others are watching videos on Youtube.
I decide to pour myself a glass of Coke, so I stand up an pick up the bottle, sit down and decides to lead O a bit. I make him hold both his and my glass, and I start pouring. HB holds her glass in front of me, assuming that she'll get some. But I decide to tease her some more, and put down the bottle after pouring O's and my glasses. She giggles loud and says "Nooo, I want some too!". I pour her a glass of Coke. I smile.
HB is now more or less completely hooked. She's turned completely away from her boyfriend, leaning alot towards me, laughing at stuff I say, and just listening to everything O and I discuss.
O and I are now discussing politics, and for some social proof towards HB, my goal is to completely change what O means. At the end of the conversation, after just leaning back and discussing, O has totally changed. Whatever I say, he believes. For every opinion he comes with, I make him actually change his opinion and say "0mg, I've never though of it like that" and "Wow, you're completely right". HB is now leaning towards me even more, pecking everytime I talk. Turns out this was a great way of building social proof.
I now include HB in the conversation and make her talk.
In Norway, we have a show called Snabbgrabbar that has earned alot of attention and is hugely popular. Alot think it's extremely funny, and someone (including me) don't. The other guys are now watching it on Youtube (via Wii's web browser), and I express my opinion about the show and how I like very few of the sketches. Most of them disagree, but after telling them why, I manage to convince almost everyone that I am actually right. People now consider me the leader of the room. Everytime someone says something, they talk to me. More social proof ^^
So, everybody shuts up and watch Snabbgrabbar, everyone except HB. HB watches once in a while, but mostly, she watches me. Especially when they reach a punchline. She watched me every single time, and if I laughed, she laughed, if I didn't, she didn't.
Everyone leave on scooters (is that what they're called in english? Vespas?). HB is the slowest, and we end up alone. I decide to try leaving her and see how that goes. I walk about 4 meters before she says "Wait for me!!!", almost desperately. It made my night
Why didn't I close and build kino?
First of all, her boyfriend was there. I don't take other peoples girls And while he doesn't care about her, I still didn't want to make dramacrack by doing anything more with her. This is, after all, my friends best friend, and he would have hated me for it.
I considered to isolate her and kiss her by doing the following: We often had to refill the popcorn, and I made popcorn twice. I considered standing up, taking the bowl while saying "I'll go make some more popcorn" and then turn to her and say "Come join me.". Doing that, I think I quite easily could have kissed her.
What did I learn?
The power of negs and teasing
The power of leading men and building social proof
That changing other peoples meanings, really proves my status as an alpha man.
So! Any comments? Anything I could have done better? I also want to know how I could have built kino without her boyfriend noticing (even though I hardly think he noticed her at all that evening).
CHAT
