Hi everyone

A situation happened to me today that I did not know how to handle. So I am posting the situation, and would like to know what would be a good way to handle it...

So after a social gathering, people started to leave. I was sitting on a bench, exchanging contact information with a woman that I'd met a couple of times at the same type of social gathering. This acquantance, whom I'd also known from some previous social gatherings was looking at us while he passed by. I saw him, so I said Hi, without knowning his real intentions. I guess my "Hi" gave him a way in. He immediately sat down on the woman's side of the bench, and started talking to the woman and said "did I see you on Sunday?" She said yes. Then he went on to talk to her about a bunch of seemingly random things, like how he had brought a girl to a dance social, and the girl got jealous when he danced with other women. He talked about how he's got this app on his phone where he can like women's pictures, and if there is a match, they'd meet. But he said he told the women he was just looking for friends. He commented that how he had a lot of confidence, etc, etc. It seemed to me that he talked about a bunch of prepared topics. But he was smart and threw in a "how did we start talking about this again" remark, to make the conversation seem like it was random and free-flowing. He was running the show and got her full attention. It was obvious to me that he was trying to run some type of game and steal the girl from me. I didn't know what to do. Just felt that I lost control of the situation. After a few minutes, I said OK I'm gonna go. The woman said she had to go too. But the guy still sticked with her. I had to leave the place in the opposite direction, and they walked out together.

So my question is, how would anyone else have handled the situation? Obviously I don't want to look upset or jealous in front of the woman, but I want to appear confident and not just watch the other guy steal the woman in front of me. I would like to know your opinions

Cheers,

Paul

You shouldn't have given up the attention for him in the first place, that way he's more alpha. Well if I were you I would totally go with the flow, like when he talks about how jealous that woman was I'd be like "yeah dude women are crazy, I got another story of the same kind..." and then you go on DHVing with your story.
It's kind of using reverse psychology, while you may actually want this guy to shut up, you have a conversation with him instead, but steal the attention and lead the talk.

I'd have likely let him go for a minute and then asked the girl to introduce me to her friend.

Hi Neiled_it. Thanks for the response. Yeah I don't know the guy well. He was looking at us as he passed by. So I just said hi out of politeness. But now I know what this person is like now.

With regards to taking back control of the conversation... he won't stop talking. And the woman can only turn her head to one side of the bench - his side or mine... Any ideas?

Cheers,

Paul

Hi Charles. Thanks for the response The woman didn't come with a friend. Maybe I could have just tapped on her shoulder and said "Ok I'm taking off. Do you want to get going?" and walk her to her car or something. what do you guys think?

You should have never acknowledge him in the first place you are what led over and gave him a way in because you spoke to the women she's thinking "ok they must be friends" so when he came over and spoke to you he made it seem like he was coming to talk to his but in actuality i bet he was eyeing that woman for at least a good 15 minutes looking for a way to approach and you gave it to him.

I'm aware of that. She knew him though.

You should have asked her to introduce you... to her 'friend'.