So in a nutshell: Met a cute girl on an online site about 3 weeks ago, went back on forth over email, she gave me her number, we spoke, and met up last Thursday. She is in her early thirties, I am in my mid thirties. We met a bar and were there for about 3 hours, closed the place down. Walked her to her car, a kiss on the lips, went home. She then went away for a few days with some friends. Texted her right after making sure she got home ok and made a joke. She texted back, "Thanks for tonight, had a great time. Would def like to get together when I get back."

Since she has been back we have been Texting back and forth everyday and made plans yesterday for Friday to meet up. I gave her the, "let me know what your schedule is like question." Today we texted back and forth, just joking around (her planning to wear an 80's outfit, etc). Just good banter.

When I got home tonight, got a text from her that she forgot that she had plans with some friends on Friday and suggested that we do brunch on Sunday. Definitely seemed a bit flaky. So I sent her back a text and decided just to go for it (Not sure if this was the right thing to do and said, "that works, i'm on my way home, you up for a quick bite to eat?" I just wanted to put her to the test to see how she would react and would assume not all guys would do this, so I was hoping to stand out.

Well, of course I got the reply of, " Sorry, I have plans."

So I responded, "No problem, the lets def do Sunday." After I sent that I did not get a response (Not sure I should expect one).

So help this poor bastard out and let me know what you think of the situation? Also, what is my next move? Obviously no communication with her tonight, but should I now put it all on her to get back to me and if not just move on? Thanks

Hmm sounds like she's probably made her mind up about you already...Whatever that is all you can do is increase her buying temperature, just text and be normal like you have. Your taking it too seriously now lol. If she cancels on Sunday then well you know where her minds at! If not then enjoy the time with her.

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Seems like in your particular situation, you've made yourself too available. Remember, you are the prize!

Next time this comes around, instead of agreeing to her plan, say something like, "Oooh, that day's no good for me. But you know, I've got a few free hours on thursday and saturday. Which one works for you?"

This implies 4 things: you do have a life, you're not willing to rearrange your whole day for her because she has not earned that, you can lead the interaction, and that you do still want to meet with her. Odds are she will take you up on one of YOUR suggested days and she won't flake out. If she can't do either of those days and does not suggest another day, she is not interested.

Hope this helps!

-Ruggedized

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Thanks for the advice. So what would you recommend I text her? Also, should I just not do anything today just to get her to think?

If you text her, start the conversation with a fascinating story. Something like, "Omg, I had to tell someone about this! So I was on my lunch break...." and you give an interesting story. This is kind of like the approach in real life where you have an excuse to talk to her. Rules of thumb when it comes to texting; always end in a question unless you're saying goodbye, always be the one to end the conversation, always move towards a day 2, and always take more time to respond than her. Hope this helps

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-A bad wingman puts the ass in assistance; a good wingman helps build the fort in comfort.
-You can't say overreact without saying ovary.

I would echo that you are making yourself too available and have a bit of oneitis. Get out there, you're newly divorced so study this stuff as much as you can and try to meet as many women as possible. Your attitude should be, there are so many women and so little time to meet them. Your ego may be a bit out of whack after going through a divorce, so you need to work on your inner-self as well. The last thing you want is a rebound relationship or even worse rebound marriage. Lastly,look up the concept of giving her the gift of missing you, it is applicable in your particular situation.