| hey just reentered the Game after a long hiatus trying to get my life together and being in a long term relationship with a HB12( and yes i use numbers higher than 10 when they are a ten but also like that girl that u deserve, and like on a deeper lever ) a girl that i got by the way with seduction/pua learning.
So I went back to reading seduction material, listening to audio tapes, and watching videos. I learn from everybody, David deangelo, mystery, real social dynamics and love system.
Nov. 12,2013
hey guys these are my experiences as i try to get better at this stuff. i decided to start these as a way to keep track of my progress for myself so if people out there find me annoying or w/e, that's okay. with that said, i do hope these posts are read and inspires or helps at least one soul out there who is in the same journey as me. Also, i can write at a college level and have straight A's( I'm currently in college) so i can spell and write eloquently if i wanted to, but i'm too lazy to do so in these posts so don't bother correcting grammar or criticizing story format. but i would take into account tips for making these stories more bearable to read. fianally any tips on how i can better my game would be appreciated.
things that I have learned so far from the anecdotes below are these:
Approaching will not 'kill' you in the least, you'll find that it's just a great way to meet people and have experiences with them and until now I haven't had even one bad experience approaching and i used to be scared shitless of approaching; it helps to frame it in a positive context: my goal when i approach is not to get laid(if it happens that's great though) my goal is to meet new people and have a great time with them and give any woman i meet a good time, so if she is not up to it ,then she misses out in having fun. but me having fun is also a big factor.
i decided to take it step by step and start early so i started working on approach anxiety. i listened to david deangelo's audiotape and video course entitled approaching women which is definitely the best product ever to help you get a handle on approaching.
my first approach was on a bus and i had to do an opinion opener, i got a conversation going and went for # close which the girl gave me but i felt that it wasn't a quality # so i never called her( this was like 3 weeks ago.) the girl looked like a 7 but for me she was more like a 6 to me personally just cause she had weird shaped lips although she had a regular bod.
okay so let me just say for those out there dealing with approach anxiety that doing this first approach at the bus was nerve wrecking as hell, i went through the whole spectrum of fear reactions: sweating, nervousness and jump out the bus' window anxiety; but i went for it anyway and I didn't die! so yeah go and do it; what helped me was that i realized that i wanted to do at least 30 approaches just to work on approaching anxiety before actually trying to get a conversation or a number or a lay.
Second approach was again in the bus like 3 days after above described, i sat behind this really cute girl and after 5 minutes of me trying to find my balls, i commented to her on these high school kids that were being really loud and obnoxious and she smiled and we started talking and i asked if i could sit with her and we kept talking throughout the bus ride. What did we talk about? anything that came to my mind, and yes there were awkward silences that i wanted to fill. So she told me about herself, turns out she had a kid, was engaged and that was it, especially since i had no idea what i was doing, i still remember she was extremely cute and to my taste, too bad i haven't seen her in the bus ride again.
Third approach was on a mall.. i met with a wing man that i met through meetup.com and I decided to play a game where we had to approach and talk to any girl the other guy pointed to (like Project Go from simplepickup-look it up). this approach like the 2 above was nerve wrecking as hell, but i finally did it and this beautiful beautiful Brazilian girl( she was 20) was really receptive. I went with a direct approach: told her that i saw her and though she was cute and that i thought i should talk to her, she smiled and after i sat down i actually told her "okay now i dont know what to say" and she said: "how about u give me ur name" so she told me her story afterward, she was on 2 week family vacation from brazil and was staying in NY, she told me she wasn't allowed into clubs so that turned me off and after her mom and sister came, i just left which was really awkward and stuff but that does not matter.
So guys after this 3 approach i realized that nothing bad had actually happened to me, i realized i could approach and meet new people, whether i would get laid or not did not matter cause i was triumphant in this new found ability that i didnt have before. So i challenge you gutless chickens(like myself) to go and approach and realize that there is nothing to worry about.
fuck the page went blank so i lost like 2 paragraphs on club anecdotes. i had copied just in case but not often enough. so I'll leave that for another time.
Anyway finally there's 2 approaches that i must mention. one was while waiting for the train to NY; I saw this beautiful beautiful girl(around 23), by this time i was a bit more adept to approaching but she was so cute that i held off like 9 minutes until the train was announced, so after everyone at the train station moved to the spot where we would await the train for like 3 more minutes(train line i guess) i finally approached- now let me give u guys a tip that has worked for me, when i take more than 1 minute to approach, instead of coming up with a regular line that she would know took me like 7 minutes to have the guts to tell her, i change the tables around by saying: "Excuse me, are you shy? cause I've been standing here for like 10 minutes and you haven't talked to me yet, and i noticed you looking at me so i just wanted to let you know that its okay to talk to me" she laughed when i told her that and said " oh no i haven't been looking at you at all" to which i replied "its okay i was just teasing ( on hindsight i should have upped the tension. ) but anyways we started talking, we had a lot in common so conversation was not a problem, but i was reading at the moment magic bullets so i was trying to input some of it techniques like nags and diqualifiers; but i dont think i was able to just cause i was so excited about this girl but i did give a lot of DHV (i told her i was a premed student and nursing major and she was a nursing major as well) anyways i got her # and she left. I texted her the next day with a simple whats up after like 15 minutes waiting for an answer i wrote: "You must be having breast surgery so i'll leave u a message saying that you impressed me caused u seemed smart but u are not my type cause u seem like a Nice girl so i would be a bad influence on you" she answered straight away saying she was working, she also texted me about meeting up, but i stupidly went into a NY story trying to show more HV but i fucked it up somehow cause she did not answer back. I probably came off as too cocky.
finally today this HB9 came into my bus ( yes i take the bus twice daily so its easy to meet people there) my seat was a long one for like 3 people at the front and i was the only one so she sat next to me, her body language was like negative, turned away and looking away like on purpose. but after like 2 minutes i opened with the old line of : "excuse me are you shy cause i've been here for like 2 minutes ...) and she kind of smiled but did not attempt to establish conversation. I then actually purposefully bumped into her( lightly people) as the bus made a stop ad she looked at me like 'what the fuck' and the 2 older women in front of us laughed and i I just said: "sorry i had to do something to get ur attention", then i told the same thing aloud to the 2 women in front of us that I did it to get her attention and they laughed and i was like 'wouldn't we make a hot couple?' talking to the two women in front and they laughed and the HB9 said: " oh i dont think my boyfriend would like that" to which i replied" thats okay my girlfriend wouldnt like that either" so anyways this girl opened up to me and we started talking and laughing but i didnt try anything just cause she told me she was living with her boyfriend( i did offer an orgy lol)
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