I wanted to share a my experience about 2 different guys. One hot, one not. Which one did I go out with?
Here we go!

Hot Navy Body Builder Guy

Day 1.
I was selling TV's at work one day when an extremely handsome man caught my attention. This guy was a 10. Probably an 11. Taller than my bedroom door. Built like an ox. Nice strong jaw line. Blue eyes oh my.
I approached him like I did every other customer on my sales floor. Only, I added a little more swing in my hips and subtracted one less button secured on my shirt. We started chatting. I was amused by his friendly banter. He was funny and wasn't afraid to throw negs. I could tell right away that he liked me. He left with a new TV and my number.

Day 2.
After much texting, he took me out on a date. We were going to check out this poetry slam at some jazz club. He picked me up at my house. The jazz club was 45 minutes away so we had lots of time to talk. I learned that he was a sailor and seemed surprisingly like a family man. There I was, listening to him talk about his nieces and nephews, wonder what I had done to deserve such a perfect man. Seriously... why is he so perfect? Is this guy up to something?... I texted my best friend and asked her to call me every 45 minutes to check if I'm alive.

On the way to this unknown club, we got lost. This is probably where he failed at build comfort. It's 11:50pm and we're parked near a dock. I told him that getting lost was fine, because the club didn't sound cool anyways. We got out and walked around a bit, checking out all the sweet boats docked. I thought it would be fun to pretend we were shopping for boats together.

Suddenly he just grabs my hand! No kino escalation at all. It was a bit shocking. I was a tad uncomfortable, even though I didn't understand why. It started to get cold so we head back to the car. He tells me I should come over to the barracks on base and that I need to meet his roommate. He made his roommate sound like the most white trash, hillbilly person alive. Apparently I needed to hear it. Hopeful that the date will pick up, I go along.

We get there and I spend a good 10 minutes trying to hold in my laughter as his roommate explains how to catch squirrels good enough to eat. After that the date made its way into the bedroom. I inquire about his aspirations and what led him to be a body builder. It's all quite impressive. We're sitting on his bed talking and leans in to kiss me. I kiss him back waiting to feel a tingle. Nothing! I try again but this time running my hands on his built chest. Maybe then I'll get aroused? Nope. Nothing. This guy seemed like everything I could ever ask for. Funny, sexy, family guy that's financially stable. But there was no zing

After that I asked to go home. I stayed up all night talking to my best friend, trying to figure out WHY CAN'T I LIKE THIS GUY?!!! He was my type and MORE. Just no attraction No stirring in the underpants.


Boyfriend for 2 years
My ex boyfriend was a 4. An associate even asked me "what the hell are you doing with that guy?" like it offended some people that I was going out with someone visually unappealing. He started stepping up as alpha. Leading the group. Having other women DHV to him. He built attraction, comfort and ultimately got laid. We actually broke up because he got drunk and cheated on me. It was an interesting relationship though.

Moral of the story
Looks aren't everything. I couldn't sexually excited even if that "Navy Guy" stood naked with a 10 inch hard on. Yet my ex got me turned on all the time and let's just say... he's not the kinda guy you see on a porno.

Good stuff. I might try to game this broad

Dude! Instead of adressing IttyBitty directly, you talk like she´s not even around in her own thread ("...this broad") and you state that you will "try" gaming her? Well good luck with that bro your "opener" wasn´t very promising...

That just needed to be said, but now to your original post little lady...
Now isn´t it interesting how someone that is seemingly perfect fails to rock our boats? I know that feeling, cause this happens to me pretty often too. Some girls give me a boner just by standing there and brushing up to me lightly, while my procreative organs show no sign of arrousal even while passionately kissing other, much hotter girls. Still enjoy the kissing a lot, because kissing is a wonderful thing to do and of course cause it´s a sign of successful conquest... But why is it like that? These are my humble ideas on this mystery:

Perfection, or at least perceived perfection is boring for one thing. With that comes the the phenomenon that when we rationally think that someone has "it all" it´s often our intellect that notices this and not our heart (or genitals for that matter). What happens then is that our conscious mind tells our ego, or our self that this person objectively has what we´re looking for and that we therefore SHOULD fancy him/her. And that doesn´t work, because there is no "should" in attraction. Attraction simply isn´t the result of logical analysis, which get´s us back to Styles insight that attraction is not a choice...
Then there is the chemistry you didn´t maybe take into account. I mean the literal chemistry, like how our system reacts to a persons smell f.e.. We subconsciously notice someones scent and the more primal parts of our brain register/analyze this scent through which it can determine how different a potential mates genetic setup is to our own. The more different this setup the more likely we are to hook up, because the more different we are genetically, the better the chance to produce healthy children.
And then, but this is total theory - you will certainly know this better yourself - you are a girl that is acquainted with pickup which might screw up the way you perceive. Willingly or not you might rate if the guy is doing things "right", whether he has game and if he´s on top of it. Your comment that you were a bit alienated by him taking your hand without the proper amount of kino-escalation prior to that points that way. That also shows that you are actually looking for and finding flaws to dismiss the "you should like"-command your conscious mind tried to issue to yourself. Nobody that has any selfrespect likes to be told what we should or shouldn´t do or feel. Apperently not even if it´s ourselves trying to push us around!

Anyway that´s all the smartassing I have for you on this subject. I find it interesting that a girl posts on here, quite an opportunity to learn about aspects of the game from a female point of view! Do you apply any of the stuff we male PUAs do on men, do you actively game guys and how does that work out for you? I noticed that many female friends of mine, just like some of the women I close show great interest in what I have to say on the subject of how to get to a girl and not so rarely start applying what I say themselves, or generally come to me seeking my council or opinion on their guy-issues...

love+respect little sister!

Haha this is like some kind of reverse pick up journal.

I don't really know what went wrong for him he seemed like a pretty sick guy.

Dunno if this might push some buttons but did you feel entitled to him? Did you feel the internal confidence that you deserved this specimen.

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Itty bitty I just want to say thank you for this report. I havnt been spending much time in the forums since getting more acclimated to where I want to be and having a lot on my plate with my business which makes me sick of working on the computer....but Id very much like to hear more from you. You seem like a highly intelligent classy woman who can actually help intelligent guys who have a lot going for them to learn how to meet a womans needs better, which is really what the venusian arts are all about.

So let me ask you. Do you think it was only kino that was missing that caused attraction to not be built? Or were there other elements you think would have contributed as well?

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Now I want to see what the "4" guy looked like.

Interesting read its different to hear the other side of things. Although call me paranoid I do have my doubts!


Raven

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Great Post, thanks for sharing. Like someone above me said, it's nice to hear the other side of things.

That was freakin awesome girl..i appreciate your "female" analysis..i def wouldnt want to try to pick u up because you will know like another coach has the other teams plays and thats almost scary..but i loved the way/style u posted very entertaining funny and id have to admit cute

Yeah, right.