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I agree that a person she's dated commits suicide may break her, but it's not your responsibility to help her get through it unless you view yourself as just her friend. You're not going to get the girl by being there for her when she needs you. You're going to be a shoulder to cry on until the next guy comes along. I'm not unsympathetic to the situation she's in but she was going through that before she met you. If she didn't meet you, she would still be going through it.
I understand, dude. Thanks for your reply. So, what is your advice? What would you do in this case?
I don't have any advice for this girl because everything that's happened has happened and I'm not big on trying to patch up mistakes because there are so many girls out there just as good as this one. I was trying to get you thinking about next time you come across girls that have issues or start giving you reasons on why you two shouldn't see each other.
Don't try to negotiate for more than what a girl says that she wants to give. If she defines the boundaries of what she wants from you verbally, don't worry about it. Trying to verbally make a deal will cause her to want to dig in her heels and stick to what she has told you. Instead if you just acknowledge what she says with something like, "I understand" or not acknowledge it at all then you have a chance of escalating to sex the next time you see her.
Don't offer to be her platonic friend when you want more than that. She will hear that and hold you to your word if you try anything. You can eventually come back from this, but why even put yourself in that position?
Don't try to take on the roll of her hero. There are tons of men that do all of those things and most of them walk away empty handed and taken advantage of.
Most of the time when a girl has sex with you and she pulls the "I'm not ready" or "let's just be friends" type of thing will come back within days or weeks without you having to reach out to them.