Alright, I know some people are like laughing at me right now and saying, "Seriously you're getting that worked up about this?" And my answer is yes. I've achieved two milestones tonight, but first let me start out by saying this is the first official date I've set up in my life, I've had a couple near f-closes prior to this. I think one of my real sticking points seems to be properly escalating and LMR. But we'll talk about this later in the post.

Now on to the important. The two milestones I achieved tonight were:

1.) Setting up a date on purpose with the other party fully knowing of the event and wishing to attend.

2.) Purposeful and direct sexual escalation. And not just that, persevering and trying multiple times despite resistance to the fact.

Now, I made one huge mistake that I'm only now thinking of a proper way of fixing the damage. I basically lied to her about where I went to school, she went to the high school that I lied and said I went to, and she was the age that I lied and said I was. But I held out and tried to direct questions away from it. I'm thinking the only way to get myself out of the situation of lying is by saying that I never like to tell everything about myself on a first date. Though it was far from necessary to lie. I'm a little lacking in the area of damage control as you all might know. But the lie wasn't intentional it just kind of happened.

Anyways, let's start with the flow of the interaction that occurred this evening. I basically set up the date on Monday afternoon when she called me after she got out of a friends funeral. We joked a bit etc. and then I got straight to the point and set up the date after about 5 minutes of talking. I got off the phone note expecting much, or that she would even follow through, though I could tell she was slightly interested.

Fast forward to Thursday (date night), and I called around 5 pm to see if she was still down to go out tonight. She texted back and say yeah I'm down. At this point I was just excited that I actually got some follow through. But I chilled out and didn't get too excited. So another key issue I had that night was my plans. I personally didn't care for any movie that was out, but I personally did not want to go all the way out to her town to see a movie at a movie theater. I knew I wanted to try something, so I picked a movie theater that I knew would be quiet and isolated. I originally choose to see 21 and over, but that theater was jam packed full of people. I knew what I was going to try and do. So I said let's skip this one and go to the next one.

So I'm trying to get us in the back of a quiet movie theater we can play in. I have no quorums about admitting that. But every movie we would sneak into would have other people and or would end after like 15-20 minutes. So after awhile of bouncing about we finally decided on a movie. We went to see Oz. Which was a great movie, I liked it. Anyway, we went to that one, but it wasn't exactly the quiet movie I expected. So I made the best of the situation and sat in the back. And here is where I tried to escalate the situation, and where I think it might've went sour.

Prior to going into this specific movie, I had spent about the first 50 minutes solely on making quick witted sexual innuendos to let her know I was a sexual guy. She was very receptive and would playfully hit me. So it was cool. But finally we got to the Oz, and sat in the far back where I could at least try to kiss her. She kept asking me questions about my high school and past, and I kept having to lie, which is never a good thing and quite frankly don't know why I got myself in that dumb situation in the first place. Anyway, I just kept redirecting her questions about from it, and kept trying to escalate.

The first true escalation I made is when she was talking about the actress Zoe Saldana and Mila Kunis. Apparently in some movie that I'm unaware of, Mila Kunis was having oral sex with Zoe Saldana. She told me that it should've been the other way around that Mila Kunis should've been eating out Zoe Saldana. I was turned on by this decided to take a dip. I have never really tried to sexual escalate in public before, but I figured fuck it, if this doesn't work I'll just go try to get too more girls to replace this one. So I bent over into her ear, expecting for her to shout or get flustered, and nothing quite that drastic happened. I said something along the lines of, *Whispers in sexy voice* "I know you can't eat Zoe Saldana tonight, but this can be your night." And then she just pushes me away a bit and says "boy watch the movie."

So I sit a little bit nervous, but still determined to try. Btw, I was scared shitless just to let you guys know, but I just kept going anyway. So the next time passed after a couple of minutes. I made the decision that I would not end this night how I've ended every other night on record, which is doing nothing. I decided to try and k-close. So I go in for the cheek first with the intention of eventually going to the mouth. I'm kissing and making my way around and eventually I get close to the mouth but she deflects away.

After another period of conversation and talking I try to kiss her again. I did this about 5 times, and tried to kiss at least like 20 times, before the following happened below.

Clearly I didn't build the right rapport, but she told me something next that I don't quite know if it was a send off or she actually set the imperative standard. She told me, "I don't kiss on the first date". Then she goes on this slight tangent about how I was a typical guy, and why I felt it was necessary to kiss on the first date. And then I responded "sorry, I couldn't control myself I'm thinking of you on the back of those horses, maybe this can be me". (This statement came from an earlier innuendo I had made when she was talking about horse back riding. She said her legs were spread apart and felt soar, and that it was big, and I said "how big".) So after making a back reference to the horse comment she replied, "really". And that's when I could tell that something was a little had went a little bad. She went back on her typical guy things etc. But I didn't pay too much mind to it.

Not being deterred I just tried kissing her mid-sentence. This was my last attempted k-close in the theater. And then the movie end a few minutes later. I walked her out to her car like any gentleman would and sent her off. We talked about etc. Of course not all before I could attempt one last k-close. Needless to say it didn't happen. But it was fun being so persistent.

Overall a couple of things I noticed. The first of which is don't lie, I just need to try and deflect questions away from myself. I personally don't like telling someone everything about myself on the first date. Secondly I need to work a little on my conversational and mid-game skills. They weren't bad, they have certainly improved to the point where I can have a normal conversation at ease, but the ability to get that to lead to sex is sort've limited at this point. Perhaps build and establish comfort a bit better. Hmmm... I don't know what do you guys think about it? I personally don't think I did bad for my first date even if nothing happens with this girl ever again.

I mean some guys might've been angry about buying her a ticket, but I personally thought that would be an asshole move to make her drive 20 miles away from her house and have to pay for both gas and her ticket. So I was kind and did by the tickets as a sign of respect. Another thing I forgot to mention is that she did say that she was looking forward to a second date, and told me to name the time and the place. So I potentially didn't mess this up? I wanted to personally go some place where there aren't a lot of people so that I can try to get to know her and of course escalate. She did text me 50 minutes after that she had a great night. I replied about an hour later that next night was going to be even more amazing. Which I don't know if it was a mistake, but I decided to do it to spark and gauge her interest.

At any rate, let me know what you all think I should've done or could've done better so that when I set up my next date with her or someone else it can go a bit better. Overall though, I thought it was a great start for my first "official" date ever. I'll keep you all abreast of the situation.

Dickey

I tried to highlight and underline some certain parts to make the long story a bit easier to read.

Sorry I didn't recognize that this was in the wrong section. Mods could you please relocate this post to the day 2 section. Thank you in advanced.