Cute asian girls. They are like a delicacy.

Went to a house party a friend of mine was going to for a meetup tonight. I was like the second guy there, arriving on time and bringing some beer. This was in a gay part of town, and when I got there it was mostly dudes... I was a bit... concerned. I mean I am not against gay people but I dont wanna be in a sausage fest full of em lol!

But that concern was short lived. A cute asian walked in the door and ended up sitting right next to me. I was a bit uncomfortable with how she just up and sat next to me... I kinda ignored her a bit, talking to the other people. She tried interjecting into the conversation once or twice, to which I cast aside a bit, but eventually, we got to talking.

She was from Chicago, only had been here a month. Shes a third grade teacher. We talked about lots of stuff, her experiences here in my town, what Chicago is like. Most of her time there was spent in conversation with me, but I did run out of things to talk about. Eventually other people came to talk, and I tried being the one that the conversation was directed towards, as I have seen in certain videos.

She once touched on the subject that it snows all the time in Chicago, and there is like nothing to do but make babies. That was maybe a hint, but I couldnt really tell, and I wouldnt know how to respond anyway, so I just directed the conversation casually to things there are to do there in Chicago, and what we have to do here. She had been playing with her hair and making lots of eye contact with me... I just couldnt feel it out. She was doing a lot of talking, and she actually picked up the conversation towards what I felt were becoming lulls, so I am sure she was interested in participating towards the convo, which was a good sign.

she suggested we do some paddleboard yoga sometime. She had shown me pictures on her phone of things in Chicago, and now also pictures of the yoga group. I had her text me with some info about it. I gave her my number and she texted me (cool)

Eventually the house party group got together and we began to play a card game. It was mostly a one player game for everybody, but me and asian girl were kinda like showing each other our hands, and kinda like on each others teams. Eventually people got tired of the game and we went back to conversing. I told her it was my birthday tomorrow (today, now) and we talked about it. We went back to conversing for a while, and she waited there with me until 12 AM to announce my birthday. I got some cheers. That was pretty much all asian was waiting for, she got up to go. I got a hug. Damnit, I should have walked her to her car.

I conversed with some other people afterwards for not so long, but I had spent so much time talking to asian that I really didnt know anyone else! I left after saying bye to my one friend there. I sent a text to asian saying it was nice meeting her, and to hit me up so we can do some yoga. She texted me back not long after, with all the who what when and where for it. Sounds like a good sign to me.



Ok look, my problem here is going to be crossing the line out of the friendzone. I maybe coulda made a pass and tried to make out with her tonight, but I have no idea how to go about it. I probably would have had to move her away from the table to a more secluded location, maybe out to my car... damnit, why didnt I walk her to her car?!?! Bah, I dont know what I would have done anyway. Well... I still got her number...

I guess not all is lost but still, this is the part where I never know what to do next. Last time I made a move on a friend girl like this, she stopped talking to me completely after I left. I would appreciate some suggestions.

A big thing you have to remember is to always be escalating. If you're not trying to progress things physically/romantically then you're basically keeping things stuck and you're putting a lot of the responsibility on her. For most non-extroverted women this is torturous and extremely unromantic.

Here's a patented great guide of what to do physically, The DiCarlo Escalation Latter:
http://www.tsbmag.com/2006/10/17/a-step ... scalation/

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It seems as though the persona you are projecting when you meet a new girl is that of friends rather than framing yourself as a potential lover.

It's no blame to the girl when she is shocked and severely taken aback when the guy who hadn't to that point shown intent suddenly does.

What might work here is to make an attempt to focus on being congruent from the start when you meet the next girls.

Hmm... interesting CM, thank you.
I would LOVE to be able to do that and not instantly be shut out, but that NEVER EVER EVER works for me EVER. The only thing that has worked for me is to gradually show interest. What are some examples of how to be seen as a potential lover within the first 5 minutes?

I think you may be referring to outright telling the girl you're into her from the start. What I am referring to is subcommunicating a flirtatious vibe from the word go, so she knows what's up.