I met this girl in a nightclub about a month ago. Nothing really special about it, just chatting at the bar. I got her number and we started texting each other. Now the general pattern was that she'd respond to my texts almost immediately where as I'd always respond within an hour or two, I have a full time job after all. She would never leave me hanging though and if she did she'd even seem apologetic about it.

We met up for a date last Saturday and from my perspective it went quite well. There were a couple of things that might have been a deal breaker though; such as that she's a Muslim who doesn't drink and I made it clear to her that I'm an atheist who does. Anyway, I paid for her meal and got a few kisses (with tongues) out of it.

End of the night came and she was staying at her friends, I walked her there, kissed her on the lips, she said she'd text me and I left. Got to Monday night and no text, so I did the AFC thing and text her to try to gauge what she thought. She responded almost immediately and we exchanged a few more texts which I sent the last one (it wasn't a question or anything, just some bullshit about how delicious a meal she'd eaten sounded).

It's now been over two days and I've not heard a peep out of her. I haven't texted her since and I'm wondering whether to bother or should I just write it off as a lost cause; I have too much self respect to chase lost causes. Is the fact that her texting pattern has completely changed indicative of this?

Why don’t you just text, “Hey I am doing <X> tonight which is awesome and made me think of you. I will see you then and there.”
If she complies, then game on.
If she doesn’t, but offers to reschedule and gives out a time, then game on still.
If she says nothing, doesn’t comply with no offer to reschedule or a vague one, or flakes, then game off and move on.

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"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

thing about this is that now a physical local has been established she may be off set to text now, that it can be more close and personal. Thats why I agree with what he says above on how to find out.

So I started talking to her again, communication is a lot less frequent now though. I did what you guys said I was out on x night if she wanted to meet up, she said "I don't know what I'm doing yet, but I'll let you know". Then heard nothing out of her for the next few days, including the night I suggested we meet up. She text me a couple of days later apologising for not letting me know and asking how my night was. I get the feeling I'm being messed around a bit now.

next

From your original message it sounds like you didn't have that much connection.
She has basically been using you for low-expense validation (i.e. she knows you want to fuck her, but all she is giving you is texting, which is a very very low investment for a girl)
Maybe you had some initial attraction going, and then didn't capitalize on it fast enough (in terms of getting her on a date and sealing the deal), or maybe she just was single/bored and saw you as a provider of cheap validation
Either way, next her

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

I have had some experience with this scenario myself,
I Wouldn't necessarily Write her off just yet. definally freeze her out for a good minute. go find another girl, but maintain contact with her. this works both ways by still giving her a low investment, but it keeps you from latching on to the next girl. also, if you decide to text this girl say while on a date with another, it will make the other fight for your attention in the moment because shes not getting 100% of it and she will always wonder who the other person is and could possibly provoke jelousy in her. just dont fall into this one so much that it affects your state in the field.

I haven't text her back yet, going freeze her out for a few days like you suggested. I wouldn't mind keeping in touch, she's a nice girl, but I'm not going to get my hopes up, I have practically zero expectations and it's not going to affect me in the field.