I’m kind of new here and never really post on this forum, but I’m trying to change that and thought I could get some advice on a girl that I met the other night. I’m hardly a newbie but I’ve become really rusty recently and it feels like I’ve forgotten everything.

I was talking to a 29 year old HB9 (Im 24) at my favourite bar 2 nights ago, she immediately complemented me on how I hold myself and I spent the rest of night talking and dancing with her. I DHV’d with some life stories, most of my success comes from relying on my travel stories and being a reasonably successful hip-hop artist.

My friend told me she had a boyfriend, I just came out and asked her if she didn to which she replied it’s complicated. I said ok and then looked her in the eyes and gave her a quick innocent enough kiss on the lips. I’m honestly not sure why, it just seemed the right thing to do. After that we just kept dancing.

At the end of the night we exchanged numbers and I gave her my card. A friend of mine gave me and her a lift home, he dropped her off first and I gave her another quick kiss on the lips and jumped back in the car. I could tell that she wanted to kiss for longer but I pulled away, I felt guilty that she had a boyfriend.

20 minutes later when I got home I got a message saying “I thought u wer just kidding about ur word smith status…intriguing” I assume she Googled me when she got home. I replied with “Im not one to kid, trust me you only know about 10% of my intrigue.”
She replied the next day asking if I had a hangover or something, I replied with the usual stuff and then she asked if I wanted to grab a coffee. I organised to get a coffee on Friday ie today.

We grabbed a coffee and she suggested a walk to the nearest park. After a while of talking she brought up her boyfriend and I used the straw man technique very quickly by saying something like, it must be so nice having a partner that understands you and takes care of your every need. She pretty much tore him down immediately and told me she has wanted to break up with him for a while but just hasn’t had the nerves to do it. I just replied with telling her to do what’s best for her.
As the conversation progressed I felt like there was a moment I could have kissed her but there were people around so I didn’t, I think that was a mistake.

I walked her back to her car and kissed her goodbye, this time I used a little more lip and I could tell she wanted to keep going but I pulled away again. She was leaving town for the weekend, I asked when she would be back and she said Monday, me being the chump I am said oh I’ll see you on Monday then and then we said bye and went our separate ways.

She’ll be out of town for the next few days and now I’m not sure what to do. I would appreciate if you guys could point out any mistakes you think I did, or give me advice on what you think I should have done.

Cheers

Looks like you did good. I especially like the fact that you used the strawman technique. It's also good that you pulled away on the kiss, although I wouldn't kiss unless I was going to f-close for sure.

Also, if it isn't obvious to you yet, she's really into you. You can definitely f-close if you wanted to. You also know that it wasn't great that you told her you'd see her on monday, but hey, the way things are going, it's definitely not a big deal.

Thanks xXcruxXx, I think sometimes you just need someone elses perspective. I havnt spoken to her all weekend and I'm still not sure how to arrange another meet up. I'll figure it out I guess..