Hey guys,
I'm 20, go to community college, and live with my parents. I'm about 5'7", 120 pounds, really skinny/scrawny. I'm Indian and my skin tone is light brown. I've never had much success with girls/people in general and I want to change that.
This is my first post on this forum and I'm eager to learn and improve. I spent most of last night reading PUA material and watching day-game videos. Today, I encountered this good looking girl at the gym. This is literally the first time in my life that I've ever approached a completely random girl out in public.
After class today, I went to the gym and after my work out I noticed this attractive blonde girl with a bright yellow shirt with a group of people all wearing the words "Survivor" on the back of their shirts. I decided I would approach her. She was helping an older couple work out but not really doing anything besides standing there near them.
I came up behind her, and moved to her side so she'd see me without it being shocking, creepy, or scary. She turned about 90 degrees to face me and said "hey!" and seemed to respond well to my smile and eye contact. I said "Hi, so can I ask what you are a survivor of?"
And she then explained that she was an employee of the gym and actually not a cancer survivor like the others there. She said "blah blah blah but no, I'm not a cancer survivor, sadly." I took this opportunity to make some humor and said "Ha, sadly???" From there, we chatted about cancer patients and how fulfilling it was to help people - I mentioned my aunt had cancer and I did something similar to what she's doing. She said something about how their life perspective changes and is so good. I wish I would have built on that. It seemed like a good topic to build rapport.
Instead, I didn't have much of a response and the subject changed to boring stuff - where did you graduate, etc. And there were some longish awkward silences between that as well. At one point, I said, "well, ok, that's really interesting", nodded my head, smiled, and took a step away to walk away and she quickly re-initiated and said something that I now cannot recall. However, I couldn't think of anything to say in response and it kind of went back to more boring topics/awkward silences.
Then, she says "well, nice chatting" and I say "Yea, I'll see you around" and walk away.
Any advice? I know I had a problem keeping the conversation going. Looking back, I should have tried to stay on the topic of the positive effects of helping and dealing with people who have cancer. I ended up asking stupid/boring questions (example: do you like your co-workers?) ugh
because I couldn't really think of anything and I was just grasping at straws.
Beyond that, say I did a little better building rapport, what would be a good way to close with her number? Like a transition into that.
Also, she said she works at the gym, so I'll be seeing her around. If I see her again, would it be a good idea to approach again? Say, "hey I didn't catch your name last time," or something like that?
CHAT