Warning - this looks pretty long for a simple K-close report. I'm posting it here because I feel that it's more a report than it is a topic for discussion, despite questions being present.

Watched football at mine. Invited a few friends over - one turned up. Plus one housemate.

Drank and chatted, ect. Decided to go out, friend left like a gay. Told my housemate that we needed to go anyway.

Hit the club at approx 11:30 - rather quiet but gave me a good opener. Spoke to a whole bunch of people, guys and girls, just general chat + friendly banter. Friend decided he needed to go outside to smoke (it's an underground club) so I stayed on the dancefloor for a while, went to the stage portion and chatted with a few people, tried to save a guy from getting kicked out when he annoyed the idiot DJ. All standard stuff!

At some point in this I spotted 2 girls that I wanted to open. Decided against both as one looked very close with some black guy on the dancefloor and one was in a set of about 10 including a girl in a bridemaid dress. Felt that would have been an impossible task alone so decided to wait it out a little.

Decided my friend was taking too long, had a quick wander around to the entrance/exit where there was a queue, the dancing girl walked past towards the exit, I stop her

"I hope you're not planning to queue to leave. That's not a good option"

HB 8.5 Laughing; "no, no. I'm looking for someone"

"Me too! Let's look together. We'll do a clean sweep!"

I take her hand and she squeezes me tight. We walk around a little (it's not a big place, but has a few rooms) and she thanks me continuously, we are pretty close as we walk and she tells me that she's looking for her "partner" which I ignore but hate the sound of. We get to where I saw them dancing originally and she kisses my cheek and leaves.

I continue about my business for now, find my friend and we decide to go to the quiet bar. Low and behold I turn around and HB 8.5 is standing very close. She looks rather nervous (has her arms crossed)

"I feel really attracted to you. I can't explain it but I feel spiritually like I need to come and speak to you"

"You mean you like my aura?"

She hits me. "Don't take the piss!"

A little fluff

She asks, "How old are you?" and I tell her.

"How old do you think I am?"

"How old are you?"

"Guess"

"Give me a clue"

"Guess"

"Give me a clue"

"Guess!"

"Are you older than me?", she nods to this. My friend is stood behind me AFCing the crap out of himself but she ignores him - I was aware enough of him to know that he was dumbstruck that a hot girl came up and just started telling me how attracted to me she was. I guess that she has to be very close to my age (22 - it was an honest guess) and she freaks out before telling me that she's 30.

We fluff a little more, she keeps telling me how attracted to me that she is. She asks what I do and I tell her with a wince. I return the question, she takes a deep breath and tells me that she does nothing. I ask why not to be told that she's a mother. I reply that she does something then! To be honest I'm not freaked out at this, because I'm not looking to marry her, and she is pretty hot.

She asks me what I first noticed about her, and I pause. She giggles and tells me that it's too late, but after another pause asks me again.

"Your hair."

"Not my chest?"

"No" keeping eye contact(!!!), "your hair is very long. Is it real?"

fluff, fluff, fluff "I don't come out often. I'm not a party girl. I live in a small village ect". She tells me a little about her boyfriend, that he's not jealous and that they've been dating a few months. He pops into the quiet room briefly, telling her that her brother was worried about her, before disappearing again.

"Put your hands down", I take her hands and unfold them, holding onto them also. "Why are you so nervous?" She giggles.

"I can't decide whether you want to kiss me or not. I think you do, but I know your boyfriend is around and I'm not sure about that."

"I did want to kiss you, but you didn't respond" I know she means when she kissed me on the cheek - to be honest I thought she was going to say something so kinda turned my head a little.

She tries to change the subject, but I bring it back. "What to you mean you did. Do you now?"

No response.

"Well?"

"I'm not sure"

"Let's find out". Standard?

It's a very teasing kiss. Brief but good. I am kinda glad it was brief because last thing I want to do is get caught!

"If my boyfriend wasn't here..."

"than things might be different" I interrupt.

We talk a little more. I either am holding her hands or I hold her jeans by the pocket. At one point I pull her a little closer and kiss her again.

Her brother turns up, I introduce myself and shake his hand. Try to make conversation but he is very closed off, so she shakes my hand and leaves.

I do bump into her again later on the dancefloor when the man has gone to get drinks and have another brief chat. I had a very quick chat with him at the bar at some point in the evening as well (hi, I know you, I've heard good things, ect).

My question here is, how do I approach this?

Do I bounce and try to remove the BF altogether? I hear the term boyfriend destroyer used rather often but am still unsure as to what this is (hasn't been described in any detail in any book I've read - except potentially onf ot the NLP books).

It was odd to have her come back to find me and re-initiate conversation. But I guess that is the aim, I have no intention of chasing her around. I could tell that my social status in that room was through the roof at that point, which obviously just makes the rest of the night easier.

Second question in what seems to be becoming a random string of thoughts - why do I seem to do infinitely better with taken women? And why do they seem to open me so much more? Is this just a case of small sample sizes?

Coincidently I opened the large set girl later that evening after some large Canadian guy had tried to do some kind of ballroom dance with her. We danced a little and I told her that I would protect her, wrapping my arms around her. We left the club and she said goodbye as she walked away with her large group. I stopped her to ask where she was from as I knew she wasn't local. Asked where they were staying as we walked down the street, to which she stopped and replied that she was staying right here, pointing at a B&B right next to us. I wanted to ask if it would be inappropriate for me to kiss her, but given the situation I knew it was (2:30 - I felt it was pretty AFC and would come off as though I was just looking for someone to take home).

Took a new friend under my wing in the aftermath of all this - but he was an idiot - the kind that would shout stupid things at girls from across ths street. So we quickly parted ways. Opened a 3-set at a food van before realising they looked like crack addicts. They were waiting for food, so I asked them what was good (I'd eaten once before, on recommendation), and I exited this set too (note my standards don't drop too dramatically with the introduction of alcohol, no matter the time)