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What's up guys?
Tonight I solo sarged for the first time in two or three weeks. First bar I went to I froze up mainly because there was a live band and then I got in my head too much. So I left there after a few minutes and went to a different bar and while I was in my car turned some music up and had a self motivational talk about opening sets and making some progress tonight.
I walk in and the place wasn't that busy but I go to the buy and get a gin and tonic and while I am standing there I notice a HB8 sitting next to a couple, board out of her mind directly to my left. So I get my drink and act like I am walking somewhere and do the jealous girlfriend opener. Worked like a charm got her talking. I then go to C's vs U's which works well because it makes her self-conscious and I can show value. I then move to crack girl story. Went well for the most part she is laughing and having fun. I run the cube on her and about mid way through her friend (male) shows up next to me but doesn't say a word to either me or her and begins playing with his phone. I ask part way through if that is her friend and she confirms so. After the cube, she says 90% of it is true. She said she had 100 flowers and she said that for her birthday party like 75 people show up and I told her to stop bragging and asked if she need some carrots for that high horse of hers? Got a laugh. Run from that to transitioning to color theory which she already knew about and after that I froze. I didn't know where to go from there. I was running light kino all the way through on her shoulder and pushing her away but I just kinda lost focus on what I should have done next. I said well I am gonna go, she stuck her hand out and we exchanged names. I am sure I could have got a #close if I would have pulled the trigger. I need to stop being afraid of rejection.
I know one of my sticky points is the fact I am very analytical and logical and I feel the need for things to go in order, even tho I know that is very rarely ever going to happen. While in my car towards home I was analyzing everything and I believe I should have done some kind of role playing game like lets get married or you can be my 12th wife. But maybe I should have had her introduce me to her friend(s). I don't know. Let me know what you guys think. Go to qualify? Isolate from the friends? I am very curious. I wanna get good at this!
I used to have the same problem, and still (sometimes) encounter it now. I approach great, build awesome rapport and then just mess up the closing. Basically if you're in a club and you've built rapport just make an excuse to isolate. The girl will already be in an excited and open state of mind. Just say something like "man it's loud in here! let's go outside for a bit". Before she even replies just hold her hand (which she shouldn't have a problem with if you were kino-escalating properly) and pull her along behind you, acting like you've already assumed that she's gonna follow you. After you're outside alone with her, ill leave the rest upto you man
good luck
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